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I started praying last Ramadan and have not stopped since. I now pray five times a day. I'm sure it rubbed of on my husband cos he started praying about a week ago. Now I just need to get my children to pray, but i'ts quite difficult. I dont want to force them but what advice can you give me regarding this? They are 13 years old girls. One of them prays very occasionally with me, but when she needs to do wudu again she's too lazy. The other one is even less interested. I know its my fault for not praying myself when they were much younger so that they would have grown up with it but whats done is done. I hope someone can give me advice for the future.
Jazakallah.
 
Also the one who occasionally prays wears hijab but the other one doesnt and I'm trying to persuade her. Any advice?
 
Praise be to Allaah.
Abu Dawood (459) and Ahmad (6650) narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them if they do not pray when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (247).

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in al-Mughni (1/357):

This telling and discipline is prescribed in the case of children in order to train them to pray, so that they will be used to it and it will become their habit, and they will not forsake it when they reach puberty. End quote.

Al-Subki said:

The guardian must tell the child to pray when he is seven years old and smack him if he does not do so when he is 10.

We think we should enjoin what is not obligatory and smack for failing to do that which is not obligatory. We smack animals for disciplinary purposes, so what about children? That is in the child's interests, and so that he will get used to praying before he reaches puberty. End quote.

Fataawa al-Subki, 1/379

So boys and girls are to be told to pray when they are seven years old and are to be smacked if they do not pray when they reach the age of 10. Similarly they are to be told to fast Ramadan and should be encouraged to do good things, such as reading Qur’aan, offering supererogatory prayers, Hajj and ‘umrah, and reciting a lot of tasbeeh, tahleel, takbeer and tahmeed, and they should be prevented from committing all kinds of sin. ​

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

Take care of the members of your household and do not neglect them, O slave of Allaah. You have to strive hard in their best interests, and tell your sons and daughters to pray at the age of seven, and smack them if they do not do so when they are 10, a light smack that will help them to obey Allaah and make them get used to offering prayers on time, so that they will adhere properly to the religion of Allaah and know the truth, as is narrated in saheeh reports from the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him). End quote.

Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz (6/46).

It should also be noted that disciplining a child should not be done only for neglecting to pray; rather it should also be done if he is careless about the conditions, essential parts and obligatory duties of prayer. A child may pray, but he combines prayers, or he prays without wudoo’, or he does not pray properly. So he must be taught everything about it, and we should make sure that he is aware of its obligatory duties, essential parts and conditions, then if he neglects any of these things, we must advise him and teach him time after time, then if he persists he may be disciplined by means of smacking until he prays properly.

And Allaah knows best.
 
From personal experience I know that this may not make them pray properly. As a child when forced I used to not do wudu properly and also not pray properly rather just show that I was praying. I see alot of myself in my daughter and shes very stubborn like me. I undertsand this method may work for some but probably not all.
How could that benefit her?
 
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One of the most important things you must do is make du'aa for them - ask Allaah (swt) to guide them, protect them and fill them with eemaan and taqwa and so on.

Perhaps you can also begin by gently advising them about Salah. Inform them about the importance of Salah - the story of how it was decreed, how it is the most important pillar of Islam after the shahadah, how it differentiates a Muslim from a kafir etc. Perhaps if you use love and gentleness, they might be more accepting Insha'Allaah. As they are older, they can understand and reason better.

You should check who they spend most of their time with - if they have bad company, this will have a negative influence on them. Encourage them to befriend good Muslim girls, maybe get them to join a local madressah that caters for girls etc.

Ultimately, I think the key thing that will push a person to pray is the love for Allaah, the fear of Allaah and the hope in His mercy. Maybe you can work around these topics to make your daughters pray without it feeling like a burden.

Allaah (swt) knows best. May He (swt) guide your daughters and make them pious Muslimahs, Aameen.

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Jazakallah brother. I pray for them 5 times a day with every namaz. I do try as much as I can to explain to them and watch islamic programmes together. I guess i shall have to try harder.