Meeting bride.....

[AnonymousPoster]

Asalamu alaykum

Me and my family are going to go and see a bride tomorrow.

What should i do?
What should i wear?
Do's and Dont's????
What shall i say?
What shall i ask?

p.s i am really shy and quiet person, will i have to answer all questions, a
nd do i have to talk to the bride for too long.
I get really nervous.

All advice is welcome....

All dua is welcome too:embarrass

Asalamu alaykum

Anon 71

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

What should i do?

stay clam
be your self
have questions that you want to ask ready
*as weird as this may sound* have a "rehearsal" with your sister (if you have one) :X

What should i wear?

look good and smell clean. really, just be yourself.

What shall i say?

as i said be yourself. dont put on one of those phoney acts that some people do. be polite to her, her family...try conversing with her dad/brothers at some point...just imagine your meeting a new friend and treat the situation like that...

What shall i ask?

firstly know what you want in a wife/marriage becuase that is the key to finding the right spouse.
anything that you think will be important in your marriage as a couple, would be important to bring up.
try this thread..don't let it overwhelm you. you know what you want in a marriage/wife, so just pick the questions that correspond to that.
http://www.islamicboard.com/family-society/134275141-what-would-you-ask-potential-partner.html

p.s i am really shy and quiet person, will i have to answer all questions,

well, you cant ignore them, right?
her dad/brothers (if she has any) might ask, so be prepared.

and do i have to talk to the bride for too long.

umm i think the best way to deal with issues like this is just concentrate on what you have to do. try push your nerves to the side. if you want to be nervous, be nervous later. if you're quiet, be quite later, but do what you have to do and try not let your nerves get the better of you.

 

[Ali_008]

If I find her beautiful and religiously committed, I'll ask the basic question:

Will you marry me? :giggling:

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Hey anon71

hope u ok

all the best, i pray ur nerves dnt get 2u, ameen

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[Beardo]

If I find her beautiful and religiously committed, I'll ask the basic question:

Will you marry me? :giggling:

Hmm true.

I think he meant potential bride. Yeah, I can't imagine going through this. How embarrassing and nervous-ing. If that's even a word. I get jitters just think I have to say "I accept" in front of a whole crowd at the Nikkah. I usually go into fits of giggles when it happens at the Masjid.

 

[Pk_#2]

keep reciting durood sharif, keep doing dhikr, pray for yourself non-stop and I'll pray for you akhE,

You'll be ok inshaAllaah, take deep breaths, there's nothing better than a shy groom but answer the questions honestly, they wana see the real you so act normal and try to be as calm as possible,

be yourself and have fun!

I think she's gonna say yes anyways

 

[GuestFellow]

Asalamu alaykum

Asalaamu Alaykum

What should i do?

Relax.

What should i wear?

Whatever you feel comfortable with. Make sure it follows the Islamic dress code.

Do's and Dont's????

Be polite. Don't stress.

What shall i say?

Ah say anything as long as it is polite and not rude.

What shall i ask?

Idk...

p.s i am really shy and quiet person, will i have to answer all questions, a
nd do i have to talk to the bride for too long.
I get really nervous.

I think she might be nervous/shy too. Hey you two already have something in common.

Just be kind and everything will go fine.

 

[Nájlá]

I bet your enjoying the tea brother : or haven't you went yet?

If you haven't went yet then May Allah make the 'meeting' easy for you. Aameen
hope all goes well...

 

[Beardo]

Seriously people, "don't stress"? It's a life changing experience here. :skeleton:

But yeah, just try to be normal. I think the best thing to do is BE CALM and answer the questions precisely.

Though, who am I to say lol...

 

[Cabdullahi]

just wear a blacksuit and white trainers.....act normal prepare the night b4 what questions you'll be asking her

ask a question then let her ask a question

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Asalamu alaykum

Thank you all for you help.

Now its up to her family etc to decide.

May Allah increase his blessings upon you. Ameen

Asalamu alaykum

Anon 71​

 

[Clover]

I am lost. Does he mean he is going to meet a potential wife?

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Asalamu alaykum

Yes potential bride. I already did.

Asalamu alaykum

Anon 71​

 

[Clover]

Oh wow. I have never heard of doing that lol. Good luck with the relationship, sorry just never heard of it being done like that.

 

[Beardo]

Asalamu alaykum

Yes potential bride. I already did.

Asalamu alaykum

Anon 71​

:bravo::awesome::rock::ace::clever:

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Asalamu alaykum

They are still considering. Please make dua, everything goes fine.

Asalamu alaykum

Anon 71

 

[ژاله]

^ameen.

 

[Muhaba]

do lots of zikr the whole time before the meeting and you will be so calm & natural it will surprise you. you won't be nervous or anything, insha-Allah.