Ideal Muslim Wife

[UmmuShaheed]

We must always strive to better ourselves. Things change, people also change and it is quite important to also try understand what 'caused' the change and to enroll your partner to also make the change (if it is for the better) ;D

Your earlier question about 'characteristics' will be very subjective and will definitely vary greatly between people. A perfect wife for someone may not be anywhere near adequate for another. What may be considered a good characteristic may also vary.

It is important for you, as an individual, to consider what characteristic you would want in your partner to compliment you and to seek from there rather than to work from the opposite side to figure out what it is you 'think' your partner may want from you and change your characteristics for that. You will end up 'losing' yourself and if does not work, your self-worth too! That would not be good.

In other words, find someone who is naturally 'compatible' with you rather than trying to make yourself 'compatible' with that someone. It may take sometime, but well worth it in the long run.

Peace

Asalamu Alaykum,
I agree, traits vary from person to person, but there are some general traits. And my point in creating this thread was for the benefit kf sisters.
I'm married alhamdulilah so there is someone I'm compatible with lol. Like I said this is for the benefit of hearing general traits that can be beneficial.

 

[UmmuShaheed]

Husband and wife are the partners and companion of life. wife should spend her wife according to her husband. she should take care of him and trying to obey every order of her husband.

Jazakallahu Khayr ukhti, your right
Being a care giver and obedience are both important.

 

[greenhill]

I'm married alhamdulilah so there is someone I'm compatible with lol

Yes, I gathered that after your post on 'accountability' on the child's actions recently....

 

[zoron]

The ideal wife for me is a women that has the same vision as me, so she can be my partner and share the burden, joy, tears and laugh together. She should be kind, enchanted. I prefer i strong women, not strong physically but strong in the ideology, smart and not spoiled..

 

[ardianto]

My ideal wife is a woman who can accept me as ordinary man who is not perfect.

It was very hard for me to find a woman like this. But Alhamdulillah, I found it in my wife.

 

[ardianto]

Husband and wife are the partners and companion of life. wife should spend her wife according to her husband. she should take care of him and trying to obey every order of her husband.

Husband is just ordinary human who can be wrong. The good wife is wife who know what is the right, what is the wrong, what is the best, what is the worst. She obey her husband only if her husband order her to do something right. And if the husband order her to do something wrong she could say "no!" and explain why she would not do this.

 

[Plz Answer Me]

It is not wise to concentrate on one and remain silent about the other

 

[Ali Mujahidin]

Here's another way of looking at this matter.

The ideal Muslim wife, to me, is one who is not looking for an ideal Muslim husband. Same goes for the man. The ideal Muslim man is one who is not looking for an ideal Muslim wife.

Allah created us as human beings. As human beings, we are prone to mistakes. So long as we are prepared to admit our mistakes and make corrections, I think we will get along fine.

 

[Plz Answer Me]

The ideal Muslim wife, to me, is one who is not looking for an ideal Muslim husband.

Omg! mg:

 

[Ali Mujahidin]

Omg!

I am sorry but your reaction is, for me, quite unconventional. Care to elaborate so that I get some idea of what triggered it?

 

[Plz Answer Me]

Omg! mg:

I mean what's wrong in looking for an ideal husband. imsad

 

[Ali Mujahidin]

I mean what's wrong in looking for an ideal husband.

Oh, I see. So that's what you mean.

Well, for me, there's no such thing as an ideal husband or an ideal wife or an ideal any kind of person. People change all the time. To look for an ideal husband would be kind of like steering your ship by locking the rudder. That would be a great way to end up on the rocks. What should be done is to roll with the waves, so to say. Adjust as you go along.

For example, let's say that your idea of an ideal husband is one who prays five times every day together with the jemaah in the mosque. Sounds like a great plan. However, there may be times when it simply makes more sense to pray at home. So if your ideal husband insists on going to the mosque to pray even when you are about to give birth, wouldn't that be kind of like a conflict of needs?

I hope you follow my drift, so to say.

 

[Plz Answer Me]

Oh, I see. So that's what you mean.

Well, for me, there's no such thing as an ideal husband or an ideal wife or an ideal any kind of person. People change all the time. To look for an ideal husband would be kind of like steering your ship by locking the rudder. That would be a great way to end up on the rocks. What should be done is to roll with the waves, so to say. Adjust as you go along.

For example, let's say that your idea of an ideal husband is one who prays five times every day together with the jemaah in the mosque. Sounds like a great plan. However, there may be times when it simply makes more sense to pray at home. So if your ideal husband insists on going to the mosque to pray even when you are about to give birth, wouldn't that be kind of like a conflict of needs?

I hope you follow my drift, so to say.

Great! :ma: I do agree with you brother. :jz:

 

[Abu dujjana]

I personally feel that piety and religion is enough because once a woman has embraced and practices islam correctly everything else will fall into place as in manners behaviour prayer e.t.c

 

[Nur Student]

According to the Shari’a, the husband and wife should be good matches for one another. That is, they should be suitable to one another. The most important aspect of this being suitable is from the point of view of religion.

Happy family life is perpetuated through mutual confidence between husband and wife, and heartfelt respect and love. Both wife and husband should avoid anything like immodest dress and free-and-easy behavior that may destroy the confidence, and spoil the mutual respect and love.

The most basic characteristic of women is loyalty and confidence—since being the director of all the matters to do with the home, the woman is charged with protecting and preserving all her husband’s property and possessions, and his children. Carelessness in dress and morality destroys that loyalty, her husband too loses confidence in her and makes her suffer pangs of conscience. In fact, if the two qualities of courage and generosity, which are desirable in men, are found in women, it damages this loyalty and confidence, and so are undesirable for women and are considered to be bad qualities.

 

[Plz Answer Me]

According to the Shari’a, the husband and wife should be good matches for one another. That is, they should be suitable to one another. The most important aspect of this being suitable is from the point of view of religion.

Happy family life is perpetuated through mutual confidence between husband and wife, and heartfelt respect and love. Both wife and husband should avoid anything like immodest dress and free-and-easy behavior that may destroy the confidence, and spoil the mutual respect and love.

The most basic characteristic of women is loyalty and confidence—since being the director of all the matters to do with the home, the woman is charged with protecting and preserving all her husband’s property and possessions, and his children. Carelessness in dress and morality destroys that loyalty, her husband too loses confidence in her and makes her suffer pangs of conscience. In fact, if the two qualities of courage and generosity, which are desirable in men, are found in women, it damages this loyalty and confidence, and so are undesirable for women and are considered to be bad qualities.

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