meeting before marriage

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im getting married to a guy in 4 months..he tells me to meet him atleast once in a week. im not ready to do so.. as i knw him very well.. then finding me alone he will try to come closer to me.. wich he has done before. i feel very guilty aftrwrds thats y i feel to avoid it.. bt he says vr gettinh married aftrall.. wats d big deal abt it.? and he feels dishearten.. kindly help
 
Just ask him if your getting married to avoid haram why are you trying to commit haram right before the halal realtionship starts
 
Or lemme word that differently ask him whys he getting married if he's willing to commit zina
 
Bobbyflay23 said:
Just ask him if your getting married to avoid haram why are you trying to commit haram right before the halal realtionship starts
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Bobbyflay23 said:
Or lemme word that differently ask him whys he getting married if he's willing to commit zina
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No, no!. These words are offensive. It will makes the OP fiance regard her as rude woman and will affect the relationship in marriage later.

My advice, if the OP doesn't want her fiance meet her before marriage, it's better if she tell him in soft manner "Four months is not long. Just wait, and then you can be with me every day and every night".

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ardianto said:
No, no!. These words are offensive. It will makes the OP fiance regard her as rude woman and will affect the relationship in marriage later.

My advice, if the OP doesn't want her fiance meet her before marriage, it's better if she tell him in soft manner "Four months is not long. Just wait, and then you can be with me every day and every night".

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Your right I have no clue why I said that it was bad advice
 
Bobbyflay23 said:
Your right I have no clue why I said that it was bad advice
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You are still young and haven't had many life experiences. In Shaa Allah, after you are growing older and have much more life experiences you will be wiser.

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My only question is, do you even want to marry a guy who is trying to have physical relations with you before marriage??? Doesn't that tell you something about his Islam...
 
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.alhamdulillah. said:
My only question is, do you even want to marry a guy who is trying to have physical relations with you before marriage??? Doesn't that tell you something about his Islam...
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I agree. If he is trying to commit haram before you even get married, and he cannot control himself and protect you from the zinaa as well (which is a MAJOR sin in Islam), it's a reflection on his deen. I think you need to be firm with him and let him know that it's unacceptable to act this way. Even if it were one hour before your nikkah, he is not allowed to do anything haram with you. If he does not like it, then there are other fish in the sea. Secondly, don't ever go to meet him without your mahram. You must have a mahram with you whenever you engage with this person.
 
What they are saying is true but I don't think you should ditch because of this just after maybe a year of the marriage keep your guard up to make sure he's not cheating but don't be way to suspicious it's just kinda a percaution since he seems okay with being with non marham before marriage
 
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Yes accompany a maghram and kindly remind him we are MUSLIMS .

And taliking with eye contact is a zina as well
 

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