I'm Not a Happy Muslim?

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Salam brother and sisters.

I want to make this short..

almost 2 years since i started to practice my religion (islam) im 20 soon 21 years old. Since then i have been feeling like a robot, i just pray without intention(i think), and i dont read so much about islam as i should.. And i feel im not happy to being a muslim :/ like im ashamed of it or myself.. I really dont want to be in this state and i know Allah Swt knows it, ive tried praying tahajjud half an hour~ before fajr constantly maybe if i make duaa after every tahajjud and after pray fajr, maybe allah will make me a happy muslim and better my intention and ikhlaas.. But screw it up after 2 nights of tajjahud i dont wake up anymore -.- .. im kinda a depressed. no khushoo in prayer..

I want to change but my naffs dont want to read about islam, sometimes im lazy to get up to pray.. i know i will get punished by Allah.. i want to change. I want to be happy muslim, invite others to the deen, i want to read so so much about islam and other things, but feel depressed and i have so much time i dont use it.

Is it good to wake up and make tahajjud before fajr every night?? maybe it will change me, if i dont give up and work hard to pray tahajjud and fajr..?
 
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I want to change but my naffs dont want to read about islam
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Is this your nafs or just you being lazy?

If you really have a passion for Islam, you will get up and do that thing. Just as lots of us have passion for money - we get up and reach work on time, because if we don't we will not get the money.

I want to be happy muslim, invite others to the deen, i want to read so so much about islam and other things, but feel depressed and i have so much time i dont use it.
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Have you ever been religious? Have you had a religious upbringing? Do you know the meaning of what you are reading in prayer? Have you read the Qur'an with meaning?

Is it good to wake up and make tahajjud before fajr every night??
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To pray Tahajjud is good, but to pray the obligatory prayers first is even better.

maybe it will change me, if i dont give up and work hard to pray tahajjud and fajr..?
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What about the obligatory prayers?

Brother you need to think about what you want and how bad you want it - and this advice goes to myself firstmost - if you want something really bad, then you will put out everything you have in order to obtain it.

Let me give you an example.

Let's say you really like a car/pair of trainers, etc. - you will try your best to get that amount of money so you can buy them: it's the same with the Hereafter. If you ave a burning desire, then you will try your best to attain Jannah by working hard in this life.

May Allah make it easy for us all, Ameen.
 
yes brother, pray tahajjud and say to Allah in your prostration to save you from the tricks of shaytan and increase the level of your Imaan, increase your concentration power and will force to learn Islam. say it from your heart how desperately you want it, cry to Him. Also try to do a fast on mondays and thursdays. Make this same dua to Allah right before you break your fast because the dua of a fasting person never go unanswered specially when the dua is made few minutes before iftaar time. Keep doing this and have patience, Allah will definitely help you InshAllah :)

Assalamualaikum
 
falls said:
Is it good to wake up and make tahajjud before fajr every night
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Sure, it would not hurt to do this. But try to make your prayer sincere. I too sometimes worry about how sincere my prayer is since I don't understand arabic but for example, i do know the meaning of Surah fatiah so when I am reciciting it I know some what what I am saying and I also know some other words or surahs and what they mean from having read the translation so I try to remind my self of the meaning when I am praying to make it more valuable.

Also, I intend to learn Arabic which I believe every muslim should yearn to do so they can understand the quran. keep in mind I am around your age (will be 21 in summer).

Just remember that although you are here stating that you feel like a robot etc, I bet there are some external factors which are making you feel this way, Salat should not feel like a chore, Allah SWT doesn't NEED you to bow down to him 5 times a day. You need to change your point of view, the way you are looking through at the world.

Finally, you should make sincere prayer and ask Allah to remove any anxiety or depression that you may have. Please watch the following videos an hopefully they will change your perception.

(personally brother, what keeps me going on a day to day basis, although I may not be rich, have a good job, be top in my university, or have all the adornments of this life, I thank Allah for all that he has provided me and mostly what really keeps me going is realizing that this is your "temporary abode" we wont be on earth for ever. may be 60,70 80 90 some odd years? A small price to pay for a life of eternity don't you think? Drill that in your head brother, and I swear to you if you don't wake up every morning wanting to bow down to you lord there is something wrong.

Anyways, hope u feel better, watch the following vids:

Allah (swt) does not like people who are depressed or pessimistic.

Misery is optional


 
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If you find it hard to do both then just do the 2 days fasting weekly.
 
oh yes sis Umm Ahlam is right, nothing would work if you ignore the obligatory prayers.
 
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Do you have friends? you should have muslim friends and have a mentor or teacher and to have a better social life.
 
Don't overdo things. If you're not at the level to do extra prayers and whatnot, don't force yourself because then you run the risk of becoming overwhelmed. Also, maybe you should find some kind of hobby or activity to do in your free time for fun?
 
