hello, i'm here to help out a friend, whos a muslim girl. there are four really rich cool b-boys in our class, who've been around as long as i remember and they really like and tease her. alot. but if she seems really sad because of something they stop and would pretend as if they care about her. they like getting her angry, which is not easy. even though they think it's not bullying i think it actually is, because if she had a choice she would choose not to be going through this.
they make fun of her committment to her religion, would poke her, keep staring at her for hours, mock and impersonate her, take her stuff without permission or wont let her work. they even made fake accounts on facebook of her name and would post **** about her and send requests to our teachers, but she soon studied programming and hacked all those accounts.
i know there are many other students that get bullied but its different for her because first, she is quite talented and liked, not only by those boys but everyone i've ever known at school, and she has literally never cried or talked about how depressed or frustrated she is,i dont know how she's so good at hiding her emotions, and the main reason: that the bullies dont realise this actually hurts her, i mean alot.
and i just couldn't take it anymore after this one day after school i had to go to some place with my dad and on our way i saw her sitting on a footpath by an empty road with her hands on her stomach, while it was raining, and she was crying and shouting out so loud we could hear her vioce (from like 80 metres distance while it was raining and with closed windows), as if someone's stabbing her.
i was in my car with my dad and as soon as my dad stoped she wiped her tears as if it was rain water and when we asked her what happened she said "nothing, my bicycle just slipped and i hurt myself a little" and got up as if nothing happened. my dad thought she had some mental problems bcz she didnt have a bicycle anywhere near( she usually takes the bus on rainy days). anyways we just left.
BUT then on our way back she was still there,crying ( i'm not sure but her eyes were red later so i guess she was) and then we asked her why she was still here she said nothing and averted her face. we somehow convinced her to get in and then dropped her at her home and i just saw she is not quite well financially and she has a single mom, i guess one of the main reasons why all this happens and her mother was quite abusive...she was like are you crazy? i dont have money to take you to doctors! and like speak up and smile! and start acting human u little.....!and she was just standing there saying sorry after every other line her mom said. and like nothing else...nothing to defend herself or crying or like nothing! just sorry with her head down and her brother was just watching and after a while got bored and left.....my dad tried to stop her mom but she asked us to leave.....
she's really nice and she'll all about islam islam islam and so i came here.
me and a couple of other friends have already asked for help and advice on different islamic forums and websites but people dont really understand what we're trying to say.
most of them come up with answers like if she was following the real islam, she wouldn't be going through this and that just because she says so doesn't mean she's really religious. others come up with stuff like we should consult some guidance counselar at our school or help her out as a friend in general but the thing is if she didn''t care about islam then we wouldn't be here in the first place and she's like i cant to do this and that and i have to this because...... my religion says so.however some of them gave good advice that we put to use but it made things worse.......
first i would describe her a little: she gets the best grades at school ,is quite beautiful i have to say, really kind and hilarios and a tomboy.
at the same time she's really immature and an idiot. she's like i dont understand why people fall in love? but this is one side of her, on the other side she's all about islam
she's like so committed man! like if we're on excursions and she's praying we try to distract her by making her laugh but she wont even listen as if she's hypnotised and even though she's only 14 she fasts quite often. thats quite weird because she's such a food lover she'd do anything for it!
we put some of the good advice to use and we thought things went ok but i guess we just made things worse and now on the inside
she's most probably hating us. we showed those boys how this hurts her and now they are trying to be friends with her which she doesn't want to.
she'd keep moving away trying to maintain a distance but they keep moving closer and closer.
even though those boys( all of them)admit they like her, (one even proposed and got kicked by a football in the face!) all of us think they dont. because if u think over it, why do you think some rich bad boys like a girl whose sooo religious and alot stronger physically and is alot more intelliget and is a tomboy who has kept the same dressup for the past 2 years. that is: straight jeans, loose shirts, a cap and then a hoodie on top and is so sporty and so immature.
however all the boys of our class also kind of believe in what they say( i mean they like her) because almost all of us have had crushes on her(including me) and then when we tried a little flirting and some even proposed, everything went soooo bad, we never thought of her that way again and be like i guess we're just good at being friends. i seriously dont understand how she can be so attractive even though shes....an idiot and *all that stuff i mentioned above...i really want to share some stories of her stupidity but my post is just getting too long...
so the actual problem is i dont know how do i get to open up to me, or any other friend, and let us know how she feels about it. like i understand she cant do anything because those boys are quite rich but we can help her in that.......my dads a lawyer and i already discussed this with him and he says if needed he'll help her.and so do all other parents of my other friends say so( yeah they too know....)
