Is this marriage valid?

[Akmx14]

Hello,

I have a friend who was pressured by his father to go to Pakistan this week to marry a girl who he did not wish to marry. My friend had his Nikha on 2 days ago and has since been feeling very miserable. He said that he had no choice but to do this as his parents liked the girl and her family. He definitely felt pressured as he worried about what his dad would do if he disagreed to the marriage. He is not happy at all and is also in love with another girl who he wanted to marry. The girl who he married is not aware that his heart belongs to another and that he only agreed to the marriage contract for the sake of his parents and not because this was his own wish. Is the marriage still valid even though he was pressured and forced to agree out of worry about what might happen if he had said no?

 

[Sunshineday]

As a Muslim, means respecting other Muslims and even when reaching out for advice, as a muslim female-why would you have a muslim male as a friend??

This isn't about having an answer for personal whims and asking people to put the effort in giving an answer -fear Allah and think that everything is recorded.

Forced marriage is not acceptable -but here he has agreed to the marriage. Yes, there is emotional pressure, but not everything in life can be done nicely. It means sticking up for yourself, so what will he accept that his parents allow him to choose what flavour ice cream he wants-is this his privilege in life??

So as he is agreeing -regardless of the reasons of why he agreed, he hasn't objected to them, to his bride to be-so everything thinks it is marriage, he can't say to Allah it wasn't a marriage because I personally didn't agree-as they will be praying to Allah to bless the marriage. Allah isn't going to tell the bride afterwards, it wasn't really a marriage, I will tell you the secret now, your so called husband didn't really agree to it.. etc. There are legal laws added-which I don't object to protecting people from marriages, emotional blackmail-but solely here looking at your prayer to Allah. You can't say to Allah I dont' want to treat it as a marriage because I couldn't stick up for myself-what do you think Allah would say back-read the Quran, it's obvious, he should have stood up for himself (there are occassions where you can't and be oppressed etc)-but here, you can't say to Allah make everything work for me as I am too weak to stick up for myself. So here, is a person who is complaining about how things work, but can't put the effort in because it is not a pleasant experience-which how many people have gone through and still go through?? The convert to Islam, being treated badly and how many muslims have chosen against their parents' wishes to get married to someone else.

 

[Sunshineday]

Trying to edit to add this paragraph:

Also do not always jump to thinking you know more than parents of their own children- as majority of the time I would never believe you. Do not spend your own brain thinking of what their brain should be thinking and doing -if they can't do it, why is your own brain wasting time thinking of other scenarios for them??

 

[Quaid Muhammad]

The marriage is not valid. The parent’s will condemn their son to life time of misery & unhappiness. Also forcing them to commit Zina because the marriage is not valid. That’s a huge sin. If the parents can’t understand the meaning of actually being parent’s then they shouldn’t have had kids. The parent’s job is to raise their kids, love their kids & guide their kids, not control them. Remember this is Allah’s creation & free will plays a big part. It’s no different than Allah allowing non believers to be non believers, it’s their choice. Plus I would like add that it is okay for male & female to be friends. All that really is the fear of committing a sin, if you have hard time controlling your emotions & temptations. Then your soul is just weak.