Marriage: my parents are apperently not able to find one.

[Scimitar]

Not every woman is like that.

I sincerely hope so.

Just got back from a wedding, my cousin got married... the aunties went wild on me, but I just uh, got embarrassed and uh, kinda just made smart ass comments for example:

Aunty "when are you getting married so we can come to your wedding?"

Me "When you give your daughters hand in marriage to me"

Aunty's face goes into shock.



they are on the lookout... OMG... arranged marriage oh noooo.... this is gonna be interesting. I didn't see one woman who I thought was marriage material at the wedding - they were all dolled up to the max with shoulders showing and all that jazz. SO good luck aunties I want hijabi 5 times salaah type who has a an infectious disease - it's called "smiling a lot".

in sha Allah.

Scimi

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

your parents are looking so that takes care of the seeking in this world part

now are you just need to take care of the spiritual side. Ask Allaah,

a good dua is rabbana hablana min azwajina wa zuriyatina qurrata 3yunew'wajalna lil mutaqeena imaamaah.

theres many others, surah yusuf is a good surah to read

 

[Predator]

I don't think a woman like that exists in this day and age... they all want to argue, and I have adrenaline problems, so I probably won't ever get married Allahu Alam... hitting 40 soon, whatever... it is what it is.

Maybe Marriage is bad for you as you are not willing to deal with nagging wife and Allah might be preventing the bad thing for you
Quran 2:216 But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.

 

[Vlad]

Maybe Marriage is bad for you as you are not willing to deal with nagging wife and Allah might be preventing the bad thing for you
Quran 2:216 But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.

ALLAH(swt) is preventing what? And what is the bad thing in this context?

 

[Predator]

Allah is preventing marriage as it has the Potential to cause Divorce . The intelligent person perceives forbidden things like delicious food, which contain fatal poison. Whenever its pleasure arouses his interest, the reality of the poison would push him away from it. Also, he perceives the orders of Allah as bitter medicine that leads to good health and recovery.

 

[Vlad]

my Adrenal glands secrete adrenaline constantly... I find it hard to relax, sleep, and get comfortable, i fidget and my brain is constantly over thinking and rationalising and working... I am hyper human.

Because of this, I need a really chilled out and easy going, non argumentative wife, because I know what I am like... the adrenaline makes me want to fight. I need someone who knows how to make someone like me - just shut up and drink tea instead

Scimi

It's clearly unknown whether the overproduction of adernaline in your body is linked to pheochromocytoma or not . Have you seen a neurologist\specialist yet?

 

[Scimitar]

Yes, it's not pheochromocytoma alhamdulillah.

Scimi

 

[BeTheChange]

If anyone wants to get married they should also play a role in actively looking and not sit back, leaving the responsibility on the parents.

It's important to consult with parents as they are more wiser and experienced in this area and it's also recommended to perform isthikhaa prayer.

May Allah swt help us all make wise decisions which benefit us Ameen.

 

[Lightingshine]

I agree with Vlad as it is clearly mentioned by Prophet Muhammad P.B.U.H that marriage helps lower gazes of men.Absolutely true for those men who do believe in institution of marriage and take it maturely but for those immature ones it' doesent matter.

 

[ardianto]

Someone will never know difficulty of doing an effort if he never failed. A man will never know difficulty of getting a wife if he never rejected by a woman.

In one thread I've ever read complaint from a man because his wife is not beautiful. I guess, he got married through arranged marriage because if he must find a wife by himself he would not complain like that.

When I was young, all of my friends wanted to marry beautiful women. Now, many of them married women who are not physically beautiful. But they love their wives, they are grateful with their wives. It's because they have ever felt difficulty in getting a wife which they get rejected. That's why they grateful when finally they could get women who were willing to accept them although those women not really matched with their expectation.