[anonymous]

ever

imsad

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

what makes u think that?



besides friends are over-rated

 

[786rani]

Don't worry...you aleays have me anonymous and the rest of islamicboardians (isthat a word?!?!?!)

 

[anonymous]

what makes u think that?

it seems evrywhere i go, whether its tryin diff cliches of ppl, islamic forums, general forums, i make som 'friends' and then sometime,months late r or days later i always get turned down!!

besides friends are over-rated

but were humans n we need to socialise one way or another..



gah. Allahu a'lem

 

[Whatsthepoint]

it seems evrywhere i go, whether its tryin diff cliches of ppl, islamic forums, general forums, i make som 'friends' and then sometime,months late r or days later i always get turned down!!

What about real life friends?

 

[Woodrow]

A person goes through a long time of having acquaintances, buddies, pals, partners and the like. Often they mistakenly call them friends only to later learn they are not.

To have friends you have to know what a friend is and what to expect. For nearly all of us our first human friends are our parents. The best human friend we will ever have is our mother.

As we learn what a friend really is or should be, we will discover that Allaah(swt) is our best friend and all we will ever need.

But, until we truly understand what a friend is, we will never know who our friends are or even if we have any.

Learn what a friend really is, do your best to be a genuine friend and soon you will see you actually do have friends.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

it seems evrywhere i go, whether its tryin diff cliches of ppl, islamic forums, general forums, i make som 'friends' and then sometime,months late r or days later i always get turned down!!

Replace them with new ones, theres nothing wrong with that.Cheer up sis.:statisfie
Anon2

 

[anonymous]

Don't worry...you aleays have me anonymous and the rest of islamicboardians (isthat a word?!?!?!)

thank yu but even here iv been turned down

What about real life friends?

whether its tryin diff cliches of ppl

ie i do try

A person goes through a long time of having acquaintances, buddies, pals, partners and the like. Often they mistakenly call them friends only to later learn they are not.

To have friends you have to know what a friend is and what to expect. For nearly all of us our first human friends are our parents. The best human friend we will ever have is our mother.

As we learn what a friend really is or should be, we will discover that Allaah(swt) is our best friend and all we will ever need.

But, until we truly understand what a friend is, we will never know who our friends are or even if we have any.

Learn what a friend really is, do your best to be a genuine friend and soon you will see you actually do have friends.

thnks for that but the last sentence i disagree with.

Replace them with new ones, theres nothing wrong with that.Cheer up sis.:statisfie
Anon2

same ending for all


Allahu a'lem.............

 

[S_87]

turned down in what way? friends dont 'turn' friends down...? if ur female ill be ur friend!

 

[Trumble]

What about real life friends?

Much better!

As far as online goes, though, may I suggest something like Facebook rather than forums and such? Something a bit more 'chatty', and you'll find that one friendship can lead you into lots of others. Just make sure you take the necessary precautions. Facebook is very good, though, as nobody is hiding behind online anonymity and they take precautions to ensure everyone is who they say they are. For example, if you attend a school you can only sign up to the appropriate network if you are a pupil and that is verified, not even teachers are allowed to join.

The 'trouble' with most forums like this is that people get caught up with the 'issues', and you can never really find out what people are like - except in a few cases. I know perfectly well that there are many here I totally disagree with on most issues that I'd really get on with socially, and some I generally agree with that I wouldn't be able to stand!

 

[AabiruSabeel]

It seems that you expect more than what is to be expected from a friend.

It is said:

قال الإمام أبو عيسى محمد بن سؤرة الترمذي في (( الجامع )) ( 6/123/2065 تحفة ) : حدثنا أبو كريب ، حدثنا سُويدُ بن عمرو الكلبي عن حماد بن سلمة عن أيوب عن محمد بن سيرين عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه ، أراه رفعه " قال
أحبِبْ حبيبك هوناً ما عسى أن يكون بَغيضك يوماً ما»
«وأبغض بغيضك هوناً ما عسى أن يكون حبيبك يوماً ما

Love your friend mildly; he may become your enemy one day.
Hate your enemy mildly; he may become your friend one day.

Reported by al-Tirmidhi, Narrated by Abu Hurairah (RA)​

It was also asked:

'With whom shall we sit, O Messenger of Allah?' 'With one the sight of whom reminds you of Allah,' he replied, 'and whose speech increases you in knowledge, and whose actions make you desire the next world.'