Greetings and peace be with you falls, and welcome to the forum, I hope you will feel encouraged by the brothers and sisters here.
I want to change but my naffs dont want to read about islam,
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You are reaching an age when there are so many temptations in life, and it will be incredibly difficult for you to keep reading Islam. The reason being, Islam will keep reminding you of all the things you should and should not do, but deep down you might want to succumb to these temptations, like other people around you.

Never give up hope that Allah wants you to succeed, never give up hope that Allah can overlook your sins as long as you repent and persevere. Sadly it takes us until the age of seventy to learn the meaning of the word perseverance.

In the spirit of never giving up hope.

Eric
 
Salam

i pray 5 times a day yes and i have pious friends but they dont live near me, like 20 minutes from here.. And yes syed1 sometimes it feels i dont want to wake up fajr, but sometimes i want..

What should i do? I just want to work for Allah.. but i dont do nothing.. I am more depressed than happy and i am not hungry for seeking knowledge or to please Allah.. I want to build up that, be happy and seek much knowledge
 
^ Have you bothered to read through our advice, or are you just whinging? It's not that hard, you need to pull your socks up once in a while!
 
Umm Ahlam, i was in a hurry for friday prayer so i wrote fast.. I can tell you that it feels like i dont have a passion for either Islam nor any dunya related as football etc.. Still have a passion for girls/sisters maybe i try so much lower my gaze.

And thank you syilla! ill look up unto those links
 
cant edit my post above ^

Syilla thanks for the links exactly what i needed..
 
Alhamdulillah i hope everything is well for you. Sometimes too much of things happening made us drained. You just need a rest from everything and stay cool. InshaAllah you will be in our dua :)
 
syilla what do you suggest for me? i cant send you PM i need to make 50 posts first..
 
Do you like outings like going to the park, beaches or outdoor activity ? if not spending quality time with family is good for you too :)
 
Salaam Brother, I pray that Allah provide you khushoo in your prayers. Brother when you pray your salah, pray with conviction, make a point to pay attention to each word your recite (focus on meaning). Even repeat an ayah if you feel that you recited without paying attention. Make special Dua during sujjood, make long sujjood especially during tahajjud. Allah ask His servants in Quran to wake up at night and pray (Tahajjud), so yes if possible, do adopt this salah. InshaAllah, Allah will help you attain the highted level of imaan.
 
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falls said:
almost 2 years since i started to practice my religion (islam) im 20 soon 21 years old. Since then i have been feeling like a robot
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You can thank the Shaytan for that.


falls said:
ive tried praying tahajjud half an hour~ before fajr constantly maybe if i make duaa after every tahajjud and after pray fajr, maybe allah will make me a happy muslim and better my intention and ikhlaas.. But screw it up after 2 nights of tajjahud i dont wake up anymore -.- .. im kinda a depressed. no khushoo in prayer..
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I'm not surprised you feel that way. Shaytan convinces people they have to adopt difficult ways to please Allah. The truth is, Allah is pleased with simple things. The most beloved deed in the eyes of Allah is the deed that is done consistently... no matter how SMALL. So think about what is EASY for you to do and what you can do consistently.


falls said:
I want to change but my naffs dont want to read about islam
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Alhamdulillah! Be glad that you have at least the desire to change. As long as you have that, you're good. You can't do anything about your nafs. You will have to struggle AGAINST it for the rest of your life, till death. There is no getting around that.


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sometimes im lazy to get up to pray.. i know i will get punished by Allah.
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You must get out of this mindset. This is a trick of the Shaytan. Whenever you feel that way, remember the verse in the Qur'an.... "Despair not of the mercy of Allah... He forgives ALL sins." No Muslim should give in to despair and think that Allah WILL punish him. That's because the Doors of Repentance are always open....... A man can repent of ANY sin, even shirk.... and he will be forgiven.


falls said:
I want to be happy muslim, invite others to the deen, i want to read so so much about islam and other things, but feel depressed and i have so much time i dont use it.
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Before you can invite others to the deen, you have to reach the station that is described in three verses in the Qur'an as:

Enjoin you Al-Birr (piety and righteousness and each and every act of obedience to Allâh) on the people and you forget (to practise it) yourselves.”(Baqarah 2:44)


O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allâh that you say that which you do not do. (As-Saff 61:2-3)


“I wish not, in contradiction to you, to do that which I forbid you.” (Hud 11:88)



As for having time and not making use of it, I believe I know the reason why. It is possible that Shaytan has overwhelmed you with too much. When a plate that is overloaded with food is placed before a person, it can cause a person to lose his appetite. If you were to go to work at a office and the boss gave you a mountain load of papers to sort through and file away, guess what? You won't feel like doing anything at all. You would get paralyzed just thinking of the enormous work in front of you.


So start off small, brother. Think of a plate that has just a few things on it. Things that you like to eat. You would gobble that up in no time, right?


Think of going to work and your boss gives you a small pile of papers for you to sort through and file away. You would get that done in a jiffy, right? You wouldn't feel immobilized.


So focus on the little things and focus on what is more important. On your plate, just put in there only the five obligatory prayers.


For there is none better than Allah to help and guide you.
 
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