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Salaam ive read from a website that if someone falls for one person but doesn’t work out then Allah is protecting you from the other person “ who is not good person” however this means the other person is not good so imagine what the other person would be thinking that Allah is keeping someone away from them because he or she is not good person, isn’t this unfair to think like this or will kill the person internally knowing they not good in Allahs eyes? How does all this work
 
Wa'alaykumussalaam Allah knows what is good for us in this world and the hereafter.
We may not like something, but it's good for us and we may like something but it's not good for us.
Just because our nafs desires something, does not mean that thing will benefit us in this world and the hereafter,
it may lead us to destruction and sometimes we find out right away sometimes we find out much later.
If you have done everything right according to the deen and the relationship still doesn't work out, make dua ask Allah to reveal the reason why.
Only He has the full the knowledge and wisdom of everything.
 
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Salaam ive read from a website that if someone falls for one person but doesn’t work out then Allah is protecting you from the other person “ who is not good person” however this means the other person is not good so imagine what the other person would be thinking that Allah is keeping someone away from them because he or she is not good person, isn’t this unfair to think like this or will kill the person internally knowing they not good in Allahs eyes? How does all this work
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Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

Why assume it's the other person? It could be them? Or it could be that both were not going to be good for one another in marriage, which may have ended badly somewhere down the line and if children were involved then it would have been even worse. There could be many reasons of which we may never know until the Hereafter. Therefore there is no point assuming what the reasons could be.

However what both involved should do is to repent sincerely for getting into a relationship in the first place which was devoid of any blessings to begin with. The problem is that once one falls for another person, then one becomes blind to many of the signs of whether or not the other person is good for them in marriage. So the fault and blame is on both parties getting involved with eachother in a relationship outside of marriage in the first place, disobeying Allah.

However whatever the reason is that things didn't work out, both parties involved must repent sincerely and also thank Allah profusely for doing what was best for them and for potentially saving them from greater harm. Surely we must put our trust in Allah to help and protect us throughout our lives and to steer us in the right direction. For his knowledge and wisdom is infinite whereas ours is limited and finite.

So we must learn from our mistakes now and leave the past behind and move forward. We must only go about looking for a potential spouse in a way that pleases Allah and within the boundaries of Islam and not step outside of those boundaries as this is what shaythan wants.

Please look into the following thread for more detailed advice on this issue:

How to get through pain from a pre-marital relationship
 
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Salaam ive read from a website that if someone falls for one person but doesn’t work out then Allah is protecting you from the other person “ who is not good person” however this means the other person is not good so imagine what the other person would be thinking that Allah is keeping someone away from them because he or she is not good person, isn’t this unfair to think like this or will kill the person internally knowing they not good in Allahs eyes? How does all this work
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Just a thought, you may both be good people, but just not right for each other. Just because you are not right for each other does not mean that either of you are bad. Allah will know who is right for you and who is right for her.

I have experience of what it is to be single, and I have 38 years being married. The first thirty seven years of marriage are the hardest, then it gets even tougher, nothing really prepares you for the problems you will face. Life is one continuous struggle. Give thanks to Allah in both good times and bad.

May Allah bless you on your journey,
Eric
 
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Salaam ive read from a website that if someone falls for one person but doesn’t work out then Allah is protecting you from the other person “ who is not good person” however this means the other person is not good so imagine what the other person would be thinking that Allah is keeping someone away from them because he or she is not good person, isn’t this unfair to think like this or will kill the person internally knowing they not good in Allahs eyes? How does all this work
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Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

This is not true and rather the case can be vice versa. Allah has given us the choice of selection to both the genders, as in Surah Al Baqara, Allah says:
[FONT=pt_sans]“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.”[/FONT][FONT=pt_sans] (2:232)
And,[/FONT][FONT=pt_sans]“Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity.” (24:26)

And there is Hadith [/FONT][FONT=pt_sans]“A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper.”[/FONT][FONT=pt_sans] (Bukhari)

So both the persons may be too good in Allah's eyes, but they may not be good for one another in whatever context.
Allah knows best and yes Allah knows best.

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:salam:
:bism:

It is not that easy to interpret. Also, every ayah has at least ayahs before and after them if not the causes of revelation.

Beeing more intense in religious practice and good deeds will maybe get Satan and his allies to attack and sabotage us. He hates humans.

Men/woman of purity(chaste) can become opposite, eudhubillah, and opposite ones can (under special conditions) become pure/chaste (ayats after in surah An Nur).

We should recite mornings and evenings and before sleep duas to prevent sabotages.

A lot of dua for istikhara: Allahumma khirli wakhtarli.

Duas for guidence:
Allahumma inni asalukal huda wassadaad
Rabbi zidni ilman warzuqni fahman
Allahumma arinal haqqa haqqan warzuqnatibaah wa arinal batilan batila warzuqnajtinabah
Allahumma alhimni rushdi wa aidhni min sharri nafsee
And others, please find in Arabic.

Salawat ibrahimi, estegfar (best long, like: astagfirullah al adheemalladhii la ilaha illa huwal hayyul qayyumu wa atubu ilayh), tasbehs, like longer:subhanallahi walhamdulillahi wa la ilaha illallahu wallahu akbar wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billahil aliyyil adheem, pray salat duha, awwabin, tahajjud.

Duas from Hisn al Muslimi and Ad Dua Divine Help and it will be better and better inshaAllah.

We should read a book a week inshaAllah.
 
Salaam ul laykum, I just want to say thank you and jazak Allah for all your excellent replies. Thank you so much and I’ll be taking everything on board
 

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