Marriage in a church...

[mediadave]

This is exactly what i meant. But Im not sure how the Catholic church works...

She's not even baptized.

I suspect it will be impossible for you to get married in a proper Catholic church, by a proper Catholic priest. The Church doesn't do things by half measures - even if you were both 'kinda' catholics, not being baptised and regular attendees of that church would scupper it. And yes, the Catholic church only sanctions marriages to non Catholics if the kids are brought up Catholic.

I'd look for a compromise. I don't know where you live, but if you're in Europe there will doubtless be a no doubt scenic ruined church relatively near - I know of several in London (Ruined, but maintained as public gardens). If she knows a priest or lay practitioner, maybe you could get a blessing in the grounds of the church? Sure it won't be 'proper', but if she's not worried about being unbaptised I suspect its just for traditions sake in any case.

 

[snakelegs]

how would you feel if you saw your children bowing down before a crucifix?
obviously, your religion is at least somewhat important to you.
i think you should give this whole thing A Major Re-Think.
i know you are permitted to marry a woman "of the book" but i still think it's a really lousy idea. it's hard enough to make a marriage work without extra complications.
being "in love" is often quite damaging to the brain.

 

[samirasabir]

Assalamu Aleikom,

To those who have better knowledge than me, I met this fantastic potential future wife about 4 years ago. She is Catholic, however. Ever since I've found out, i've been trying to convince her about having one wedding, yet, she wants to have two weddings, one on the Islamic way and the other in a church. Now I know many will disagree about why I even am involved with a Christian female. But, I know its not haram and I hope for only the best to have her convert sooner or later. However, the question I seek an answer(s) to is, is it haram for me to get married in a church without going through the whole thing? what i mean is just being there physically. Opinions and scholar answers are welcomed.
Jazakom Allah Khayran.

i think first of all congratulations on finding the woman of your dreams however i believe that if you are in love no doubt you would want her to become a muslim at some point also regardless of whether your future children will be muslim, wouldn't you want the one you love to be following the true faith also? Secondly the fact that she hasn't been baptised herself it seems silly that she wants a wedding in a church purely to have the wedding of her dreams. she can have the wedding of her dreams without being in a catholic church for appearaces sake. Many do including myself.
Also I don't know whether it is against Islam to stand before a priest whilst he marries you. Honestly bro I think that you need to ask her whether it is for religious purposes that she wants to marry in church if not it really does not make sense.
I know some christians that do not follow the bible nor do they attend the church throughout the whole of their lives but as soon as the word Marriage is put in the mix they suddenly want to be married in church, I don't understand it.
If she does want it for religious purposes and she is a staunch believer of the bible and attends church regularly then I have nothing to say apart from good luck and may Allah bless you both.

 

[north_malaysian]

How about civil marriage?

I mean, the Islamic wedding is just a contract between husband and wife right?

It doesnt need Imam's blessing, or to give oath to God or something right?

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Why would u get married without the Islamic way...? Especially if it was prescribed for Muslims.

 

[suffiyan007]

doing for two function of marriages is haram...u believe in Allah...but in same time u believe in Name of the Father,the son and holy spirit.....this really a foolish job....causE u are a muslim and why u going bck to darkness.... is like hypocrites....so asked or patronise her....in gentle way...!once u r in islam no way of turning bck..insyaallah will help...pray lot..and zikir..(zikrullah....) peace be upon you...!!!!!!!!!!!!.....

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

You can just save all the troubles by marrying a Muslimah. Plenty of those right here in LI. Do you want me to make some recommendations as well? I know a few sisters...

Loool, that's interesting.

 

[suffiyan007]

jusT patronise him...so he will convert to islam...u must tell him that he live in islam is a really gift from Allah...is your test to him about Deen oF Allah...We as a muslimin and muslimah...we must fight for the right...cause we in the Deen of Nabi SAW....we must jihad for our right...we must not let non-muslim take charge of You...u r in jeWel oF Allah...so appreciated....! u seek for happiness so must struggle for it....want him to married in islam way...no mean u must leave this guy at oncE...men are anyway...choose the right want for you...and choose that he really interested in islam and understanding if not no way we gonna marry right...be happy...my sister of islam pray hard and doing lotsa additional prayer like istikhara...and etc...insyaallah Allah guides you anyway...i hope u you get happiness and married happily....