I've been stressed a lot lately, but it seems to have come to a head as of late. I finally talked to my girlfriend about the feelings I've been having about reverting to Islam. And just like I figuired, she was against it. She knows NOTHING about Islam, besides the silly stereotypes that the mass media puts out. That fact along with the fact that I'm still coming to grasp with changing from a religion I learned from my parents (which I have to follow my heart, and I will, but I don't want to come off as disrespectful). I won't let anyone but God influence this decision because I know that with him, I'll find the path that is right for me, which I feel is Islam. But it is emotionally draining thinking about how people in my life will react & deal with my final decision. It's just frustrating... thanks for listening.... I know I'm babbling at this point, but I had to vent, even just a little bit..
It's never easy...
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Greetings JMF,
I think you have done the right thing... I had no idea that you were thinking of becoming a Muslim and neither did perhaps many others, so perhaps by sharing your anxiety with us we can support you and offer our help if nobody else can.
I understand that changing one's religion, especially one upon which a person has been brought up, is no easy task and many obstacles will stand in the way. But many people in the past have managed this, even though their families disliked the change and till this day still do. Life is no easy path for any of us, and God informs us many times in the Qur'an that life is but a test; many times were are trialled and that those with the strongest faith endure the hardest challenges.
I sincerely hope that God makes it easy for you and that you find the true peace that you seek. Now that the Muslim holy month of Ramadan is also almost upon us, perhaps it will be a prime time to see what Islam is really about, since Muslims increase in their worship of God during this month and strive in many ways to achieve a nearness to Him.
If there is anything that you need or any concerns or questions that you have, please do not hesitate to let us know
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I think you have done the right thing... I had no idea that you were thinking of becoming a Muslim and neither did perhaps many others, so perhaps by sharing your anxiety with us we can support you and offer our help if nobody else can.
I understand that changing one's religion, especially one upon which a person has been brought up, is no easy task and many obstacles will stand in the way. But many people in the past have managed this, even though their families disliked the change and till this day still do. Life is no easy path for any of us, and God informs us many times in the Qur'an that life is but a test; many times were are trialled and that those with the strongest faith endure the hardest challenges.
I sincerely hope that God makes it easy for you and that you find the true peace that you seek. Now that the Muslim holy month of Ramadan is also almost upon us, perhaps it will be a prime time to see what Islam is really about, since Muslims increase in their worship of God during this month and strive in many ways to achieve a nearness to Him.
If there is anything that you need or any concerns or questions that you have, please do not hesitate to let us know
.Peace.
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SubhanAllah JMF. It is very difficult to change from a religion you've been brought up in. I pray that you will be able to overcome any hardships you may face and will be earnest in your committment. Whatever may be you decision, we are with you every step of the way. Remember we are here you and for any questions you may have. Like bro Muhammad said, it's true I had no idea you were considering such a step like this. InshAllah, every step you take will be the right one and with ease.
I think Ramadan would be the best time to learn more about Islam and put your faith to the test. May Allah guide you always
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SubhanAllah JMF. It is very difficult to change from a religion you've been brought up in. I pray that you will be able to overcome any hardships you may face and will be earnest in your committment. Whatever may be you decision, we are with you every step of the way. Remember we are here you and for any questions you may have. Like bro Muhammad said, it's true I had no idea you were considering such a step like this. InshAllah, every step you take will be the right one and with ease.
I think Ramadan would be the best time to learn more about Islam and put your faith to the test. May Allah guide you always
w/salaam
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Like you said bro...
Follow your heart... and let God guide you. Don't let anyone influence your decision... if you feel Islam is right for you... embrace it.
I know you're struggling right now... because you're still debating and contemplating everything that could or may happen if you revert to Islam... but if you want to end that struggle... you have to move forward.
You have to take the first step... you decide where will that step lead you.
Follow your heart... and let God guide you. Don't let anyone influence your decision... if you feel Islam is right for you... embrace it.
I know you're struggling right now... because you're still debating and contemplating everything that could or may happen if you revert to Islam... but if you want to end that struggle... you have to move forward.
You have to take the first step... you decide where will that step lead you.
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As your title says brother, "It's never easy..." That may be true. But you also be true to yourself bro. The only thing I can say to you is to take things a step at a time. Once you say your shahadah, you can scare people off if you become really 'fully fledged', debating people, etc. Say your shahada inshallah, and take things slowly. Explain things to your family as you do them, "Today I'm going to my first Friday (Jumah) Prayer at the mosque, you can come and watch if you want." I'm sure you're not the type of of person to 'make' people see your view. You seem like the type to say what needs to be said, then just leave it.
Take it as it comes - I know thats easier said than done, but your family's reactions may not be really as bad as you think! We will be sure to make dua for you - you make dua for yourself too. Allah is always listening. Take care of yourself brother.
