Is it true that born Muslims don't like reverts??

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Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

[[I accepted Islam this past June.. alhamdulillah]]

The title of this thread was meant to be frivolous, but I do want to ask the question. I feel like a lot of the time, Muslims who are not reverts think less about reverts. It's pretty obvious I'm a revert (young african american with no beard) and it seems I get treated a little differently by some brothers. I may get a dry "salam" or not one at all. And when I make mistakes pertaining to some etiquettes that I'm unaware of, they typically don't let me know, but simply look at me as if I'm some ignorant kafir. I know I'm generalizing, as I've met many brothers and sisters who are very kind, but I still feel this way most of the time when I'm at jumuah or in the prayer room at my university.. Maybe it's just me. My question is, how do you all really feel about reverts? How do you actually treat them, honestly? (don't just relate to me how you're supposed to treat them!) And what can I do to stop feeling this way?

Thanks in advance for your responses!
 
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Quite a few of us on this forum are reverts myself included. I can only speak for myself, so far I have not experienced what you are speaking of. Since I reverted in 1965 I have lived in 3 Cities in Texas, and one city in each of South Dakota, North Dakota and Minnesota
 
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Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

[[I accepted Islam this past June.. alhamdulillah]]

The title of this thread was meant to be frivolous, but I do want to ask the question. I feel like a lot of the time, Muslims who are not reverts think less about reverts. It's pretty obvious I'm a revert (young african american with no beard) and it seems I get treated a little differently by some brothers. I may get a dry "salam" or not one at all. And when I make mistakes pertaining to some etiquettes that I'm unaware of, they typically don't let me know, but simply look at me as if I'm some ignorant kafir.

I believe what u are saying, unfortunately such types do plague the ummah. Especially the ones who would treat u this way for something like not growing a beard. It is outrageous really, when people forget the basics of the deen and start looking for secondary issues.

Thanks in advance for your responses!
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Assalamu alaikum brother,

*sigh*, I really felt very frustrated while reading your post, and I almost thought it was pointless to respond.

I hope you forgive the brothers for their rudeness, they are the ones who are being ignorant. i am from egypt and so far i have never met any reverts in person, but I can tell you that I hold them in very high regard and respect, and i am humbled in their company. I can imagine all the suffering that they must have been through and all the sacrifice. I honestly consider reverts to be the sincerest of muslims.
 
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Wa alaykum salam,

Welcome to the forum. :)

All the sahaba were reverts, so anyone who belives that born muslims > reverts is being illogical.

I may get a dry "salam" or not one at all. And when I make mistakes pertaining to some etiquettes that I'm unaware of, they typically don't let me know, but simply look at me as if I'm some ignorant kafir.
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(Although possible in some cases) I don't think this is all due to discrimination.

Even born Muslims find that their salams are ignored or replied to half-heartedly. Nowadays, the norm is that people only say salam to people who are known to them.

There are some Muslims who are very understanding, knowledgable and practise their faith with due sincerity. These will most likely return your salam with proper respect and let you know (using wisdom) if you make a mistake.

On the other hand there those who are lacking in the above mentioned positive attributes. This could be due to a number of reasons.

Perhaps the most common reason would be that they may have been practising their whole life but only as a form of 'routine' with little to no sincerity and conscious thought behind their actions (dry, lip service stuff).

Also, keep in mind that not everyone is friendly, lively - many are simply perpetually grumpy and too moody to reply to salam properly.


My question is, how do you all really feel about reverts?
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I love people who are conscious and sincere about their worship. In general, I find that those who revert to Islam (either from a non-muslim or even born muslim but previously gone astray background) are more worthy of companionship than born muslim 'zombies' who don't pay much attention to the actual theology.

How do you actually treat them, honestly? (don't just relate to me how you're supposed to treat them!)
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Haven't had the pleasue of knowing any in real life. :)

And what can I do to stop feeling this way?
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Accept that Muslims aren't all angels. There are many who are not on the right path. There probably are some unfortunate people out there who hold reverts below born Muslims but don't let it stress you out. Ignorance is plentiful. Make dua for their guidance.

Remember, everyone is at a different stage of spiritual development. Put any negative behaviour down to ignorance and make dua for their guidance.

Be confident about your faith and connection with Allah. Allah is sufficient for us. Seek his help with patience and don't pay too much attention any nonsensical behaviour.
 
Asalaamu Alaikum,

As a born Muslim who has just recently found light in his own faith, I deeply admire and envy the reverts, absolutly have great love for them. Put me to shame, who had this beatiful religion all around him, yet ignored it because of western influence and having too much Jahiliya(ignorance).

So when I see reverts, I gain deep admiration for them. They found the truth through all the struggles, yet with myself the truth was always there only for me to ignore.

