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Marina-Aisha

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My salat is bad I pray late most the time sometimes I even miss it completely I know it's major sin to miss it but I can't seem get my ass up to do it. I think there's something wrong with me, is my heart hard and black is that why I can't get up? I feel ashamed but still lazy in it...what can I do?
 
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Try your very best to get into the habit of praying 5 times a day on time. This is one of our obligations as a Muslim. Allah SWT has said in the Quran:

حَافِظُوا عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ وَالصَّلَاةِ الْوُسْطَىٰ وَقُومُوا لِلَّهِ قَانِتِينَ
"Maintain with care the [obligatory] prayers and [in particular] the middle prayer and stand before Allah , devoutly obedient."
[Surah Al-baqarah Verse 238]

The Salat being an important obligation comes with it's rewards as well for those who fulfil this duty:

Ibn Mas`ud (radiallahu anh) reported: I asked the Messenger of Allah (salallahu alayhi wasalam): "Which act is the best?'' He (SAW) said, "As-Salat at their fixed times.'' I asked, "What next?'' He (SAW) said, "Being dutiful to parents.'' I asked, "What next?'' He (SAW) said, "Striving (Jihad) in the way of Allah.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

In fact Salat is so important that it actually differentiates us between the Kuffar:

Jabir (radiallahu anh) reported: The Messenger of Allah (salallahu alayhi wa salam) said, "Between a man and kufr (disbelief and paganism) is the abandonment of Salat (prayer).''

[Muslim].

Therefore it is a MUST that you try your very best to establish the 5 daily prayers at their appropriate times. If you are having trouble praying on time, there are a multitude of apps which give you the athan (for each salat) and thus remind you when you have to pray.

It's good that you feel ashamed, Because it shows a form of regret. Do remember that Allah SWT is the most merciful and will forgive you if you repent to him sincerely and try your very best to change this habit, Insha'Allah.
 
Marina-Aisha said:
My salat is bad I pray late most the time sometimes I even miss it completely I know it's major sin to miss it but I can't seem get my ass up to do it. I think there's something wrong with me, is my heart hard and black is that why I can't get up? I feel ashamed but still lazy in it...what can I do?
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its a good thing that you do feel ashamed like the brother said above, its a sign still do have emaan and regret in your heart for sinning, i would be more worried if you didn't feel any regret or shame by this.

i have off and on moments with the exact thing, so for months i will be great praying on time or within the 1st hour, not missing any prayer, it was at the times when my emaan was sky high and i completely and utterly loved my deen & Allah and was so happy (very rare for me LOL) and then when i became more lazy like in your instance i noticed my connection with Allah had deteriorated, i started to feel less happy being a muslim, questioning wether i was being extreme wearing a niqab, i would wait until i finished watching my shows/films to pray, leaving it till the last minute and rushing.

so as advice to myself first and foremost we should strengthen our connection with Allah, our love of Allah & His deen, you know get back down the basics go why we are muslims, what is prayer for, what is our purpose, if we look back to the beginning of Islam, the laws were not established first, but faith was established first, who Allah was, was presented to us, why we was created, then the penalty, punishments for leaving these things behind came out.

so basically get to know Allah all over again, fall back in love with Allah, remind yourself of Allah's mercy & love for us, then in sha Allah you will slowly begin to feel that connection again and want to pray on time, you won't feel lazy towards things that Allah loves, but obviously do your absolute best to still do your 5 a day, because once you let go of prayer, it will get worse and it will take everything out of you to get back up, and trust me sis you don't want to go down that road :)

dear sis your not alone, I'm sure there are many more of us who at times feel this way, don't feel to down where you feel as though you can't set this right, as the door to Allahs repentance is always open until death, do not let this slip through your hands without using it :)
 
How to strengthen my connection to Allah what can I do? Rememberance of Allah?
 
Marina-Aisha said:
How to strengthen my connection to Allah what can I do? Rememberance of Allah?
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Remember Allah,
Remember your purpose
Remember the blessings Allah has bestowed upon you
Memorize Quran
Learn about Jannah
Learn about prayer
Remember death
Remember all the sins you have done and how desperate you want Allah to forgive you :)
 
While you're at it, read the Qur'an once a day, even if its just one verse (make sure you read the English translation).
 
I think everyone struggles with this. I am approaching 50 and for most of my life I have struggled with it and I still struggle though not as bad.

How do I accomplish the 5 daily prayers?

There is no secret formula apart from finding every reason to do it..

I have told this story several times cause it worked for me few years after I turned 40. I was taken to a house filled with members of the tableeq. So many conversations going on, interesting stuff and when it was time for me to leave, someone came to me and said "If someone calls you in the morning and asks what you are doing, tell him you are waiting for Zuhr, and if they call after Zuhr and asks what you are doing, say you are waiting for 'Asr, and if he calls you after 'Asr asking what you are doing, tell him you are waiting for Maghrib and after Maghrib, say you are waiting for 'Isya... . My mouth thanked him so as not to appear rude but my mind was thinking what was that all about? I am not going to be telling anyone that!

But, by the time I arrived home, my mindset had changed. It went from always wondering along the time zone and suddenly finding myself well into a particular fard and get all flustered or unprepared to looking forward to the next fard. So it I became more aware of the coming fard and found that I started planning when and where I would do it.

The thing is, it is a discipline you must maintain. Satan will be hard at work to break it.

It has been many years now. There will be misses, but I tell myself to not sleep the night until I have made up for the day.

Eventually I have found it to be not so hard.. laziness will always be there and although after Isya it is such a relief, done for the day! But then it starts again tomorrow, and for the rest of my life.... but completing each prayer within its alloted time, looking back is such an accomplishment. The moment has gone. How was it filled? And I also admit to myself, the days I didn't perform my salah regularly is just an act of defiance on my part. I feel I am still at times defiant, but I drag my defiant a$$ to the prayer mat. And I catch my defiant @ss allowing the mind to be somewhere else... but that is a different story...

Look forward to it. Only way.

:peace:


:peace:
 
Marina-Aisha said:
How to strengthen my connection to Allah what can I do? Rememberance of Allah?
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Bismillah walhamdulillah wa salaatu wa salaam ala Rasulillah;
Salaamu aleykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu;

Baraakallahu feek to those who have posted advice - may you all be granted steadfastness in the deen, and serenity in the Hereafter. amin.

This is advice for myself first (actually this is similar that what I floated through my mind this-morning because of the challenge I faced getting up today)

Sometimes it helps to get creative with advice. For example; how much motivation do you think you muster if you put yourself in the mindset that Malik al-maut is waiting for you to miss just one prayer. Not only that, imagine he was watching a clock to check to see if you had made wudu and were on time for an early prayer.

I've also been given this advice:
To help improve focus in salaah perhaps imagine that the next salaah is your last. The one where Allah subhanahu wa Ta'ala is watching and will determine your fate on the quality of the salaah.

Would you then get up and make it count?

Also, reducing as many of the haraam things in one's life goes a long way to purifying one's self.

Allahu alem
 

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