Assalamu'alaikum
^ yes that was the daleel I was just about to supply masha'allah. And also I remember (this is not being given as a daleel mind you, but just a memory) whilst in Yemen, when studying with Sheikh Muqbil rahimahullah. The sisters would be in the sisters building and we would listen to the Sheikhs lesson thru a microphone. And Sometimes the Sheikh would call up a brother and ask him a question on the mic, and if that brother got it right the Sheikh would call out " Sisters!! give this brother a clapping!"
And I'm sure insha'allah that the sheikh would know the basics of halal and haram such as this
just an example.
Brother Anthiok, I agree with you to a certain extent about the asking of small matters, it annoys me also extremely when people seem to love to ask about things in which there is nothign to do with Islam, the Prophet peace be upon him said "From what destroyed the Peoples before you, is the excessive questioning of the Prophets" because they used to ask this and that concerning religion, and then were not willing to apply it to their lives, and then after this they would be sinning, since once we are knowledgeable of a matter then we must act on it.
However there is nothing wrong of asking about something on which there is a daleel provided
for example now, we see, there is a clear daleel provided saying that clapping is allowed for women.
But also, excessive questioning on matters that have nothing to do with deen should be kept away from, Remember in Islam "al-asl fisshai al-hil" the origins of everything is that it is halal, except for that which there is daleel......so, why make things difficult on our selves? however, if there is a matter in which we are doubtful of, then of course, ask, but not just for the sake of asking without reason.
Wassalamua'laikum