If I see a revert I'll always try to help them in anyway, this includes online activity such as Youtube or anything. I only fear that, some reverts might feel offended because their being treated "too nicely or given too much attention" just because they are new to Islam, but really, all reverts may want is to be treated like any other Muslim, born Muslim or not(which is still to be treated Nicely ofcourse lol), with the exceptance of people helping them in gaining knowledge and understanding.

Like, when someone see's a revert and says "o you must be a NEW brother/sister", they might feel offended by that(i think), in a sense that they don't want to be "grouped", their Muslim now, nothing else.
 
On the very contrary. All born Muslims admire reverts a really big deal :). And you should not always blame yourself for ignorant people. May be you are more humble than you should be? Remember you wont meet kind people all the time every place ;) Something else is that some youngmen who may have read some few books think very high of themselves that they with much ignorance treat people like that. Oh don't remind me of that kind of people again. :)
 
ASALAOLIKUM..
to be honest, sometimes i like reverts more than born muslims. they have true spirit and more thirst than born muslims to learn islam. blv i had much respect for them.
 
No thats not true. some born muslims do not set good examples of how to be a muslim. they dont know and/or follow the ettiquetes right or put much effort into being a good muslim, since they were born into it and dont see the value of it, this ofcourse isnt all born muslims.
 
I don't believe there is a such thing as "born Muslim". I was born in a Muslim family but I didn't choose to be a Muslim until I read the Quran.

Also I believe that Muslim by choice is the real deal plus the Muslims who are born also carry a huge burden that Allah's Message exists in their very home yet most of them don't set a good example so clearly Allah appreciate people who find Him.

Remember, Allah's guidance is something you have to earn , no matter if you're born Muslim or reverted. So ignore them, its like saying that Non-Arab Muslims are less Islamic compared to Arab Muslims while this kind of ideology just proves how wrong they are.
 
Assalaamu alaykum,

Personally I have so much respect for reverts. I was a born muslim and yet I haven't always appreciated this huge blessing from Allah (swt). However, when I then see a revert who has come into the folds of Islam through their struggles and with the will of Allah, it makes me respect them so much more because I know that they are probably not going to take things within Islam lightly or take things for granted. A lot of born muslims tend to take the fact that they were so blessed to be born into this beautiful religion so lightly and take it all for granted and yet when you see someone who used to practice another faith or someone who used to not believe in any faith come into Islam, it is just such a beautiful thing. A lot of times, reverts tend to know a lot more about the dheen as well because they make more of an active effort to learn more and more about it. I would personally never think that a born Muslim is better (or worse) than a revert. After all, we are all striving forward to the same thing and it is always such a beautiful thing when we hear of someone new being guided on to the straight path by Allah (swt).

May Allah bless you and make things easy for you.
 
We are all brothas n sistas in Islam, it doesnt matter if ur a revert or Born as long ur Muslim thats all that matters. These people who treated u that way, I'm sorry. Wat can I say? Sadly we are muslim doesnt always mean that we have the best of manners (unfortunately).=(

Dont let people like that bring u down. Change ur surroundings meet other muslims im sure they will treat u like a real brotha InshaAllah.=)
 
^ I agree with you sis. Sometimes being in the company of not practising muslims brings an bad impression on you.
I feel very good to see reverts because they always try to practise Islam the best way. I also feel that they are blessed with Allah's blessings and so they accepted Islam :rolleyes: . I really have great respect for the reverts because struggle a lot for Allah's sake. I have never seen any reverts in my life (I have seen only in forums).
 
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My experience seeing people (including myself) found respecting reverts more than other. They do deserve it. Islam was granted by Allah to us by birth but they struggled to come to the right path. And we believe a revert is the one who has no sins in his/her account at the time of accepting Islam and starts a new life. Hence, we respect them as better muslims.

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Coming to islam is such a beautiful thing, I dont see why anyone would treat reverts with disrespect. I have a lot of respect for them for being able to make such a big change in their life.
 
My heart and face smiles when i see a revert...

Two reverts (from hinduism) used to visit my muhalla masjid..and i have great respect for them.

Will tell you an incident:

Two weeks back.. Brothers from other muhalla came to sell Quran and Muhammad(P) Biography in Tamil.

One of the revert brother(though he is not Tamil)...bought around Ten copies of each..with the intention of distributing them to others.. - Alhamdulillah what a great initiative by him. Did not see anyone else buying that many .. that day.

Lot to learn from them (reverts)..I believe they have strong faith...My heart and face smiles when i see a revert...There is no fake smile.
 
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You`re right brother. You must be really sad. But still don`t take it on the heart.Allah will reward you.

ps.Welcome to Islam.
 
Asalam Alaykium
I was born muslim alhamdulilah but do not practice til few yrs ago wiv the help of Allah's swt
I always respect reverts mashaAllah, they overcome some difficult wiv their non muslim family, I have read some story is that reverts' family kicked them out of the house just cos he/she choose to be a Muslim
and by the way welcome to Islam
 

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