need advice plz for 12yrs old son

[ardianto]

@ardianto - he was a good boy...as he grew up he gradually became this way...

I have guessed it.

may i ask how u turned out if u dnt mind...

Do you mean what made me turn from good boy into a boy with problem ?. Puberty !

Age 11-13 is age when kids start their puberty. They are experiencing very rapid growth, and mentally they are experiencing shock, which they want to turn themselves from boy into man, from girl into woman. They regard themselves as not kids anymore but young adult. They want to have a freedom to do anything that adult usually do.

However, parents and people around them still treat them like a kid. And it makes them very disappointed. Then those kids try to do something to show the world if they are not kids anymore. Unfortunatelly, because they are still immature, some of them are trapped into do something wrong. That's happened to me.

nd what made you wake up....

Like sis Bluebell suggestion, involved in a hobby.

Was around 2 months after my 14th birthday when I raced in my first motocross race. I rode a borrowed motorcycle. Then my dad asked me "are you serious in this hobby ?", I said "yes !". So, he gave me an old motorcycle as my first motorcycle, and for next 5 years I lived my teenage life an amateur motocross racer.

I felt something happened to me after I involved in this hobby. I turned into a better boy and was not a 'rebel' anymore. I didn't know why, might be because I had found a right way for my teenage spirit. Might be because I had something to achieved. But something that I know, have a hobby is very good for 'boy with problem'.

I do not suggest your son becomes a racer like me. Everyone has different interest. Your son can choose any hobby that he likes.

wat did you parents do??

Just like you, my mom was in confusion too. But later she understood.

 

[Snowflake]

I was 12 when I sat in a psychologist room. It's happened after my school and some people told my mom to bring me to psychologist because they classified me as a boy with psychological problem.

It made me feel like a criminal in interrogation. That absolutely was not a pleasant thing for 12 year old kid. It made me very angry. And instead of got better, I went worse.

I could be wrong. Allahu alam. I'd been reading a lot of material about childhood disorders/traumas recently and thought there might be an element of learning difficulties which can lead to disruptive behavior as can bereavement and loss. I like Bluebell's advice though and pray everything works out for sister nutty and her son, insha Allah.