Marriage - Help

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i think he used you sister, im sorry but that is what i believe. i think you both used each other for like, physical purposes and for you emotional. i think when he noticed you were serious about marriage, he woke up n reliased that he was never going to marry someone he'd "dated". and preferably opted for a more serious deenwise sister who he never commited finah with. i may be wrong but thats my take on it. i think you shoud move on and next time, keep a man who you want to spend your life with at arms length until your married, and inshalla you'll finally find a man who respects you. but you have to respect yourself n not be so naive and gulliable. i think you know you give more then your given. i guess now you know to think twice. any unhalal relationship is doomed from the start so i dont know what you expected. salams
 
true believer said:
i think he used you sister, im sorry but that is what i believe. i think you both used each other for like, physical purposes and for you emotional. i think when he noticed you were serious about marriage, he woke up n reliased that he was never going to marry someone he'd "dated". and preferably opted for a more serious deenwise sister who he never commited finah with. i may be wrong but thats my take on it. i think you shoud move on and next time, keep a man who you want to spend your life with at arms length until your married, and inshalla you'll finally find a man who respects you. but you have to respect yourself n not be so naive and gulliable. i think you know you give more then your given. i guess now you know to think twice. any unhalal relationship is doomed from the start so i dont know what you expected. salams
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I do believe deep down that he didnt 'use me' for any phsyical / emotional purpose because there was no physical aspect to the relationship. yes it was a pre-marital relationship which is strictly haraam..but i think he realised when it came down to marriage that i was not the one for him as we ended up arguin a lot towards the end of it. This however does not make it any easier obviosuly to move on.:cry:

JazakAllah
 
Khalisah said:
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Lol, you had better hurry with your posts sis!
JazakAllah for letting me know.
I pray that Allah, protects you any harm sis! And grants you the knowledge of this dunya!
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LOL im gettin there slowly but surely :)

W Salaam
 
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i've been through something similar.. the only difference is that the guy was not a jerk but he had to call it off because he realised it was haram.. it took a long time but i got over it eventually and inshaallah you will too!
 
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Laila01x said:
Assalam u alaikum,

... He is a practicing muslim ?
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then how come he was involved in a major sin for several months ?? If you really repented for you sin , InshaAllah you are forgiven already but what about him ? Is he repented ? If yes , that's good for him , if not , then no practising Muslimah should marry him .

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Prophet Muhammed peace be upon him said : Do not accuse people of sins, because you do not know if they have already repented and God has already forgiven them.
 

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