I was so mentally unstable and lustful and I can't drive im banned from jumuah

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I'm so mental unstable and lustful and i cant drive and i was always going to the same masjid, one with more free mixing capabilities, and more time outside prayer due to it having more functions, and because i was always paranoid, angry, unstable, neurotic, and trying to pursue women and girls, or just plain staring at them, but especially due to my paranoia and lust, I had to stop going to one masjid because I literally stormed out of a friday khutbah thinking people were against me (when in fact they weren't) and because I angry at all the rejection, including me having to unfollow someone on instagram per request of shaykh who was 4 years younger than me and rejected by someone 11 years older than me (in a serious request for marriage once I have a job, she laughed it off once she figured out what i was saying, saying i was like her little brother.

i know im not mentally stable enough for marriage, and i get that, and i also know i need money, so, thats out of the question. no one's gonna wanna marry a psycho.

but anywho, by extension, since i cant drive, (another unattractive quality!) i am banned by extension by my mother from all masjids.

is this permisslbe?
 
@Muhammad my aunt and mother said i am too mentally unstable to go to that "cultural center" of our jamaat. they said Allah is merciful and i dont have to go there for jumuah, and i believe my aunt also said i dont have to go anywhere, and my mom said that.
some of the things ive done include:

getting paranoid and throwing a scooter
shaking a sign
lifting up a table outside twice
intense paranoia
asking a girl younger than me by 5 years if i can play soccer, because she kept leaving every time i showed up, so she made the "excuse" (in my mind perhaps) she had to go back to her prep class, so i stuck out my tongue in defiance, and when she went inside i made a turkish offensive gesture (thumb in between the fingers)
spitting multple times (no one noticed many of these things though come to think of it, including this one, i believe)
getting dissociative and being unable to speak
 
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Try to go to a masjid only for men.

You need to focus on what's causing your illness and what is stopping it's cure. I'm sure you are taking all necassary meds but its more of the spiritual cure I'm talking about

Wrong beliefs can mess up our imaan and induce mental ilnesses and hamper cure. I read something about you being a gullenist?

Get all your aqeeda in conformity with ahlus sunnah wal jamaah and support Islam wholeheartedly bro, not a guy who wants to assist USA interests in Turkey and the wider middle East region

ahlus sunnah wal jamaah aqeedah :

http://www.masud.co.uk/ISLAM/misc/tahawi.htm
 
Asalaamualaykum

You have already stated that you are in contact with Shaykh, so "by extension", Why then would you resort to asking the question here ?

Allah SWT has commanded us in the Quran "Those who that do not know, ask those that know" in this case that will be your Shaykh in that musjid.
 
Is it Sheikh Hasina?
If so, she might have been involved in the conspiracy herself.

God knows why i suddenly recalled the term "gaslighting"......
 
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Asalaamualaykum

You have already stated that you are in contact with Shaykh, so "by extension", Why then would you resort to asking the question here ?

Allah SWT has commanded us in the Quran "Those who that do not know, ask those that know" in this case that will be your Shaykh in that musjid.
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I'm in contact with a different shaykh who lives in a different state, but he stopped returned my calls after a misunderstanding due to my poor turkish skills. the other shaykh, the one here, no, i am not in contact with him over the phone, and i can not drive to see him because my transportation is restricted. EDIT: or at least a misunderstanding is what i assume
 
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I have something worse i have bipolar
I think mental illness has your pen lifted from you (???)
 
SintoDinto said:
I'm in contact with a different shaykh who lives in a different state, but he stopped returned my calls after a misunderstanding due to my poor turkish skills. the other shaykh, the one here, no, i am not in contact with him over the phone, and i can not drive to see him because my transportation is restricted. EDIT: or at least a misunderstanding is what i assume
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Wow Amazing hey -

And what "skills" might this be ? Turkish skills your say....please enlighten me about "Turkish Skills"
 
If you are experiencing paranoia then I kindly suggest you take time to be alone and focus on your health. If you want to go the mosque then I think you should go with someone, a person who is mature and can guide you quickly if you get 'off center' (being nice about it). I am not judging you, it is an illness you have so nobody should judge you. But at the same time you do have to take care of yourself and do things that don't trigger your symptoms until you can get them under control.
The ban was probably for your own safety. Imagine if one of your offensive actions angered another worshipper and that caused a fight between you and that person. Someone could get seriously hurt. And with the number of people in the masjid who are alien to mental health concerns that is probably a big possibility of happening. Misunderstandings can lead to a lot of fitna.

Why can't you just take time to read Quran at home and pray at home until you feel the paranoia going away? What makes you feel like going to a public gathering when you know you are not well? It is a symptom and feeling that doesn't last forever. Just like people who are physically sick with the flu or some contagious disease don't go the the mosque when they are sick, so you should not go until you feel better because even though you are not contagious, you can cause anger in others with your offensive actions.

The paranoia if treated will go away with time and therapy. Or it will get weaker with private worship and therapy. Make dua to Allah for good health and thank Allah much! May Allah ease your suffering. Ameen
 

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