Male Guest In My Home

[Quruxbadaan]

Assalamu alaikum

Jazakumullah Khair for the fatwa's.

searchingsoul,your nephew-in-law(sounds weird) is not your Mahram(you can marry him). You are like strangers to each other and thus not permitted to be alone together, regardless of whether or not something may happen. It is the same as your cousins. Some people grow up very close to their cousins and consider them to be their sisters/brothers but in Islam, you are permitted to marry your cousin thus it isn't permitted for two cousins to be alone/unveiled.

I don't think your sister-in-law is being unreasonable. If your husband was home most of the time, then there would be less reason for her to worry but seing that this isn't going to be the case, i don't believe she is over-reacting.

lets remember that searching is not muslim.....ohhh so the nephew of the husband is not mahraam right, i was leaning towards that.

 

[Quruxbadaan]

“… and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons…” [al-Noor 24:31].

this says enouugh its her husband's brother or sister's son from my guessing if its his nephew, what on earth is everyone yapping about.

does it say or their husbands sisters sons??? not from what i understood crystal

 

[strider]

does it say or their husbands sisters sons??? not from what i understood crystal

Yes, i am a little puzzledo over that bit too. If your son-in-law isn't your mahram then it would be inappropriate for him to live with searchingsoul, especially if her husband isn't going to at home much.

 

[Looking4Peace]

I think it is her husbands sister's son, she said my sister in law, what does that mean? am i nuts or something? but i think that would mean its either his brother or sister's son.

 

[muslimah_here]

i have one confusion in my head, could anyone tell reference to Quraan and Hadeeth if a sister has to wear hijaab infront of husband's father n brothers???? even if she has to live with them on a regular basis, I have different thought from different ppl, this pakistani way of life is so messed up that I dont know who to believe.:? I am sure u have to wear hijaab infront of ur male cousins but this cultural bleief that they r like brothers forced into ur head by pakistani parents is making the life of muslim sisters who want to wear hijaab properly very difficult.

FI-AMANALLAH.

 

[- Qatada -]

i have one confusion in my head, could anyone tell reference to Quraan and Hadeeth if a sister has to wear hijaab infront of husband's father n brothers???? even if she has to live with them on a regular basis, I have different thought from different ppl, this pakistani way of life is so messed up that I dont know who to believe.:? I am sure u have to wear hijaab infront of ur male cousins but this cultural bleief that they r like brothers forced into ur head by pakistani parents is making the life of muslim sisters who want to wear hijaab properly very difficult.

FI-AMANALLAH.

:salamext:



What people can a muslimah take her hijab off from?
http://www.islamicboard.com/439062-post14.html


The in law is death:
http://www.islamicboard.com/438866-post6.html



:wasalamex

 

[Looking4Peace]

^^ yea if your sick to begin with, certainly wouldnt be thinking of fornication with anyone in my family whether if i was related to them by marraige or blood, to me its the principle, but maybe this is cultural and some cultures marry their cousins, so who knows, just wouldnt be something that went on in my family and wouldnt be a concern whatsoever.

 

[Tania]

^^ yea if your sick to begin with, certainly wouldnt be thinking of fornication with anyone in my family whether if i was related to them by marraige or blood, to me its the principle, but maybe this is cultural and some cultures marry their cousins, so who knows, just wouldnt be something that went on in my family and wouldnt be a concern whatsoever.

So true....who would think at fornication with a teen man? I think i would be more worried at this age to leave him alone in some hotel room without supervision. We know what can the teen do sometimes without an adult to watch after them:uuh: