Hi my name is shrishty

[Raat jaga tara]

Hello everyone...so i am muslim..i pray namaz fajr tahajjud and 5 times mostly...i loved a person 2015..i loved him blindly...unconditionally..at one point i forgot who i was..i loved him to death..when he would be with me i wouls not see anyone..i was blind for him..he left me on oct 2016...i wss with him for 2 yrs...i was broken...i was dead from inside..i cried always to Allah..to have him back..he left me for someone else..he insulted me ..he made that girl he was with insult me..but still i tried to get him back because i loved him..i helped him..i sold my jewellery. To help him..i was broke but still would take loan to help him..he would take my help but still be with rhat girl..i would cry all the time till i became mentally in deep depression...i cried to Allah..i fasted for him...if he was sick i would cry to Allah....i never wanted bad for him..i tolerated all the insults he and that girl did...i tolerated thinking maybe be Allah would bring him back..he came back on end of sept..he was broke i helped him..i didnt know he would come back to use me....i helped him when he had nothing..i gave him food even when he was homeless..then he left me again for the same girl..will Allah ever make him realize what he did to me....he made me cry till i wanted to commit suicide....i would see his pictures with that girl and cry soo loud...Allah sees everything..will Allah ever make him repent to what he did...how can i get away from this depression...does Allah punish those who cheat on someone like me whp loves unconditionally..

 

[talibilm]

Sister

Dear Sister,

Remember when we forget the orders and advices of Allah we fall in great tribulations .

Allah has warned us NOT TO LOVE anything anyone more than Allah and his Prophet :saws: . Even ever our own kids MUST be loved only next to Allah and his Prophet. If you have done that you would not have been in such a situation you are in.

The more we love something, the more grief when it gets damaged or lost. For example, I feel most if my most beloved T-shirt gets stained and do not worry much if the one i do not like much gets stained.


These EXTREME LOVE, HATE OR GETTING BORED from life are the tricks of our ENEMY IBLIS THE SHAITAN



20:117 ''So We said, "O Adam, indeed this is an enemy to you and to your wife. Then let him not remove you from Paradise so you would suffer.''


36:60 '' Did I not enjoin upon you, O children of Adam, that you not worship Satan - [for] indeed, he is to you a clear enemy - ''
Did I not enjoin upon you, O children of Adam, that you not worship Satan - [for] indeed, he is to you a clear enemy -Did I not enjoin upon you, O children of Adam, that you not worship Satan - [for] indeed, he is to you a clear enemy -

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Loving something too much. and abiding to all its orders is like a worshiping of it and people worshipped shaitan in the form of jinn and idols

 

[Raat jaga tara]

It is so true there is noone we love the most than Allah..He is indeed the greatest...does Allah see those who hurt others..and chest others..he gave me a lot of fake promises...but left me ..kicked me like a tissue paper..used me like dirt...does Allah make these people realize and repent for what they have done...

 

[Zzz_]

Hate to kick you while you are down but I think you need to hear this.

You blindly loved someone and was in a haram relationship with him for a year. All that ebadah you did was asking Allah to give back the haram He took away from you. Every hurt was a lesson for you to learn and yet you kept going deeper into that rabbit hole. Rather then ask whether Allah will make him realize the pain he caused you, isn't it time you realize the haram you were involved in and are not willing to let go and thus causing yourself the pain?

Allah says, “And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much” [al-Shoora 42:30].

I think you need to step back and reflect what is our purpose here in life and what good could come out of this haram relationship you want back so badly. Isn't it time to let go and try to focus on yourself and your deen and direct all that ebadaah for some halal purpose?

the following thread will inshallah help in getting over this relationship:
How to get through the pain from a pre-marital relationship

 

[Supernova]

Hate to kick you while you are down but I think you need to hear this.

You blindly loved someone and was in a haram relationship with him for a year. All that ebadah you did was asking Allah to give back the haram He took away from you. Every hurt was a lesson for you to learn and yet you kept going deeper into that rabbit hole. Rather then ask whether Allah will make him realize the pain he caused you, isn't it time you realize the haram you were involved in and are not willing to let go and thus causing yourself the pain?

Allah says,“And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much” [al-Shoora 42:30].

I think you need to step back and reflect what is our purpose here in life and what good could come out of this haram relationship you want back so badly. Isn't it time to let go and try to focus on yourself and your deen and direct all that ebadaah for some halal purpose?

the following thread will inshallah help in getting over this relationship:
How to get through the pain from a pre-marital relationship

I agree with Panda here

 

[talibilm]

Sister,

Just realised that like the Brother says, is it a Haram relationship too ? If So , the verse from your Creator is there for you. But remember NEVER is TOO Late to repent and turn to Allah except the last moments of Life So Repent to Our Lord , Allah the Creator who designed you (mm to mm ) and he is the one MOST LOVING & FORGIVING even many times more than our own mother and believe Allah would bring you out of your sorrow and give better than what you lost (as seen in verses & Hadith) PROVIDED you return to him like this

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30. Thus have We sent you (O Muhammad SAW) to a community before whom other communities have passed away, in order that you might recite unto them what We have inspired to you, while they disbelieve in the Most Beneficient (Allâh) Say: "He is my Lord! Lâ ilâha illâ Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He)! In Him is my trust, and to Him will be my return with repentance."

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[Raat jaga tara]

I agree with Panda here

Thank you..i do pray namaz and fast also..i have realized and repented to Allah several times to forgive me..i have realized i was loving the wrong person all this time and without the consent of Allah..thank you brother for those really kind words to help me come out of my pain and agony ..but the truth cannot be hidden that i loved this person blindly and he proved me i wss blind..i do ask Allah for a better living for me..but also i have a concern..Does Allah punish people like this for what they did??Does Allah make them realize what he did was not right??

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Sister,

Just realised that like the Brother says, is it a Haram relationship too ? If So , the verse from your Creator is there for you. But remember NEVER is TOO Late to repent and turn to Allah except the last moments of Life So Repent to Our Lord , Allah the Creator who designed you (mm to mm ) and he is the one MOST LOVING & FORGIVING even many times more than our own mother and believe Allah would bring you out of your sorrow and give better than what you lost (as seen in verses & Hadith) PROVIDED you return to him like this

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I repent every single day brother ...and pray to him by tahajuud that he forgives me and gives me a better living...i thank Him for taking me out of tbis awful relationship where i cried all the time and begged the person not to leave me..i would tolerate all his tantrums....he caused me a lot of pain but i was soo blind i loved him immensly and didnt want to leave him....last one year i was in a lot of pain..i waited for him..with much pain....and thought maybe Allah will give him back to.me and make him return to me but now i have realized this was not right...Allah made me realize i loved the wrong person with the right intentions...i gave my every thing and sacrificed every thing for the wrong perso n.

 

[talibilm]

Sister , Yes taubatun Nasuha (sincere repentance) with its requisites is the correct way to our Creator Lord.

Those who miss their akirah or destroy their akirah will regret 100 times more than you, more than you did in your most sad situation that you had passed through.

Those were sins , so exposing your sins is more sinful in Islam as seen from our Books so we should Pray to Allah Ar Rahmaan to heal the wounds that his believers go through unknowingly or knowingly . Ameen.

I suggest you to read and understand the message of your Creator, The Glorious Quran more profoundly particularly the verse which Allah the Creator who knows the best, compares with love and happiness of this life with and also hadith , and here are some hadith that even some learned people sometimes overlook.

https://www.ummah.com/forum/forum/i...erlooked-Hadiths-amp-Verses-and-their-Wisdom=