(Could not find the source)​

 

[anonymous]

turned down in what way? friends dont 'turn' friends down...? if ur female ill be ur friend!

turned down in the way that i find their 'second face' if u kno wat i mean? their tru colours show after a while,and at time of need

i can uderstand why u thought i was female cuz am trying to hide my identity,but im male actually. thank yu tho.

Much better!

As far as online goes, though, may I suggest something like Facebook rather than forums and such? Something a bit more 'chatty', and you'll find that one friendship can lead you into lots of others. Just make sure you take the necessary precautions. Facebook is very good, though, as nobody is hiding behind online anonymity and they take precautions to ensure everyone is who they say they are. For example, if you attend a school you can only sign up to the appropriate network if you are a pupil and that is verified, not even teachers are allowed to join.

The 'trouble' with most forums like this is that people get caught up with the 'issues', and you can never really find out what people are like - except in a few cases. I know perfectly well that there are many here I totally disagree with on most issues that I'd really get on with socially, and some I generally agree with that I wouldn't be able to stand!

thank yu for the sugestion

It seems that you expect more than what is to be expected from a friend.

It is said:

Reported by al-Tirmidhi, Narrated by Abu Hurairah (RA)​

It was also asked:

(Could not find the source)​

​

intresting,thank yu. but u have go t to agree that frends r also there for u to socalise with,someone who'l ask abt you,offer help,talk,etc etc,a human needs to socalise from time to time.......yu kno?​

 

[AnonymousPoster]

turned down in the way that i find their 'second face' if u kno wat i mean? their tru colours show after a while,and at time of need

And? No ones perfect, I'm sure you've let a past freind down once before, not the end of the world, people also change and you needa accept that,

i can uderstand why u thought i was female cuz am trying to hide my identity,but im male actually. thank yu tho.

ur hiding yr identity by being anon, i dun get why yu goptta do anyfin else. :thumbs_up

-pssh.

Anon23456789 :X

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

be like abu dharr then,


do the right thing all the time,

live alone - die alone -


dont care bout wat others think




kinda like me




i forgot which scholar but a scholar of the past once when asked to be acompanied by people said "but i take the sahabis as my companions" astonished at this the peoples asked what he meant and he said he is always reading about them that he feels he is so close to them!


subhanAllah may Allah make us like that

Ameen

 

[anonymous]

And? No ones perfect, I'm sure you've let a past freind down once before, not the end of the world, people also change and you needa accept that,

course,but time n time n time again? cors i giv em second chances,but then i just realise that thats how they r,and how i was sosilly so think so much of them........

be like abu dharr then,


do the right thing all the time,

live alone - die alone -


dont care bout wat others think




kinda like me




i forgot which scholar but a scholar of the past once when asked to be acompanied by people said "but i take the sahabis as my companions" astonished at this the peoples asked what he meant and he said he is always reading about them that he feels he is so close to them!


subhanAllah may Allah make us like that

Ameen

inresting,but the live alone die alone thing....surely it gets depressing after a while?




Allahu a'lem.........

 

[Vito]

I'm the same as Fighting4Iman ( I don't know about dying alone though ) but yea. I mean I will socialize through work/school but I've given up on the whole friends thing. I'm not bothered by it. If you still insist on wanting a friend, thats fine. Don't be so focused on the subject of trying to find a friend. You will only be bringing yourself lower and lower emotionally. Just be patient and let everything play out for itself. There are good people and there are even more not so good people. Don't let it bring you down if you run into the not so good people. "Expect the best, prepare for the worst" I think is how the saying goes :thumbs_up

 

[Re.TiReD]

AssalamuAlaykum sis!

Dont be down insha'Allah. Friends are like the seasons for some people, they come and go and you meet more. Sometimes you leave a certain set behind and go get new ones.

In the transition from school to college, and then college to uni...people walk in and out of your life and insha'Allah one day you'll find a set that you really like and can relate to.

And the internet can sometimes get boring btw try spend your time pursuing knowledge, if you can...attend Islamic lectures insha'Allah, you dont even need to go with somebody, you could go alone and you may just meet some likeminded sisters there insha'Allah.

And if all else fails...spend time with your family.

Take care insha'Allah

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

inresting,but the live alone die alone thing....surely it gets depressing after a while?




Allahu a'lem.........

not when you have tons of brothers and cousins lol.



Kai - your one cool bro

 

[Yanal]

I know it's hard and I think I have unworthy friends as well, they talk to me a few times and I walk with them to my class and when he sees his other friends he swears at me but now I learned not to make friends in a minute of talking.

 

[Ansariyah]

My brothers n Sisters are my best friends (blood I mean) lol.
I have friends too that mean the world to me..they are like my family tho.