bro i dont really care if her parents find out. people worry more about people than they worry about allah SWT. i have done it and and the point is i cant leave her just like that imagine shes my family how the hell am i gonna say that to her or disappear. i promised her to always be ther for her no matter what happens. and by the way a woman is not what i need. what i need is to find the best solution for both of us coz i took her virginity which is really hard to imagine and you know what happens when a girl is not a virgin. but what ever is meant to happen cannot be changed. and its not that simple. i dont think anyone can find a very good solution where we are both happy. insha'allah allah will find a solution for me. i'll keep praying.
Any promise/vow that is made to do something against the commands of Allah and His Rasul (SAW) must be broken - immediately. Unless you repent there is nothing but the wrath of Allah and ruin in both worlds. You claim you love Allah. But if you stay with your niece, you are literally saying:
"O Allah, I claim to love you, but I
have to disobey you because I care more about someone's feelings than I do about your Commands." This is literally the position you're in at the moment. That is not love brother. You have only felt the seed of love for Allah. I pray it grows. Because a true lover of Allah would die rather than go against His Commands. Which lover of Allah can have a seconds peace if they fear Allah may be displeased with them? Which lover of Allah wants to live knowing Allah must have turned His face away in anger at His slave for committing a sin which in the eyes of Allah is so evil. Allah loves not the disobedient.
"And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way." (Sura Al-Israa # 17 ayah # 32)
"Rasulullah (SAW) explained: If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a piece of iron it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman whom it is not permissible for him to touch." (Reported by al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 5045).
Your desire to keep your promise is only fuelled by Allah's enemy, the accursed shaytaan, and by fulfilling that desire over the prohibitions Allah set for you, you are allowing Iblis to stamp on that seed you have in your heart, and kill it. No wonder Allah's love in your heart is not flourishing. Just think, if just the presence of that seed makes you cry when you think of Allah, what would the state of your heart be if that seed was to grow and fill your heart?
This is a Message for you from Allah.
Surah ar Rahman Verse 39, He said:
Translation: Then on that Day none will be asked about his sin among men or jinn.
Do you know why? Because..
Translation:
The criminals will be KNOWN by their marks, and they will be seized by the forelocks and the feet.
The people you disobey Allah for will despise you. They will accuse you to save their own necks.
The evil deeds will materialize into actual burden that people carry on their backs (Surah al-An'am, ayat 31). Nobody wants to bear another's burden, even a close relative (Surah Faatir, ayat 18).
This is the day when no parent will be of any help to his child, nor will a child be any help to his parents (Surah Luqman, ayat 33). No will be no ties of kinship exist among them that day, and some will even flee from his parents and wife and children, as they have their own affairs be of sufficient concern to them (Surah 'Abasa, ayat 33-42).
Given that this is probably the worst sin you've committed, your niece will be your biggest accuser. Whether you're there for her or not won't matter anymore. Neither she nor you will care about your promise any more. Earthly life and it's temptations will be over. There will only be one worry. To save yourselves from Hell-Fire. Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. He will even forgive this sin. There's nothing to be gained by continuing to keep your promise to your niece. Only shame, dishonour and humiliation. Don't let shaytaan lull you into a false sense of doing good. Even he will abandon man on the Day of Reckoning.
Surah Ibrahim, ayat 22:
And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, "Indeed, Allah had promised you with the promise of truth, whereas I promised you but betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves. I cannot be called to your aid. Indeed, I deny that you previously joined me." Indeed for the wrongdoers is a painful punishment.
Remember death and all that will accompany it.
Is it wise to disobey Allah for someone whose body will become food for the insects until there is nothing left of it but bones? Except those Allah saves, no one will come to save us. No one can. Except deeds that earned us Allah's mercy.
Do you really not care if her parents found out. Those who love Allah care about His slaves. Even if they dislike someone they let love for the sake of Allah override those feelings. A muslim is not allowed to talk behind his brother's back in a way that will hurt him, yet this is akin to killing your brother over and over again. What did he do to deserve his brother betraying his trust and deflowering his daughter's honour? Remember, Allah can forgive His slaves for disobeying Him more readily than He can for wronging His slaves.
Don't stay on this path. You say you care for your nieces future. Then cut the ties of a haram relationship with her. Allah subhana wa ta 'ala says in Verse 60, "Is the reward for good [anything] but good?" Surah ar Rahman. Meaning there is nothing but good for doing good. Then imagine the opposite. Get out while you can, and be the true lover of Allah you are only imagining to be today.