the thing is she's like u guys cant understand me bcz....and then islam stuff comes in between. she's such a nice person and everyone likes her, she makes everyone laugh and so no one likes seeing her get hurt...she very rarely gets serious in class and even if she does, everyone makes fun of her bcz she's even more funnier when she's serious or angry. so i guess she scared or shy to open up because of that
i really want to help her out..........please.....anyone.....she's already told me in islam you're not allowed to be friends with the opposite gender and blah blah blah so please dont tell me about that. say something..........anything
they make fun of her committment to her religion, would poke her, keep staring at her for hours, mock and impersonate her, take her stuff without permission or wont let her work. they even made fake accounts on facebook of her name and would post **** about her and send requests to our teachers, but she soon studied programming and hacked all those accounts.
i know there are many other students that get bullied but its different for her because first, she is quite talented and liked, not only by those boys but everyone i've ever known at school, and she has literally never cried or talked about how depressed or frustrated she is,i dont know how she's so good at hiding her emotions, and the main reason: that the bullies dont realise this actually hurts her, i mean alot.
and i just couldn't take it anymore after this one day after school i had to go to some place with my dad and on our way i saw her sitting on a footpath by an empty road with her hands on her stomach, while it was raining, and she was crying and shouting out so loud we could hear her vioce (from like 80 metres distance while it was raining and with closed windows), as if someone's stabbing her.
i was in my car with my dad and as soon as my dad stoped she wiped her tears as if it was rain water and when we asked her what happened she said "nothing, my bicycle just slipped and i hurt myself a little" and got up as if nothing happened. my dad thought she had some mental problems bcz she didnt have a bicycle anywhere near( she usually takes the bus on rainy days). anyways we just left.
BUT then on our way back she was still there,crying ( i'm not sure but her eyes were red later so i guess she was) and then we asked her why she was still here she said nothing and averted her face. we somehow convinced her to get in and then dropped her at her home and i just saw she is not quite well financially and she has a single mom, i guess one of the main reasons why all this happens and her mother was quite abusive...she was like are you crazy? i dont have money to take you to doctors! and like speak up and smile! and start acting human u little.....!and she was just standing there saying sorry after every other line her mom said. and like nothing else...nothing to defend herself or crying or like nothing! just sorry with her head down and her brother was just watching and after a while got bored and left.....my dad tried to stop her mom but she asked us to leave.....
she's really nice and she'll all about islam islam islam and so i came here.
me and a couple of other friends have already asked for help and advice on different islamic forums and websites but people dont really understand what we're trying to say.
most of them come up with answers like if she was following the real islam, she wouldn't be going through this and that just because she says so doesn't mean she's really religious. others come up with stuff like we should consult some guidance counselar at our school or help her out as a friend in general but the thing is if she didn''t care about islam then we wouldn't be here in the first place and she's like i cant to do this and that and i have to this because...... my religion says so.however some of them gave good advice that we put to use but it made things worse.......
first i would describe her a little: she gets the best grades at school ,is quite beautiful i have to say, really kind and hilarios and a tomboy.
at the same time she's really immature and an idiot. she's like i dont understand why people fall in love? but this is one side of her, on the other side she's all about islam
she's like so committed man! like if we're on excursions and she's praying we try to distract her by making her laugh but she wont even listen as if she's hypnotised and even though she's only 14 she fasts quite often. thats quite weird because she's such a food lover she'd do anything for it!
we put some of the good advice to use and we thought things went ok but i guess we just made things worse and now on the inside
she's most probably hating us. we showed those boys how this hurts her and now they are trying to be friends with her which she doesn't want to.
she'd keep moving away trying to maintain a distance but they keep moving closer and closer.
even though those boys( all of them)admit they like her, (one even proposed and got kicked by a football in the face!) all of us think they dont. because if u think over it, why do you think some rich bad boys like a girl whose sooo religious and alot stronger physically and is alot more intelliget and is a tomboy who has kept the same dressup for the past 2 years. that is: straight jeans, loose shirts, a cap and then a hoodie on top and is so sporty and so immature.
however all the boys of our class also kind of believe in what they say( i mean they like her) because almost all of us have had crushes on her(including me) and then when we tried a little flirting and some even proposed, everything went soooo bad, we never thought of her that way again and be like i guess we're just good at being friends. i seriously dont understand how she can be so attractive even though shes....an idiot and *all that stuff i mentioned above...i really want to share some stories of her stupidity but my post is just getting too long...
so the actual problem is i dont know how do i get to open up to me, or any other friend, and let us know how she feels about it. like i understand she cant do anything because those boys are quite rich but we can help her in that.......my dads a lawyer and i already discussed this with him and he says if needed he'll help her.and so do all other parents of my other friends say so( yeah they too know....)
the thing is she's like u guys cant understand me bcz....and then islam stuff comes in between. she's such a nice person and everyone likes her, she makes everyone laugh and so no one likes seeing her get hurt...she very rarely gets serious in class and even if she does, everyone makes fun of her bcz she's even more funnier when she's serious or angry. so i guess she scared or shy to open up because of that
i really want to help her out..........please.....anyone.....she's already told me in islam you're not allowed to be friends with the opposite gender and blah blah blah so please dont tell me about that. say something..........anything