Salaam
Does anyone have any good experiences with marriage events. In a strictly halal environment (ie. no pictures , no interacting, only mahrams)
I think this is a better alternative than matrimonial websites out there such as Single Muslim etc of which the environment can be questionable (freemixing; non-serious members)
I’m looking for events similar to this https://purematch.co.uk/
My family does not know any practicing families; and it is very difficult to get any proposal
Any comments/advice appreciated!
JazakAllahu Khairan
Walaikum Salaam
introductions via marriage events or marriage apps should be used strictly for introductions only.... once the basic pleasantries take place and both people like eachothers profile... get the family or mahram involved straight away! I mean it!!!! STRAIGHT AWAY!!, no testing waters, nothing like that.
Serious people will always commit, no doubt about it and will co-operate in a way that is expected in a nice manner, especially when their elders and family are involved.
If it's meant to be, Allah swt will make it easy for you. If it isn't easy then take that as a sign that you should move on.
"Shouldn't I persevere?" i hear you say. Don't persevere for a person who isn't going at the pace they are supposed to.
Always leave your heart to one side when communicating with people. Look at it from a pragmatic and practical point of view.
The perception of marriage for some people is so varied these days that's why it is important to realise and identify the expectations from the outset!. The basic expectations should be there as I think these hold a marriage together... along with a persons conduct and their willingness to tackle problems off course.
I've been to a couple of events years and years ago. Nothing happened for me really but then again I ain't no Sharukh Khan!
I should add that I know there is always a possibility that like minded people can meet in these place, anything is possible, pray that it is all good!
My auntie from the midlands met her husband in a marriage event in London and they got married around 2005, both professionals and liberal, my auntie is a right gem and she married a gentleman. Alhamdulillah to this day they live happily in Switzerland and have children.
In this day and age, where even the idea of introductions via family and aunts are lacking, I fear that people will eventually need to refer to these services and channels just to find potential candidates and then do their screening straight after.
No matter what happens though, take your precautions (why?, because you would be fool not to!) and at the end of the day, accept what is destined for you by Allah Swt and make plenty of dua.
Always seek out genuinely god conscious, god fearing individuals, their actions and speech pattern will be indicative of what kind of morals and conduct they have.
I wish someone slapped all of this in my face before I got married! ...... but ..... we live and learn.
Please remember me and my family in your prayers.
Jazak Allah Khair and Barak Allah Feek
Your brother Imran.
