Need some advice :(

there could be some problem on his side which u might not know like accident, emergency,etc.

first try to find out if he and his family is really available @ their home.
 
There isnt an emergency. Im sure of it because my cousin and her husband run all the events at the masjid that they attend, and he is there every night for their iftar. He is in one piece, healthy, and from what my cousin told me his phone is in working order.

My cousin isnt the type to get involved and ask him why he stopped talking to me, but did relay me this information about him being a-okay.

Cold feet i guess?
 
I dont know if you read my entire post brother,but i did call him twice. One time he hung up quickly, the second time he forwarded me to voicemail.
Etiquette calls for him to call me back. That would be the upstanding thing for him to do.

As for my cousin,i stated before, she doesnt get involved in other peoples affairs so i dont want to ask her to talk to him. I shouldnt have to.

If he was a upstanding brother with respect, he would have at least emailed me to let me know its not going anywhere.
 
AnonymousGender said:
There isnt an emergency. Im sure of it because my cousin and her husband run all the events at the masjid that they attend, and he is there every night for their iftar. He is in one piece, healthy, and from what my cousin told me his phone is in working order.

My cousin isnt the type to get involved and ask him why he stopped talking to me, but did relay me this information about him being a-okay.

Cold feet i guess?
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sis i told you. he is not a good character at all. what cold feet anybody gets to not reply to you just a simple text?. you are just living on false hope thats all that this guy is actually worth it at the end. i heard these stories time and time again of men doing the vanishing acts, its because they are just to **** picky with girls thats there problem. move on. its better, its ramadan don't let him destroy your mood in the holy month. think of Allah swt instead and put your heart at rest. there wil be other potential men later
 
Update.

So he contacted me a couple weeks ago. I had forgotten I wrote it hear but decided to update. He told me that he got caught up in the wrong crowd and listened to some friends who advised him not to enter into an engagement with me because I lived 3 hours away and various other reason and they succeeded in talking him out of it. He said he regrets his decision to disappear and hopes to resume where we left off.
I did Istikhara and consulted my parents as well and decided not to resume it. I felt an even stronger urge not to after praying but also when I thought about it I realized I dont want to be with a man who is so easily swayed by his friends. I just dont want to take that chance. Also, my father felt incredibly disrespected by the mans actions because he gave them so much hospitality and to be treated that way and have his daughter cast aside without a reason was not easy for him. He forgave the man but told him that he does not think it will be a good match.
 
AnonymousGender said:
Update.

So he contacted me a couple weeks ago. I had forgotten I wrote it hear but decided to update. He told me that he got caught up in the wrong crowd and listened to some friends who advised him not to enter into an engagement with me because I lived 3 hours away and various other reason and they succeeded in talking him out of it. He said he regrets his decision to disappear and hopes to resume where we left off.
I did Istikhara and consulted my parents as well and decided not to resume it. I felt an even stronger urge not to after praying but also when I thought about it I realized I dont want to be with a man who is so easily swayed by his friends. I just dont want to take that chance. Also, my father felt incredibly disrespected by the mans actions because he gave them so much hospitality and to be treated that way and have his daughter cast aside without a reason was not easy for him. He forgave the man but told him that he does not think it will be a good match.
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Good Decision. You are a strong woman. I respect the fact that you have more love for your family than the guy you "fell" for because at the end your parents are always right.
 

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