:wa:
Truly sorry about parents divorce. May Allah make it easy for them and yourself. Ameen.
It would be a natural phase during and after a divorce for couples to be depressed, as well as, for children. By accepting that parents' depression, anger and possible frustration are the result of affairs unfolding can better help in navigating present and future relationships. Negative emotions would gradually dissipate over time. Whilst there is no quick fix and although, as a child, you are expected to give some support, parents would realize that this too would have certain limitations. Embrace the fact, for a period of time, you are in for a bumpy ride.
During this time, whilst guiding them to obtaining counseling may be a good idea to move on, the very act of
moving on is what ought to be reminded. Divorce has already taken place, as many divorces in this world have also occurred, whilst that relationship is over, the most important relationship with our creator will ALWAYS be the never-ending one.
It is what ought to be focused upon moreso in order that wisdom by deep reflection is attained from a failed relationship.
"And when they have [nearly] fulfilled their term, either retain them according to acceptable terms or part with them according to acceptable terms. And bring to witness two just men from among you and establish the testimony for [the acceptance of] Allah . That is instructed to whoever should believe in Allah and the Last day. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out.
And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent."
-Quran 65:3-4
Thus, neither should support nor encouragement of any type of unjust speech or targeted actions towards any party. The aim should be supportive and strengthening towards Islamic belief for
both self and parents, whilst being as neutral as possible (unless a clear known injustice is given). However showing that they are each respected and cared for, as the highest respect is shown towards parents in Islam and since kindness towards others are a great source of blessings. So, in this way a perspective can be created to use this means as a form of attaining good deeds for yourself and not to be viewed as an overwhelming negative affair. By creating good and positive thoughts, then perhaps by His mercy Allah can replace turmoil with peace.
Encourage goodness and productive ventures such as reciting the Quran, praying Qiyam-ul-Layl, volunteering, Islamic classes, fasting, physical fitness, pursuing various hobbies or interests, careers etc. Then eventually, as time allows, moving on towards possibly new relationships.
Do the same for yourself, take care of your well-being as a priority. (even if there is a need to talk with someone or write here/ on the forum).
It was also narrated from Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“O Allah , nothing is easy but that which You make easy and You can make hardship easy if You will.”
اللهُمَّ لا سَهْلَ إلا مَا جَعَلتَهُ سَهْلا وَ أنتَ تَجْعَلُ الحزْنَ إذا شِئْتَ سَهْلا
Allahumma la sahla illa ma ja’altahu sahla, wa ‘anta taj-alul hazna idha shi’ta sahla
[Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, 3/255; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 2886.]
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Please try not to let this shake your emaan or disturb your health. Perform extra good deeds, salaah, fasting and reciting the Quran whilst seeking Allah's Divine Help and Mercy.
Please also recite the duas for nur (light) and protection (dajjal & trials of world & grave). Check the link at my signature.
