I ThInK I FoUnD My SoULmAte

JσℓιєFℓєυя;989981 said:
You missed out one part: The brother 'unofficially' proposes to the sister without getting parents involved and whilst all this waiting to become stable and waiting for the degree to be completed; they get caught up in emotional rubbish and attachment and then even if they later decided that maybe this girl is far too educated or that the guy would still not be able to provide - they wouldnt be able to coz of the past interaction that totally messed things up.
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Sorry for the confusion. I was speaking of a completely halal situation - not one where the two people interact and form an impermissible relationship.
 
No way. This is Marriage Section all over again.

Everybody save yourseleves!
 
Abu Sayyad said:
Sorry for the confusion. I was speaking of a completely halal situation - not one where the two people interact and form an impermissible relationship.
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Not a problem.

Main lesson - If you wanna get maried....just do it insha'Allah. Marry somebody pious for they will realise that a 6 figure amount will do nothing for the barakah we all want in our marriages. They'll realise that....basically its all about fulfilling the sunnah and the pleasure of the creator.

May Allah (swt) bless us all with righteous spouses and may He make them the coolness of our eyes. Ameen.

WassalamuAlaykum
 
I never believed someone who really found her/his soulmate would delay the marriage. Who wish to delay it its because she/he still its unsure about feelings and hope to get someone better.
 
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getting married isnt as hard as we make it out to be....we expect too much...and we just overwhelm ourselves with junk.....and we put off things like marriage.

Allah helps those who are trying to get married for his sake. we all have families who would be more than happy to support and help out...we all have frends who would help out....and studying? c'mon...just priorotise man...ive been living away from home since i was 16...i feel married...cooking, cleaning, paying bills, looking after sick ones, helping kids with homework...and ive been studying all along....and it can be done.yeh you get tired...yeh you wish you had more "me" time.....but ur partner isnt dumb, deaf and blind (inshallah)....its about mutual help and understanding...

whud the guy work, come home, eat and then sleep? he can get off his bottom and make the salad, and then rinse the bloody dishes and wipe the table....he can sort his own dirty clothes while she pays the bills online...

and they can both study and work....Allah gave us 24hours....and will provide us with enough money for food, electro gadgets, internet and phone...trust me...

just try and do the right thing.

to tell you the truth...the poem below touched me. Jazakallah khayr...it is so true...so so so very true.

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:sl: ^I agree with you sis i think people are just more materialistic this days and with the nice religious husband they want the nice house with the nice car and the perfect ring lol
If you can get all that masha allah thats cool but getting into a haram relationship just because you dont have enough money now is a pathetic excuse and they are fooling themself.

also many girls often forget one massive factor, they expect the guy to buy them a massive house or some luxurious flat with one bedroom lol

erm erm what happens to the guys parents? he has to fulfill their rights aswell so any good son, and any good wife will want her in laws their and with her!
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You dont have to be in the same house to fulfill their rights, when you get married and have a wife things do change.

I am not saying you cant live with your parents because is common amongs asian people...as long as you are all happy lol

As a muslim sister i wouldnt be able to live with non mahram how uncomfortable but everyone is different i gues.
 
sevgi said:
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getting married isnt as hard as we make it out to be....we expect too much...and we just overwhelm ourselves with junk.....and we put off things like marriage.

Allah helps those who are trying to get married for his sake. we all have families who would be more than happy to support and help out...we all have frends who would help out....and studying? c'mon...just priorotise man...ive been living away from home since i was 16...i feel married...cooking, cleaning, paying bills, looking after sick ones, helping kids with homework...and ive been studying all along....and it can be done.yeh you get tired...yeh you wish you had more "me" time.....but ur partner isnt dumb, deaf and blind (inshallah)....its about mutual help and understanding...

whud the guy work, come home, eat and then sleep? he can get off his bottom and make the salad, and then rinse the bloody dishes and wipe the table....he can sort his own dirty clothes while she pays the bills online...

and they can both study and work....Allah gave us 24hours....and will provide us with enough money for food, electro gadgets, internet and phone...trust me...

just try and do the right thing.

to tell you the truth...the poem below touched me. Jazakallah khayr...it is so true...so so so very true.

:w:
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this is probably like one of the best posts ive read on this forum in a few months

subhanallah
 
sevgi said:
:sl:

getting married isnt as hard as we make it out to be....we expect too much...and we just overwhelm ourselves with junk.....and we put off things like marriage.:w:
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incorrect we dont make it hard


our parents and guardians do :p
 
I have found my soulmate. :D And it's a she!




Doesn't need to be the hubby to be your soulmate, hmpf.


IbnAbdulHakim, for some the parents and guardians for others they themselves and for others someone/something else... At least we can except some trouble from somewhere. :skeleton:
 
Al-Zaara said:

IbnAbdulHakim, for some the parents and guardians for others they themselves and for others someone/something else... At least we can except some trouble from somewhere. :skeleton:
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agreed you lil genius


trouble always waiting to bite us eh
 
exactly

isnt it you akhee who is always banging on about qadr or is that someone else.

we should firstly look inside ourselves and refine our own characters, which is easier sed than done :-[
 
Yeah, but for good stuff you gotta suffer, innit.

Thank you for calling me a genius, it made me look at my signature. Now I'm off ranting at our lil friend LI Staff...
 
for good stuff you gotta suffer .... heavyyy sister al zaara!

:D we need to look at how the sahaba got married, and then look at yourselfs

and we need to have one of them psychological breakin yourself down sessions :D
 
Sahabiyaat said:
exactly

isnt it you akhee who is always banging on about qadr or is that someone else.

we should firstly look inside ourselves and refine our own characters, which is easier sed than done :-[
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yeh that'd be me


Qadr means wateva happens meant to happen :D

but whats that gotta do wiv this thread :| we're talking about the million conditions of a wali here :p yeh i kno its qadr


some crazy bros actually try meeting those million conditions, loll ;D
 
:salamext:

"Move on, it wouldnt have worked anyway, Im from here and your from there"
with tears in my eyes i try to tell him does anyone care
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Deep stuff...
 
lol at the 'ugly relatives' thing on page 1... not that i'm callin anyone ugly... :zip:
 

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