Peace
Take it as it comes - I know thats easier said than done, but your family's reactions may not be really as bad as you think!
We will be sure to make dua for you - you make dua for yourself too. Allah is always listening. Take care of yourself brother.Peace
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i totally agree with these replies. nobody is saying changing ur faith is going to be so easy even for u, especilay after uve grown up all these years believeing something else.... not to mention other's reaction after what they hear about islam in the meida etc etc..
u should clarify to ur gf what u think and why u want to embrace islam, and perhaps shell understand (and that would be a good opportunity for dawah too) . and if she doesnt doesnt then thats totally understand-able. but remember u r responsible for ur acts
Facing other's reactions will take strength and courage bro. And alhumdulillah, I find that when I look back upon the lives of the Prophet and the early muslims and how they faced persecution for their deen, it makes me realise that our struggles are minute in comparison to theirs. We aren't being persecuted like they were for being/becoming muslims. We are not faced with economic embargoes, poverty, hunger or beatings and death threats. Alhumdulillah, war and oppression aside, our struggle is mainly with our own selves.
Our belief is our weapon and our shield in the fight for the Truth. Our convictions give us the strength to stand up to falsehood and declare we are on the right path and that nothing will sway us from it - no matter what. Yes we have to face challenges. Even lose friends and family. But we must struggle to stand firm in the face of whatever obstacles and difficulties we face with our heads held high. We must have confidence that whatever losses we face, whatever sacrifices we have to make are for Allah's pleasure alone. Alhumdulillah the rewards are greater than the sacrifice. Alhumdulillah, Allah has chosen to guide you. Alhumdulillah He has given you the chance to do jihad - to struggle within yourself for His pleasure so that he may be pleased with you and reward you with His blessings in this life and the Hereafter.
InshaAllah,
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I assumed you were a Muslim! :giggling:
Trying to put myself into your girlfriends shoes, I expect that your conversion to Islam would affect your relationship with her ... perhaps more than she realises (unless she has spent the last 5 months in an Islamic forum, as I have
)But of course you are right ... choosing your faith is your decision, and yours alone! And it is between you and God.
So it should be God's guidance you seek, and nobody elses ...!
Walk with God, JMF
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well we believe every baby is born a muslim but his parents make him christian/jew... etc etc
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Hi JMF.
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Masha'Allaah what you're going through is a really emotional stage, and a stage in life where shaytan will try his utmost to divert you away from the light of islaam.
It's because he's arrogant and envies the children of Aadam, he never prostrated to Aadam when Allaah Almighty commanded him to. He felt he was superior to Aadam so he never obeyed Allaah, out of his arrogance, he prayed to Allaah that he could live till the day of judgement, to lead all the children of Aadam astray.
He's so jealous of the children of Aadam, that he actually pinches every single child when their born, except he failed with 'Eesa/Jesus (peace be upon him) [because he touched the placenta covering instead.]
So do you think this guy's going to make this path seem easy to you? Do you think he want's you to get to paradise? He's done a good job of leading the majority of mankind to enter the hellfire.. so what can we do? Follow their way and be controlled in this temporary world by the enemies of Allaah, or stay patient in this world with Allaah Almighty on our side - knowing that we will die one day, and insha'Allaah - we will be blessed with a paradise which is for eternity, where a person will never die and can have anything he/she desires.
But you know this yourself, it will take sacrifices. Paradise isn't free, and any person who's ever strived for it knows this. You might feel scared, alone, but Allaah is there to help you out, even if it seem's that the whole world is against you.
You say that you're scared of what the people around you will say, you're scared about what society will say about you. You might even get abused, but anything that ever happens - it is by the will of Allaah. Allaah test's the believers, to erase their sins, and to raise their ranks in paradise.
Ask yourself, if you're afraid of other's reactions - aren't you scared of Allaah's punishment if you were to turn away? And if you feel that people will turn against you, do you think that the people would punish you similar to how some of the sahabah (companions) of the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) were treated. Khabbaab (may Allaah Almighty be pleased with him) was thrown onto red hot stones, and he could smell his own skin melting, and Bilaal (may Allah Almighty be pleased with him) was tortured in a similar manner, except in the hot desert. But you know what the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said? He said that you people are too hasty, because from among the nations before you, there were believers whose skin was combed off with iron combs, and a saw was placed on their head, and their body would be cut unless they gave up their faith.
But, realise this - Those who persecute (or draw into temptation) the Believers, men and women, and do not turn in repentance, will have the Penalty of Hell: They will have the Penalty of the Burning Fire. (Qur'an Surah Burooj 85:10)
This is much more longer lasting, and is a much more severe punishment than one can even imagine [70x hotter than the fire of this world.] Much worse than being being abused by our friends and relatives, or being burnt on coal, or even having yourself cut in half with a saw in this world.
Say alhamdulillah (praise be to Allaah) He, the Almighty has guided you to the truth. Out of all of the non muslims from among mankind - Allaah, the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth chose you. So you should take you're step forward insha'Allaah.
The Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: Allah the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am (1). I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assemble better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.
(1) Another possible rendering of the Arabic is: "I am as My servant expects Me to be".
[Bukhari & Muslim]
You have the gift, and how many time's has Allaah blessed someone with a gift - but the person expire's without opening it up, due to shaytan's distractions .. So hasten yourself to benefit from it, you're not doing it to benefit us, but to benefit your own soul.
By the Soul, and the proportion and order given to it;
And its enlightenment as to its wrong and its right;-
Truly he succeeds that purifies it,
And he fails that corrupts it!
[Qur'an Surah Shams 91: 7-10]http://quranicrealm.com/viewverses.php?q=91&langs=281http://quranicrealm.com/viewverses.php?q=91&langs=281
Allaah Almighty know's best.
Peace.
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Masha'Allaah what you're going through is a really emotional stage, and a stage in life where shaytan will try his utmost to divert you away from the light of islaam.
Why is that?
It's because he's arrogant and envies the children of Aadam, he never prostrated to Aadam when Allaah Almighty commanded him to. He felt he was superior to Aadam so he never obeyed Allaah, out of his arrogance, he prayed to Allaah that he could live till the day of judgement, to lead all the children of Aadam astray.
He's so jealous of the children of Aadam, that he actually pinches every single child when their born, except he failed with 'Eesa/Jesus (peace be upon him) [because he touched the placenta covering instead.]
So do you think this guy's going to make this path seem easy to you? Do you think he want's you to get to paradise? He's done a good job of leading the majority of mankind to enter the hellfire.. so what can we do? Follow their way and be controlled in this temporary world by the enemies of Allaah, or stay patient in this world with Allaah Almighty on our side - knowing that we will die one day, and insha'Allaah - we will be blessed with a paradise which is for eternity, where a person will never die and can have anything he/she desires.
But you know this yourself, it will take sacrifices. Paradise isn't free, and any person who's ever strived for it knows this. You might feel scared, alone, but Allaah is there to help you out, even if it seem's that the whole world is against you.
You say that you're scared of what the people around you will say, you're scared about what society will say about you. You might even get abused, but anything that ever happens - it is by the will of Allaah. Allaah test's the believers, to erase their sins, and to raise their ranks in paradise.
Ask yourself, if you're afraid of other's reactions - aren't you scared of Allaah's punishment if you were to turn away? And if you feel that people will turn against you, do you think that the people would punish you similar to how some of the sahabah (companions) of the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) were treated. Khabbaab (may Allaah Almighty be pleased with him) was thrown onto red hot stones, and he could smell his own skin melting, and Bilaal (may Allah Almighty be pleased with him) was tortured in a similar manner, except in the hot desert. But you know what the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said? He said that you people are too hasty, because from among the nations before you, there were believers whose skin was combed off with iron combs, and a saw was placed on their head, and their body would be cut unless they gave up their faith.
But, realise this - Those who persecute (or draw into temptation) the Believers, men and women, and do not turn in repentance, will have the Penalty of Hell: They will have the Penalty of the Burning Fire. (Qur'an Surah Burooj 85:10)
This is much more longer lasting, and is a much more severe punishment than one can even imagine [70x hotter than the fire of this world.] Much worse than being being abused by our friends and relatives, or being burnt on coal, or even having yourself cut in half with a saw in this world.
Say alhamdulillah (praise be to Allaah) He, the Almighty has guided you to the truth. Out of all of the non muslims from among mankind - Allaah, the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth chose you. So you should take you're step forward insha'Allaah.
The Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: Allah the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am (1). I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assemble better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.
(1) Another possible rendering of the Arabic is: "I am as My servant expects Me to be".
[Bukhari & Muslim]
You have the gift, and how many time's has Allaah blessed someone with a gift - but the person expire's without opening it up, due to shaytan's distractions .. So hasten yourself to benefit from it, you're not doing it to benefit us, but to benefit your own soul.
By the Soul, and the proportion and order given to it;
And its enlightenment as to its wrong and its right;-
Truly he succeeds that purifies it,
And he fails that corrupts it!
[Qur'an Surah Shams 91: 7-10]http://quranicrealm.com/viewverses.php?q=91&langs=281
Allaah Almighty know's best.
Peace.
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I know, Stranger ... but that's not how I meant it ...
well we believe every baby is born a muslim but his parents make him christian/jew... etc etc
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I thought about the bf/gf situation as well... but I didn't mention it because like the brother said.. no one except God should influence him... so thats why I didn't bring it up... didn't want him to follow his gf wishes but his own heart.
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I agree, DigitalStorm.
But being fully aware of the resulting consequences is part of decision making!
Equally the girlfriend needs to be made aware of these things ...
It's a though situation, and I hope that JMF will be okay.
peace.