I have been on a relationship with a guy for barely 3 years. We both are muslims. We are from different nationalities. We met in a language course in Germany. He was the first who expressed the love to me (and he was the first boyfriend to me). We were 18 at that time. From the moment we met, we started to spend too much time together and do different activities together until some months after we decided to live together (because he couldn't find an apartment so he moved in with me). The relationship became more serious and we were happy. Honestly there was fights too often but that did not stop us from loving each others. In some cases I catched him lying to me but I forgave him because I did care and loved him. He was always the one saying that he can't live without me, that I'm his family, that he loves me more that anything, that he wants to marry me, that he couldn't live without me and so on. Honestly his reactions in fighting cases were incredible that it made me always think that he loves me truly. Time passed and until 6 months ago we had more and more fights about things which made me feel jealous or not trust him. But anyway we held on. 2-3 months ago he started to search more about Islam and became a stronger believer. By sudden he said to me that we shouldn't be together anymore because the religion does not allow that. I was sooo shocked. I understand that Islam forbids that and that it's haram but at the same time how can you love someone for 3 years and after all by sudden wants to leave the person. But he said that love is nothing, he said that what we passed doesn't matter, he said that I have no worth in front of religion, he said that I don't feel sure with you so I can't think of marrying you anymore (because we habe different minds and we do fight so much). He really offended me in too much times.
So he moved out. For me it was really hard. I couldn't do nothing. But for him he could study he could work he could go out with friends (even girls by lunching with her and boys too) he could go out and do so many things that he used to do only with me.
Anyway time passed. He was praying and practicing that religion more. Until one day he asked me to pray with him if I wanted. I accepted. And from that time I have one Month that I pray 5 prayer the day. And we do pray together when we can Bcs he says it's better when you pray in group. So now we do spend more time together Bcs of the prayers. But still he is ignorant too much times. Especially when he meets with friends. He just ignores me when he wants he just writes when he wants. And comes to me when he wants.
I'm really in a difficult situation. I dotn know what to do. I feel like a doll in front of him Bcs he comes to me only when he wants to. I want to just say to him to get out of my life but at the same time I dotn feel strong to do that because I do still love him.
Why would he change this way ? Was his decision right ?
PLEASE help me with your suggestions and PLEASE do not leave offending comments.
I would really appreciate some kind helpful words from you ..
So he moved out. For me it was really hard. I couldn't do nothing. But for him he could study he could work he could go out with friends (even girls by lunching with her and boys too) he could go out and do so many things that he used to do only with me.
Anyway time passed. He was praying and practicing that religion more. Until one day he asked me to pray with him if I wanted. I accepted. And from that time I have one Month that I pray 5 prayer the day. And we do pray together when we can Bcs he says it's better when you pray in group. So now we do spend more time together Bcs of the prayers. But still he is ignorant too much times. Especially when he meets with friends. He just ignores me when he wants he just writes when he wants. And comes to me when he wants.
I'm really in a difficult situation. I dotn know what to do. I feel like a doll in front of him Bcs he comes to me only when he wants to. I want to just say to him to get out of my life but at the same time I dotn feel strong to do that because I do still love him.
Why would he change this way ? Was his decision right ?
PLEASE help me with your suggestions and PLEASE do not leave offending comments.
I would really appreciate some kind helpful words from you ..