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Assalamu Aleikom,

To those who have better knowledge than me, I met this fantastic potential future wife about 4 years ago. She is Catholic, however. Ever since I've found out, i've been trying to convince her about having one wedding, yet, she wants to have two weddings, one on the Islamic way and the other in a church. Now I know many will disagree about why I even am involved with a Christian female. But, I know its not haram and I hope for only the best to have her convert sooner or later. However, the question I seek an answer(s) to is, is it haram for me to get married in a church without going through the whole thing? what i mean is just being there physically. Opinions and scholar answers are welcomed.
Jazakom Allah Khayran.
 
Wa Alaykum Salam,

A person who lies upon the one who created you is nice? Anyhow, what do you mean 'without going through the whole thing'?

Plus, will the priest bless you in the name of God the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit?
 
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To the best of my knowledge, the catholic church won't marry you. And if it does, you have to promise to raise your children as catholics. Under those circumstances, no way in heck could a marriage ceremony in the church be considered halal, even if you're not participating.
 
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I think he meant have the islamic wedding ceremony in a church. So it's sort of like a trade off with his 'wfie': we do it islamic but it will take place in a church.

I think that's what he meant...
 
aamirsaab said:
:sl:
I think he meant have the islamic wedding ceremony in a church. So it's sort of like a trade off with his 'wfie': we do it islamic but it will take place in a church.

I think that's what he meant...
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I cannot imagine that that is possible in any church, let alone a Catholic one!

But I think the OP is talking about two separate weddings:
yet, she wants to have two weddings, one on the Islamic way and the other in a church
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aamirsaab said:
:sl:
I think he meant have the islamic wedding ceremony in a church. So it's sort of like a trade off with his 'wfie': we do it islamic but it will take place in a church.

I think that's what he meant...
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mrismail said:
Ever since I've found out, i've been trying to convince her about having one wedding, yet, she wants to have two weddings, one on the Islamic way and the other in a church.
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I thought it meant like have one wedding, like a Muslim one, then have another the Christian one?
 
aamirsaab said:
:sl:
I think he meant have the islamic wedding ceremony in a church. So it's sort of like a trade off with his 'wfie': we do it islamic but it will take place in a church.

I think that's what he meant...
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That's not what he meant. They're having two ceremonies, one in a mosque and one in a church. As far as I know, the catholic church allows interreligious marriages, where only the catholic spuose, in this case his wife, receives the blessings and all that.
I have no idea whether this is halal though.
 
glo said:
I cannot imagine that that is possible in any church, let alone a Catholic one!
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Well all it would be, from what I have seen in mosques, the father of the lady and the groom sit, with the priest/imam and then the woman is also there kinda, depending on segregation and building structure, they ask if she agrees and if he agrees, they ask about the present given and kablam, hmm, maybe the short speech given may not be allowed.
 
Glo said:
I cannot imagine that that is possible in any church, let alone a Catholic one!
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Heh, I learnt something new today.


Al Habeshi said:
I thought it meant like have one wedding, like a Muslim one, then have another the Christian one?
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whatsthepoint said:
That's not what he meant. They're having two ceremonies, one in a mosque and one in a church....
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That's what his 'wife' said. At the end of his post he said:

...However, the question I seek an answer(s) to is, is it haram for me to get married in a church without going through the whole thing? what i mean is just being there physically. Opinions and scholar answers are welcomed.
Jazakom Allah Khayran
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But I guess we should let him clarify this statement.
 
aamirsaab said:
Heh, I learnt something new today.
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Don't take my word for it.
Whatsthepoint seems to think otherwise, and I could well be wrong!

Thing is, how can you really declare a marriage 'before God', if there are differences in beliefs between the spouses? :?
 
glo said:
Don't take my word for it.
Whatsthepoint seems to think otherwise, and I could well be wrong!

Thing is, how can you really declare a marriage 'before God', if there are differences in beliefs between the spouses? :?
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The catholic church allows it, though I think the uncatholic spuse needs to be baptised.

an article about it from teh Catholic encyclopadaedia
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/09698a.htm
 
don't catholics, in order to be married by a priest to a non-cathoic, have to promise to raise their children catholics?
 
Thank you all for your thought towards this subject, its really driving me crazy. Kinda giving me one choice only is to give her an ultimatum to convert or end it.

Whatsthepoint said:
I guess what he meant was that only his wife will receive the blessing and do all the catholic stuff. He'll just have to stand there.
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This is exactly what i meant. But Im not sure how the Catholic church works... like some of you said that I must promise the kids grow up catholic, blessed by the priest in the name of the Son, the God, and the Holy Spirit, ... etc.



Whatsthepoint said:
The catholic church allows it, though I think the uncatholic spuse needs to be baptised.

an article about it from teh Catholic encyclopadaedia
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/09698a.htm
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She's not even baptized.


However, heres the complete scenario. Her father is Muslim, however, hes not religious. Her mother is the catholic one. This discussion has been between she and I, her father has not been involved, yet. But im not sure it'll make a difference. My whole tattle tale is getting through her idea of a perfect wedding without me getting into haram or sin.
 
mrismail said:
Thank you all for your thought towards this subject, its really driving me crazy. Kinda giving me one choice only is to give her an ultimatum to convert or end it.
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not so simple - it is forbidden to convert for the sake of marriage or convenience.
 
To be honest, is a 'religious marriage' not meaningless, unless both spouses whole-heartedly agree to it? :?

Presumably just having a legal marriage would not be acceptable for you too either?
 
snakelegs said:
not so simple - it is forbidden to convert for the sake of marriage or convenience.
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Oh my days, so agree, don't force her into it! :skeleton:

Get married on a bus, PROBLEM SOLVED, nah serious I know a couple who did that,

All the best with your marriage life, May Allah (Subhana Wa Ta'ala) guide her and help you, Ameen,

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
 
mrismail said:
Assalamu Aleikom,

To those who have better knowledge than me, I met this fantastic potential future wife about 4 years ago. She is Catholic, however. Ever since I've found out, i've been trying to convince her about having one wedding, yet, she wants to have two weddings, one on the Islamic way and the other in a church. Now I know many will disagree about why I even am involved with a Christian female. But, I know its not haram and I hope for only the best to have her convert sooner or later. However, the question I seek an answer(s) to is, is it haram for me to get married in a church without going through the whole thing? what i mean is just being there physically. Opinions and scholar answers are welcomed.
Jazakom Allah Khayran.
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The Muslim should be in charge. So it should not be stipulated that they get married in the church, or that the children should follow her religion, or anything else in which she and her religion are given precedence at the expense of his religion. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And never will Allaah grant to the disbelievers a way (to triumph) over the believers”

[al-Nisa’ 4:141].
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http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/95572
 

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