Fainoz
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I know that we are supposed to enjoin good and forbid evil, but it is so hard for me.
for example it's maghrib time and people aren't praying, I feel so rude telling a grown person to pray no matter how I put it, no matter how politely. It feels awkward, And even if they pray that time they might not pray the next time, and if you keep reminding someone every salah, you will be implying they are not responsible enough to pray without being told (you know thats the mindset people have) If I remind people for 3 days in a row, I'm too lazy to keep it up and it only makes people subtly annoyed by me
I can remind those are just forgetful, but as far as people who skip more often than they pray, my efforts seem useless, and no one takes me seririously. Even I don't feel comfortable 'being religious' because it is unlike me, and I don't feel qualified, so i feel fake.
Because of my cowardice i feel like i am bearing the burden or other peoples sins on top of mine own. And yes I know our Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam, went through way more had had bigger burden, but I am no where near as noble or strong in character as even your typical pious believer let alone the Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam. If I didn't have low self esteem and poor character in the first place, this may have been easier for me.
just needed to vent and any advice would be great
asalamun 'alaikum
for example it's maghrib time and people aren't praying, I feel so rude telling a grown person to pray no matter how I put it, no matter how politely. It feels awkward, And even if they pray that time they might not pray the next time, and if you keep reminding someone every salah, you will be implying they are not responsible enough to pray without being told (you know thats the mindset people have) If I remind people for 3 days in a row, I'm too lazy to keep it up and it only makes people subtly annoyed by me
I can remind those are just forgetful, but as far as people who skip more often than they pray, my efforts seem useless, and no one takes me seririously. Even I don't feel comfortable 'being religious' because it is unlike me, and I don't feel qualified, so i feel fake.
Because of my cowardice i feel like i am bearing the burden or other peoples sins on top of mine own. And yes I know our Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam, went through way more had had bigger burden, but I am no where near as noble or strong in character as even your typical pious believer let alone the Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam. If I didn't have low self esteem and poor character in the first place, this may have been easier for me.
just needed to vent and any advice would be great
asalamun 'alaikum
