My sister's married life is being threatened by another girl.

[anonymous]

Assalamualaykum..How can we tell about this situation?
For convenience, I'll mention my sister as A, and the other girl as B.
My sister(A) is married to a certain man. The situation is that there is a girl B who is A's husband's friend, B has been forcing him over and over again to leave A (Halal wife) so as she can be the wife.

I really cant understand how can muslim sister say bad things about another sister so that she can look good.

B always says A is not sufficient for him and she is better than her and furthermore she influence Divorce( something which Allah hate) and claim that its very okay to do that which means she does not respect even A's marriage.
For some reasons A cant involve her family on this.
There are so many things which she talked about but briefly this is what she influence.
B always puts pressure on him to leave my sister(A) without any reason so as she can get chance to be with him. A and B dont even know each other clearly. B has never even seen A, but she knows about her husband, but she is influencing these kind of things.
A's husband has been trying to share all whats going on with his wife(my sister A) since he doesnt want to hide whats going on and the way this girl B is disturbing him.
B is having a family which is financially stable and she always think she is better and see A as nothing.
The situation makes my sister A feel bad about herself and think that she is not good enough.
What is the islam perspective about this..what advice can my sister get about this?
I personally feel B should not interfere in their married life. It's getting really hard for my sister (A).

 

[Alpha Dude]

wa alaykum salam,

The ball is the husband's court. You mention that he's been sharing all that's been happening with his wife. This is good, but he needs to go one step further and cut off all contact with B. There is no need for him to talk to her or be her friend. His wife is more important.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Assalamualaykum..How can we tell about this situation?
For convenience, I'll mention my sister as A, and the other girl as B.
My sister(A) is married to a certain man. The situation is that there is a girl B who is A's husband's friend, B has been forcing him over and over again to leave A (Halal wife) so as she can be the wife.

I really cant understand how can muslim sister say bad things about another sister so that she can look good.

B always says A is not sufficient for him and she is better than her and furthermore she influence Divorce( something which Allah hate) and claim that its very okay to do that which means she does not respect even A's marriage.
For some reasons A cant involve her family on this.
There are so many things which she talked about but briefly this is what she influence.
B always puts pressure on him to leave my sister(A) without any reason so as she can get chance to be with him. A and B dont even know each other clearly. B has never even seen A, but she knows about her husband, but she is influencing these kind of things.
A's husband has been trying to share all whats going on with his wife(my sister A) since he doesnt want to hide whats going on and the way this girl B is disturbing him.
B is having a family which is financially stable and she always think she is better and see A as nothing.
The situation makes my sister A feel bad about herself and think that she is not good enough.
What is the islam perspective about this..what advice can my sister get about this?
I personally feel B should not interfere in their married life. It's getting really hard for my sister (A).

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

B is only interfering in A's marriage because her husband has allowed her to. Firstly he should have cut off all contact with B upon marriage. Although many delusional liberal Muslims nowadays deem it acceptable to keep girl or boy "friends" whilst being married. These are the kinda of things that can result from such "friendships".

However A's husband should have realised that continuing a "friendship" with B will only have detrimental effects on his marriage with A, but it seems as though he cannot or will not let go of A. Although he may call it just a "friendship" but if has got to the point where she is urging him to leave A so she can marry him then it seems as though it is more than just a friendship.

There is no doubt that A really needs to confront her husband about what's really going on with B and why he has continued such a relationship knowing that it is damaging his marriage? A needs to find out how far this so called friendships has developed because it seems as though her husband is not willing to let go of B.

A must give her husband an ultimatum that either he cuts off all contact with B immediately or she will have to take further action, otherwise things will only get worse with B interfering continuing to interfere which may eventually lead to the marriage being ruined.

 

[IslamLife00]

Wa'alaykumussalaam

As I understand it, in Islam it's not permissible for male and female who are non mahrams to be friends because friends usually communicate and meet each other regularly, online or in person.
You can search Islamqa.info about this. I include the link that shows many ways male and female non mahrams friendships fall into shaytan trap.

Also B is badmouthing A, and backbiting that B does is not permissible, because she is doing it to ruin A's marriage and B is being arrogant because her family financial situation is better than A's.

That said, A's husband is also not supposed to maintain this friendship for the reasons mentioned above.
Whatever happens between A and him, is to be solved between the two and if needed, involve their families. B is not supposed to get in between, nor allowed to get in between them.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/1200/evidenceprohibiting-of-mixing-of-men-and-women