i do not date

[AnonymousPoster]

As i do not go out with women though in my country it is uncommon.I would like to know what type of subjects women like bringing up and how can one earn their respect and confidence

 

[Mikayeel]

Bump

 

[-Elle-]

Well, for what women like to talk about, I think it really depends on the woman...if your seeking to get married and would like to know proper conversation topics when meeting her & her family..erm.., I guess her studies/career, her interests, hobbies, Islam is a perfect topic...her family, choose something easy that will get you more than a yes/no answer.

And as for earning her respect/confidence, HA, I could write about this for hours! (I won't,don't worry!.lol) Alright, I am not quite sure of the situation you are in, is it approaching a woman for marriage purposes? I believe so..because of the title of this topic,therefore, I will advise you from this point of view.

Well, the first thing you should do, to earn her respect, is approach someone that she knows(if truly impossible,approach her) BUT let your righteous intentions be clear.Trust me, this will earn you a greeeat deal of respect.Why? because men rarely(well,from where I come from at least) do that anymore. Seriously. It's ridiculous...anw, May Allah(swt) guide this generation...Anyway,there is no point in talking in circles... if you don't make your intentions clear,it will get you no where and she might feel very uncomfortable talking to you,wondering what in the world you want from her(lol). letting her know will put her at mind at ease, although there's a strong chance she will be shy, therefore, like I said, preferably, approach her brother, friend, even her friend's brother...that's the best way to go.

Here are a few do's and don'ts...

- Do NOT appear arrogant, but DO NOT shy away from expressing your opinion on matters discussed
-Do not complement her innapropriately, and show her that you have knowledge of Islam(big :thumbs_up )
- If she's shy, do not bombard her with questions, yet appear confident, modest and interested(she will slowly open up, which I guess is a "form" of confidence)..

Confidence takes time(you'd really have to have a real relationship with a woman,i.e engagement/marriage to have her full trust) but respect can definetly be earned early on if you behave properly.

eehh..Hope that helped! Good luck!

 

[noorseeker]

Just talk about life, family, Show them your views on the world

 

[crayon]

-Don't act cocky. (possibly the most important thing ever)
-Be genuine, don't try to be something you're not just to impress her.
-Talk about what you usually talk to other people about.. Leaving out the boring guy stuff of cars, sports, etc. Unless she likes that stuff too, then obviously they would be good to discuss.
Find out what she's interested in, and talk about that.
Umm just random conversation, really..? There's no set discussion topics.
-Don't be too serious, but don't crack lame jokes every two seconds.
-Just be who you are and go with the flow.

Oh, and don't step out of bounds and be overly friendly, chatty, etc. That will just creep her out. Moderation is the key.

 

[noorseeker]

looking into society , nice guys dont get the attention of girls,

its the bad boys , that get it, ive never understood this , but this is reality,

and ive heard a girl say this, when someone good comes along , they dont wanna know.