Salaam
Sorry for taking so long to respond. Instead of giving a long essay that will probably bore you to tears and echoing what the brothers and sisters have said earlier, Ill recommend this book.
Blurb
Not caring what other people think is a superpower that will allow you to get what you want out of life. Most people worry about what others will think, so they suffocate their actions. As a result they never live up to their potential. Within this book are insights about life and living it ot the fullest.
YOU WILL LEARN
The real reason that the ablity to work hard is so valuable.
How to identify where to invest your emotional energy for the greatest return.
Why you cant afford to have low standards for anything you do or the company you keep
The greatest source of motivation that goes untapped by most.
Vital paradigm and mindset shifts that will allow you to get more out of life.
The difference between strategy and tactics and how to develop a mindset for both.
How to find the best person to start a relationship with and how to get the most out of it.
Excerpts from the book
THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT TRAIT FOR SUCCESS IS SELF DISCIPLINE. EVERYTHING ELSE TAKES CARE OF ITSELF IF YOU HAVE THIS
While the recipe for success has many ingredients, there is a disagreement on the most important one. If you ask ten different people, your likely to get ten difference answers. Here, I make the case for self discipline. No matter what you choose to do, there will always be an unpleasant component. It will be difficult and lack enjoyment, but all great things have a great price. The price must be paid in full, upfront, and there are no refunds – only wasted opportunity.
You can pay be cash, or credit card. Hard work and time are the only currency that success accepts. This is why self discipline is the most important trait. During the moments you don’t want to work because the difficulty is great or your exhaustion is severe, self discipline is needed to carry you on. Self discipline pushes you forward regardless of your momentary feelings.
Without it, you wont do what is needed. You likely wont even start. If you cannot force yourself to take action towards your goals, nothing else you do matters. This is why the single most important trait for success is self-discipline. Everything takes care of itself if you have this.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE
Start a running routine with a pre determined distance. It needs to be challenge you but within the range of what’s possible. No matter how much pain your in, finish at least 3 times a week.
Get out of bed no later than 5am every day. You needn’t be completely aware or awake, but your feet need to be on the ground moving you towards the start of your day. It doesn’t matter how slow you move. All that matters is that you don’t get back into bed.
Every day do something that makes you nervous. The nervousness normally holds you back but now, as long as it wont cause you physical harm, do it.
SOCIAL MEDIA HAS MORE CONTROL OVER PEOPLE THAN PEOPLE HAVE CONTROL OVER IT
Social media is addictive because its one of the few places where a person faces no immediate repercussion for emotional over indulgence. This is the nature of the internet and impersonal communication. The same reason social media is addictive. . . . .With no immediate repercussion, a person is free to indulge in whatever feels good at the moment.
Social media infects your mind by giving you constant access to a willing audience. This almost always leads to an over inflated sense of importance. An exaggerated sense of entitlement always seduces and destroys. You will never have control over social the social mediums because you don’t want control. You want to drown in the self importance and lack of boundaries on social media. This is how it gets control of you – it gives you your biggest fantasy: it makes you the center of attention while simultaneously freeing you from negative consequences.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE
It was not too long ago that we did not have social media and its propagation over wireless networks. Many people feel their lives are connected via social media, but this is only a persistent illusions. To challenge this illusion, decrease you usage by one level.
If your constantly using, reduces your posting time to certain portions of the day, if you post intermittently throughout the day, don’t post for a few days. The goal is to gradually increase the amount of control you have over social media.
We don’t want to quite cold turkey because extremes of this nature wont work for most people. If you can completely eliminate using social media then this is excellent, but the gradual approach of increasing control is ideal and most likely to lead to sustainable success.
It’s an excellent read. Its tough, no nonsense but manages to be insightful at the same time. Wish I had a book like this when I was a teenager, Would have saved a lot, A LOT of wasted time. Well worth £12.00 asking price.
Hope this helps.
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