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I want to clarify that I have no wish to marry a non muslim man no matter how pious he is. If I can't pray or celebrate Eid with my husband that is going to make for a very lonely marriage. Nor do I think gender roles are bad and Islam should be altered so that complete equality in the marriage is possible. While I think men and women should have equal political/legal rights I don't believe everything needs to be split down the middle in my marriage. What I am saying is that something that is forbidden (muslim women marrying non muslims) is becoming more feasible.
Islam is one of the fastest growing religions on the planet and most of the reverts are women. So if muslim men are continuing interfaith marriages then eventually we will come to a point when the number of muslim women outnumber that of muslim men. When that happens what is our unmah going to do? While I personally wouldn't mind being in a plural marriage most women won't. So that means muslim women will have to settle for muslim men who may not have a strong imam, who may not have as much education, or make as much money as the wife. This will lead to conflict in the marriage as the role men have over women essentially vanishes as the woman is forced to lead the marriage. Or a muslim woman could see it more reasonable to marry a nice, non muslim man who won't ask her to leave her religion. As I said before I will say it again, every time a muslim man marries a non muslim woman it takes away the marriage prospects available to muslim women.
Maybe you're thinking that i'm exaggerating the rate at which muslim men marry non muslims. Well, why have I met so many women who are married to or dating muslim men who are not muslim? I haven't even been muslim for that long (almost two years). And then down the line these men will try to get a second wife who is muslim because they want their children to grow up muslim (if you don't believe me go to secondwife.com).
While men may delude themselves into thinking that because women are more submissive that we will allow our husband to have full say over our autonomy and that of our children, you are sadly mistaken. Whatever freedom you have in your marriage is allowed to you by your wife (in western countries), especially if the woman is not muslim as she may not recognize rights given to the man by Allah. If you think your children will automatically follow you because you are their father you are also mistaken. As Islamirama pointed out, despite the fact that women are working outside the home we still do most of the housework and childrearing. Which means that women actually have more influence over their children, as we have rights over them. You will also find that interfaith marriages create a lot of confusion in the children making the chances of them leaving Islam greater.
While I know many non muslim women who are very nice, my mother being one of them, I can't see how a muslim man would be okay with marrying one. This person doesn't believe in all of Allah's prophets. Some think that heaven and hell don't even exist. They associate others with Allah and have altered his word. How can you expose your children to these people? Share a bed with them? Not pray or celebrate muslim holidays with them? What benefit is there from this when you may not see this person in Jannah and there are so many muslim women?
Just because you have the right to do something doesn't mean you should. If you want to ensure that our unmah gets stronger and not weaker stop marrying non muslim women. By doing so you lesson the chances of a muslim woman finding a husband and increase the chances of your children leaving Islam.
Islam is one of the fastest growing religions on the planet and most of the reverts are women. So if muslim men are continuing interfaith marriages then eventually we will come to a point when the number of muslim women outnumber that of muslim men. When that happens what is our unmah going to do? While I personally wouldn't mind being in a plural marriage most women won't. So that means muslim women will have to settle for muslim men who may not have a strong imam, who may not have as much education, or make as much money as the wife. This will lead to conflict in the marriage as the role men have over women essentially vanishes as the woman is forced to lead the marriage. Or a muslim woman could see it more reasonable to marry a nice, non muslim man who won't ask her to leave her religion. As I said before I will say it again, every time a muslim man marries a non muslim woman it takes away the marriage prospects available to muslim women.
Maybe you're thinking that i'm exaggerating the rate at which muslim men marry non muslims. Well, why have I met so many women who are married to or dating muslim men who are not muslim? I haven't even been muslim for that long (almost two years). And then down the line these men will try to get a second wife who is muslim because they want their children to grow up muslim (if you don't believe me go to secondwife.com).
While men may delude themselves into thinking that because women are more submissive that we will allow our husband to have full say over our autonomy and that of our children, you are sadly mistaken. Whatever freedom you have in your marriage is allowed to you by your wife (in western countries), especially if the woman is not muslim as she may not recognize rights given to the man by Allah. If you think your children will automatically follow you because you are their father you are also mistaken. As Islamirama pointed out, despite the fact that women are working outside the home we still do most of the housework and childrearing. Which means that women actually have more influence over their children, as we have rights over them. You will also find that interfaith marriages create a lot of confusion in the children making the chances of them leaving Islam greater.
While I know many non muslim women who are very nice, my mother being one of them, I can't see how a muslim man would be okay with marrying one. This person doesn't believe in all of Allah's prophets. Some think that heaven and hell don't even exist. They associate others with Allah and have altered his word. How can you expose your children to these people? Share a bed with them? Not pray or celebrate muslim holidays with them? What benefit is there from this when you may not see this person in Jannah and there are so many muslim women?
Just because you have the right to do something doesn't mean you should. If you want to ensure that our unmah gets stronger and not weaker stop marrying non muslim women. By doing so you lesson the chances of a muslim woman finding a husband and increase the chances of your children leaving Islam.
