:bism: (In the Name of God, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)
(Peace be upon you)
Sister, the brother who gave you advice right now is an agnostic as we do welcome on this board people of all faiths to discuss or understand Islam. And I thought he was just trying to give you another perspective on the situation from a male POV. For example, I thought I'd been in love once or at least strongly infatuated, and it was the most terrible feeling in the world to realize that the feelings were not reciprocated; therefore, I thought the brother had just been trying to guide you in a direction to thinking more deeply on the issue of your relationship.
Sister, the religion is not meant to be a controlling vehicle and if it feels like that to you, then I do think you've probably been paying attention to negative voices that can seem amplified when you're to the new religion. For example, at my new workplace which I started some weeks ago, though I'm already familiar with the work as I've been doing it for a long time, some people seem to think they can help me further by constantly giving me advice on what to do/not to do when sometimes in my private moments I feel annoyed because I think I learn best when I'm allowed to be left to my own devices. So, if all the advice seems too overwhelming to you, go at your own pace.
Sister, there are no expectations or goals that you have to meet except the ones that you set for yourself at the beginning of your journey in Islam. The sooner you realize it, the better. Some people will tell you to do this/do that, and I think frankly as someone who knows yourself best, you are the best position to decide and be the arbiter of what to do when.
Sister, regardless of what you wish, I do wish you all the best in life. However, I'd appreciate if you stayed my sister in Islam, not for my sake, but for your own sake; sister, you've newly started, and you can't give up so soon on yourself and on the path you chose. Remember all the reasons which led you to choose Islam for yourself; hold on to those reasons in the moments of your frustration and forgive us for any injustice or wrongs we have done or any umbrage we may have caused. Sister, as Muslims, we're not perfect; we're just Muslims trying to do our best just like you. The moment you realize that, you'll be able to see that we're struggling just like you and we hope to just have beautiful people like you on this journey of simply trying our best join us in this struggle to better ourselves and win Allah's Pleasure.
Sincere Regards, 
:wa: (And peace be upon you)
Wow! Wtf!
Alright, I've had enough! You are all gravely misunderstanding the situation! Not to mention delving into personal territory that you have no right delving into.
First of all, just because we aren't having sex does NOT mean I don't love him. I'm ASEXUAL. I don't experience sexual attraction. Romantic attraction is not sexual attraction. So don't claim that either.
Second of all, if Christianity was a phase, then it was a hell of a long one! I was Christian from age 18 to age 25!
And religion matching with science is a pretty good reason to go for that religion. We can't deny science! Sadly, though, it seems Muslims are creationists.
Not to mention how incredibly constricting and controlling and yes, abrasive the religion is.
Not the right path for me. Sick of dealing with the awful male dominated religion that is Islam and it's plagiaristic texts.
I thought Islam was truth. Whether that is or isn't the case, I don't know. What I do know is I'm sick of dealing with stupid rules and expectations I cannot meet combined with people who think it is their right to ask personal questions and condemn me for choices I make for a reason, when they hardly understand the situation!
So I'm freeing myself from this control tactic called Islam!
Bye.
