Salaam everyone
So I respect and love my mother dearly I am only asking this out of curiousity/concern. I am African Arab, my mother is lightskin and I am not. I always remember her telling me to use whitening creams when I was younger. For as long as I can remember my mother has always talked bad about Muslims from other countries, she regularly makes fun of them and looks down upon them. She has always favoured my white friends over any other of my Muslim friends and would talk bad about them and their families. Recently me and my best friend who is Muslim and Arab, (she is very respectful and honestly an inspiration mashallah) went out together. My mother asked the usual questions before I go out with someone (for safety) and as soon as I mentioned my friends name (a Muslim name) she seemed very offended and got angry at me. I didn’t shout or be rude to her because of course this is my mother. She started asking me things like where she lives, how we met, if she was intelligent and just seemed disgusted that me and her are friends. I asked her (very nicely) why she was asking me. She said she as a parent needs to know who I’m friends with which I completely understand. I then mentioned my other (white friend) and she seemed so happy that I was friends with her and didn’t ask any questions about her. Then I mentioned my Muslim friend again and she said she’s never allowing me to go out with any of my friends ever again. Why does she act like this?
So I respect and love my mother dearly I am only asking this out of curiousity/concern. I am African Arab, my mother is lightskin and I am not. I always remember her telling me to use whitening creams when I was younger. For as long as I can remember my mother has always talked bad about Muslims from other countries, she regularly makes fun of them and looks down upon them. She has always favoured my white friends over any other of my Muslim friends and would talk bad about them and their families. Recently me and my best friend who is Muslim and Arab, (she is very respectful and honestly an inspiration mashallah) went out together. My mother asked the usual questions before I go out with someone (for safety) and as soon as I mentioned my friends name (a Muslim name) she seemed very offended and got angry at me. I didn’t shout or be rude to her because of course this is my mother. She started asking me things like where she lives, how we met, if she was intelligent and just seemed disgusted that me and her are friends. I asked her (very nicely) why she was asking me. She said she as a parent needs to know who I’m friends with which I completely understand. I then mentioned my other (white friend) and she seemed so happy that I was friends with her and didn’t ask any questions about her. Then I mentioned my Muslim friend again and she said she’s never allowing me to go out with any of my friends ever again. Why does she act like this?
