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Hello,
Im new here. Im about 1X year's old wich means Im in school. Basically my mum is friends with the mum of a girl that I like, And i'm Madly in love with the girl! I don't know what to do. Its haram to talk to her so what should I do. I cant marry here since as I said b4 Im still in school about yr X<12.
Please tell me what to do! I can't stop thinking about this girl and I don't want to do haram and be girlfreind, boyfreind.
 
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And i'm Madly in love with the girl! I don't know what to do. Its haram to talk to her so what should I do.
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Are you in relationship with her? or you just attracted and you think you fall in love with her?

It seem like you just attracted, without relationship which you and her love each other. I know from this "I don't know what to do. Its haram to talk to her so what should I do." and "I can't stop thinking about this girl and I don't want to do haram and be girlfreind, boyfreind." You are just attracted to her, and you are afraid you cannot get her. It made you got 'panic attack'.

I am 45, married through love marriage, and have two sons, but I was young too. I know what you feel because I had several experiences too. However, I never panic like you.

Since I was kid I have seen the male who attracted to female, approach, declare their love, and ..... rejected. ;D

That made me realize that we are not always can get women we like. So, when I attracted to a girl, I told myself "If she can become mine, Alhamdulillah. If not, it's okay. There are many other female in the world".

Young man. It's normal if you are attracted to female. But if you have principle like mine, you will able to control your feeling, and not panic like this.
 
That made me realize that we are not always can get women we like. So, when I attracted to a girl, I told myself "If she can become mine, Alhamdulillah. If not, it's okay. There are many other female in the world".
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I needed some one to say that.
Thank You, its just when ever I see her I fell weird... and I don't know what to do.
But I will just wait till Im old enough to be married and ask her.
Thanks
 
May Allah make her becomes your wife in the future. :)
 
Inshallah. It's that I have anxiety attacks a lot! But that calmed me. I like the community here If I ever have a problem I will be sure to talk to everyone here.
 
I posted this same topic in the Advice section b4 you had replied btw so can some one remove it once a moderator approves it!
 
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One night a child was crossing a road holding his father's hand. Suddenly all the lights got off, and the child got panicked. What if a car hits me, I fall or what if a dog bites me, he thought. He got so frightened that his fear and worries made him forget about his father being besides him. Then the lights came back. He saw his dad holding his hand, and felt comforted and safe.

If a person has Allah (swt) with him, he has no worries because he puts his trust in the All-Kind and All-Merciful, and he is protected by the All-Wise and All-Powerful, who loves us more than our mothers, and his heart is filled with serenity, contentment, comfort and happiness.

Put your trust in Allah. :) May Allah protect you always, and fill your heart with faith, and trust.

Welcome to the forum. We're glad to have you here.
 
Sorry,does that mean you are 10 :hmm:
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Haha not that young mate xD (grade X > 8)
If a person has Allah (swt) with him, he has no worries because he puts his trust in the All-Kind and All-Merciful, and he is protected by the All-Wise and All-Powerful, who loves us more than our mothers, and his heart is filled with serenity, contentment, comfort and happiness.

Put your trust in Allah. :) May Allah protect you always, and fill your heart with faith, and trust.
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That's what I did. I made Dua and Mashallah Allah brought me here! I'm a Left brained person witch means I like to plan things. I had written on a notepad and calculated what action to take using a formula I devised and then realized instead of doing that just do what Allah tell us to do. I sheared for help but most of the stuff was for adults so I came here to get advice and Allhumdulliah Allah brought me here.
Thank You All.
 
Two more Questions:
  • I try to lower my gaze but sometimes I catch my self looking!
  • Is it Haram if I want to know if she likes me back?
 
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Two more Questions:
  • I try to lower my gaze but sometimes I catch my self looking!
  • Is it Haram if I want to know if she likes me back?
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You shouldn't be speaking to her without a good reason or benefit. In this case even if she likes you, are you able to get married?
 
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Umm.. were you supposed to answer the questions or you just wrote them so everyone could see?
 
I can see the post now!
You shouldn't be speaking to her without a good reason or benefit
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I've never spoken to her and If I wanted to I would stammer. I meant that I catch my self staring at her!
In this case even if she likes you, are you able to get married?
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She proablly dosnt like me, idk but I want her to, I guess I shouldn't worry any way because since i'm (Age < 16) I can't get married.
 
Girls... HARAAAAM *waves finger*

*smiles*

*pats head*

Young bro, LOVE ALLAH first and foremost. Love the Prophet pbuh, but for your own sake - do not love a girl who is not yours to love... broken hearts make for emotional men, and our Ummah don't need that, we need roaring lions who know how to be MEN.

Scimi
 
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