How to make your kids love Islam?

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The question is, "How do you make your children love Islam?". Has anyone attempted to answer the question? Is beating the child to submission the solution?

The problem as I see it among muslim parents (at least where I live) is that they show their kids that Islam is a strict religion that is very difficult to follow. They rarely teach the ypung children the beauty about our religion and how to love it.

When a child does something bad, we hear the mothers saying "Allah will punish you".
"If you lie, Allah will punish you"
"If you still, your hands will be cut off"
Dooes he even try to explain the why we shouldn;t lie or steal. "Allah will punish you" is a very easy method to make children obedient, but does it help make them love Islam?

Now lets take the Christians.In schools and homes and in their hymns they always "god loves you, jesus loves you" "inflame our hearts with love you oh jesus". Isn's that what children want to hear, that someone loves them and they have someone to love?

The simple solution to making kids love islam more is to show them the beauty of the religion.
  • Teach them how Allah has rewarded the righteous and what rewards awaits them in the hereafter.
  • Teach kids to understand that life in this world is short, that we are preparing purselves for the day of judgement. The ultimate test is yet to come.
  • Read them stories about the sahabas and prophets.
  • Teach them understand that Islamic teachngs have a prupose. Allah and his prohet (s.a.w) have guided us as to how we should lead our lives, show them the beauty in simple islamic teachings.
For example, why does islam forbid the interaction with members of the opposite sex? It's because it leads to even more sinful acts. Aren;t social problems such as single parenthood, teen preganacies and AIDS some results of free mixing?

This is what I think. I hope to teach my children to love Islam in this way.
 
MashaAllah Sister Those are some very good points. :)
I hope to be able to successfully teach my kids to love and practice islam the way its should be practiced
 
*sigh*...brother i find it hard to believe that u have the name "QuranStudy" but u behave the opposite! Can i ask why ur so negative? Islam teaches u to be polite and humble =\*sigh*...I would think ud know that beating them will "infact" drive them away. You cannot force it on them and expect them to believe..*sigh*... i dunno i thinkso.
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Beating is a generous consequence. In Islam, apostates are to be killed.

Look at kids in America today, would you consider them obedient? I know it's painful to beat a child but that's only way the child will be more responsible. He/she would think twice before doing anything stupid. Children are prone to mischief, and later they turn out really rebellious to their parents due to excessive freedom.

I dont see how beating children will save them from ignorance.. Beating them may cause them to resent you, or worse resent the deen.
like a lot of people have said. there are a lot of other ways to show your displeasure. Hitting kids is not the answer.
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Interestingly, it is quite the opposite. Just look at Western society and how spoiled most of the kids are here. Then look at kids from China, India, and other Asian countries. You'll notice the difference.

Now lets take the Christians.In schools and homes and in their hymns they always "god loves you, jesus loves you" "inflame our hearts with love you oh jesus". Isn's that what children want to hear, that someone loves them and they have someone to love?
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That is a stupid idea IMO. The percentage of Christians that attend church is really low. Christians are becoming atheists at an alarming rate. Over 80% of Christians are non-practicing and only Christian by name.
 
QuranStudy said:
Beating is a generous consequence. In Islam, apostates are to be killed.

That is a stupid idea IMO. The percentage of Christians that attend church is really low. Christians are becoming atheists at an alarming rate. Over 80% of Christians are non-practicing and only Christian by name.
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Oh really? But don;t you think the idea of being loved is something that kids wants to hear? Maybe those 80% of Christians had parents who did not teach them their religion properly.

Let's not generalise the Christians then, what I should have said was "Catholics". catholics are among the most devout of Chrsitians. I can;t tell you about America, but in Sri Lanka Catholicism is widespread religion and very few convert to other religions. The majority of Catholics enter catholic schools and in that way they are taught their religion from the time they enter school. (I know because I studied at a catholic convent school as well).


On the subject of beating
There are instances that it might work and it might not. I was beaten as child when I was disobedient (e.g. refusing to bathe, talking back to mum.. childish things like that). It worked just a little. I still turned out to be quite rebellious as a teenager. (But Masha' Allah I've grown out of that now).

(I'm going to talk about my life here a bit......................)
when it came to religious matters, I only recall being beaten by my dad while he was teachng me the Quran and I kept on misprouncing the words. since then everytime my dad asked me to come for a Quran lesson I used to tremble with fear and make even more mistakes. My mum felt sorry for me and took over the Quran lessons and I improved my recitation.
My decision to love Islam, to improve my islamic knoweldge and to wear hijab did not come from being beaten or thretened in any way by my parents. My parents are religious and they lead by example. I was never told "wear hijab or you will be thrown into the hellfire!!!". I don;t know if that really works.
I was taught to fear Allah, not a one who inflicts punsihment on you for every bad thing you do, but as the creator and sustainer of the worlds. My mother used to always tell me "Allah is merciful, but don't take that mercy for granted".
 
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salaam,
we have to take our rasul as an example.....did the rasul ever raise his voice or hands against his kids.....no
did his children turn out as ignorant people......no
our rasul(SAW) raised his kids with love, wisdom, and patience......and there are many hadises to support this.

we have to learn the way of the prophet before comming up with our own theologies........beating and violence was not the way of the prophet......and it shouldn't be our way either

Can you give me an example when the prophet raised his hand against any of his kids???
He did not even scream or yell.....he was humble, piouse, patient, loving and careing.........
what evidence sais that islam encourages parents to beat their kids????
 
aswrwb

regarding this topic :

"your childs mind is like an empty fertile field, what u sow is what u will reap"

so dear brothers and sisters who have kids and are concerned about them,

1. move to a muslim neighbourhood
2. avoid harmful tv channels(even cartoons are very filthy)
3. replace computer games to education based software
4. give time to ur children, dont let the tv br their parents.

JK

wswrwb
 
Greetings,

How about letting your children grow up and decide for themselves once they are mature enough to understand what it is they're actually signing up to?

Peace
 
czgibson said:
Greetings,

How about letting your children grow up and decide for themselves once they are mature enough to understand what it is they're actually signing up to?

Peace
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Hi Callum,
It's been a while, nice to hear from you again.

Of course children will eventually become adults and they will decide for themselves what they wish to follow. Everyone will be accountable for their decision. But education facilitates decisions, it does not impair it. Why do we teach kids anything in science? Why not let them grow up and decide for themselves what they think the laws of nature are? I'm sure you know how I always draw a parallel between science and Islam. Just as we teach our kids what we feel is the most parsimonious theory in accordance with experimental evidence concerning the laws of nature, we do the same with Islam. We do not abandon our children physically, so we do not the same intellectually and spiritually. They have a right to recieve help from this with knowledge and experience. Our different opinions on this subject most likely stem from different world views.

Peace.
 

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