How does one get a woman if he's alone?
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...No one can ever feel alone if he/she has Allah swt The Most Merciful.
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I can't get married because of my sickness. It's lonely but I am coping. A good way to keep your enthusiasm up is to write letters to Allah talking about your future wife or wives or however it works in Jannah firdous inshallah. I think the best compliment one can give ones future spouse is praising her beauty to Allah before you have evens met her mashallah. So write something to Allah about your future wife and when you are married show her the letters inshallah. It really helps me, I hope it helps you too inshallah.
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I'm not a Muslim, but in general, these may be some useful pointers.
Having "game" and being able to romance a woman is not a good starting point in a religious setting. There are some other starting points that can give you a solid starting point though. Just as a figure of speech, let's say these things give you "points." They get you noticed in a positive way.
If you don't have parents, you do miss out on some opportunities for getting points. But if you have some other relatives, siblings and maybe some younger relatives, having visibly good relationships with them gets you points. Having good respectful interactions with older people, seeking knowledge from them, and having warm interactions with them gets you major points. These things help you get noticed. Forming close friendships with other men in your masjid helps get you points, sometimes indirectly. Just on its own thougn, it shows you can network for yourself and sustain relationships. If you're quite isolated in general, women are less likely to want to be the only person you know very well.
One other general guideline- from what I hear, and this may need further confirmation from the women- it seems that women, in general, are significantly more likely than men to rely heavily on the opinions of their female friends when assessing the potential of a man. Men don't seem to do that as much, at least not to begin with, they just have interest or they don't and then they find out what other people think of her. Women tend to find out about that first and then decide if they're into you- not always, but that is more likely from what I hear.
So as you're getting to know people at your masjid, try to fit everyone into your social network somewhere. Even if it's indirect, even if it's someone who simply sees you around other people, that can work out. One thing leads to another, one person leads to another, and it's important to have positive things going on and get those points.
Let people know you're available and looking, and just count on the women to pass along their honest opinion of you to whoever they know. That will happen without any effort on your part, just make sure their honest opinion of you is solid.
Having "game" and being able to romance a woman is not a good starting point in a religious setting. There are some other starting points that can give you a solid starting point though. Just as a figure of speech, let's say these things give you "points." They get you noticed in a positive way.
If you don't have parents, you do miss out on some opportunities for getting points. But if you have some other relatives, siblings and maybe some younger relatives, having visibly good relationships with them gets you points. Having good respectful interactions with older people, seeking knowledge from them, and having warm interactions with them gets you major points. These things help you get noticed. Forming close friendships with other men in your masjid helps get you points, sometimes indirectly. Just on its own thougn, it shows you can network for yourself and sustain relationships. If you're quite isolated in general, women are less likely to want to be the only person you know very well.
One other general guideline- from what I hear, and this may need further confirmation from the women- it seems that women, in general, are significantly more likely than men to rely heavily on the opinions of their female friends when assessing the potential of a man. Men don't seem to do that as much, at least not to begin with, they just have interest or they don't and then they find out what other people think of her. Women tend to find out about that first and then decide if they're into you- not always, but that is more likely from what I hear.
So as you're getting to know people at your masjid, try to fit everyone into your social network somewhere. Even if it's indirect, even if it's someone who simply sees you around other people, that can work out. One thing leads to another, one person leads to another, and it's important to have positive things going on and get those points.
Let people know you're available and looking, and just count on the women to pass along their honest opinion of you to whoever they know. That will happen without any effort on your part, just make sure their honest opinion of you is solid.