Love in Islamic Marriage

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I have noticed a lot of Muslims talk about Marriage, but I have never seen the word love in any of it, honestly. In Islam, is love not one of the major things needed for Islam?
 
Respect and kindness are required for marriage.
The love comes later (inshaAllah)

We say to other muslims :

,,I love you for the sake of Allah!,,

and the replay is:

,,May He for Whose sake you love me,love you!''

:statisfie
 
@clover, you should read love poems in Arabic written by Muslims.

about love and marriage, i guess since a lot of Muslims tend to be shy, you wont find many of us speaking about love in our marriages.

Love most definatley exists in Islam. After all, Islam is a religion founded on love.
 
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In Islam, love comes after marriage although some do fall inlove before marriage and then get married. Muslim couples love each other a lot and many live their whole lives with the same one spouse.
 
From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa. Love and hate for the sake of Allah ta'ala! From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa. The concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah ta'ala. Islam teaches us that marriage is the finest, purest and permissible relationship that should exist between a male and female. There is no such thing like boyfriend and girlfriend! There is no dating or living in relationship or trying each other out before marrying! It is a relationship that binds them to each other through all the tests and trials of this life, through hardship and ease! If the couple loves each other, then it is a blessing of allah ta'ala!!



The West makes fun of the Islamic way of marriage, in particular arranged marriage. Yet, the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner. Love blinds people to the extent of overlooking potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic proverb that says: "Love is blind, it makes zucchini turn into okra". Arranged marriages, on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions, but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. That is why such marriage often proves successful.
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Honestly, Brasco, I don't consider marriage a success if it lasts, I consider it a success if its cause of love. No offense to your beliefs.
 
AbuSqueakster (my husband) and I commisioned calligraphy of this verse from the Qur'an as a wedding present to each other. It hangs above our bed, along with another piece of calligraphy that has both our names and the date of our marriage:

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect. 30:21​

Love is not the reason for marriage, but rather a gift from Allah (swt) for those who are married.
 
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Honestly, Brasco, I don't consider marriage a success if it lasts, I consider it a success if its cause of love. No offense to your beliefs.
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If a marriage does not last, where's the love? How come they change their minds after a period of time? They take a big step in their lifes in getting married and then they get divorced! That's everlasting love ;D
 
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If a marriage does not last, where's the love? How come they change their minds after a period of time? They take a big step in their lifes in getting married and then they get divorced! That's everlasting love ;D
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...That has nothing to do with what I said. If you truly love someone, then it will last. If not, it obviously wasn't the one meant to be. Good Job, you made someone else laugh.
 
Well, I think that the purpose of marriage is family, and love is a bonus that Allah puts in our marriages, to make life easier for us. A successful marriage is one that lasts, and allows a strong and healthy family to develop.

Love being the purpose of marriage doesn't make sense, because marriage is a commitment to stay together. What difference does being married or not make if you should leave the moment you fall out of love?
 
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...That has nothing to do with what I said. If you truly love someone, then it will last. If not, it obviously wasn't the one meant to be. Good Job, you made someone else laugh.
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not necessarily. love can turn sour.
 
Allah says: [30:21] Among His proofs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other, and He placed in your hearts love and care towards your spouses.


The prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) were asked:
"O Messenger of God, whom do you love most in the world?" He replied: Aysha (who is his wife). Then, they asked: and from men? He said: her father (who is Abu Baker Al Sedeeq; may Allah be pleased with him)(narrated by Bukhari & Muslim)

The prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) said:
"Give gifts to each other, as this will make you
love one another." (narrated by Muslim)


Allah & His prophet are the source of Islam, so after these examples from the Holy Quran & the Hadeeths (Mohammad’s speech pbuh), you should be able to answer your question by yourself :sunny:


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Longing for the Paradise (Al-Jannah) where the endless happiness…
 
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Well obviously it exists.

The prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) were asked:
"O Messenger of God, whom do you love most in the world?" He replied: Aysha (who is his wife). Then, they asked: and from men? He said: her father (who is Abu Baker Al Sedeeq; may Allah be pleased with him)(narrated by Bukhari & Muslim)
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The prophet SAWS was not talking about a non-existent thing.
 

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