PLEASE give any advice 15 yr old daughter pregnant

ameen to the duaas.

I'm glad to hear you're sounding a little more positive mashaAllah. You are in my duaas as you know. Stay strong sis. I'm here for you inshaAllah.
 
i believe the two should get married, because it would make it much easier for the child to cope with when he or she is born. abortion is not an option as said before. if she loved this guy enough to have a child with him, then she should have enough love and commitment for him to not object to marriage to him when she becomes of age to marry. there are too many single moms out there, and it really outs alot of stress on families and the children especially from these pre-marital relationships.
 
:sl: sister...
I am pained that you feel the need to go anonymous or especially choose your words lest people judge you for the actions of your daughter..

sister it is Islam you choose and Allah SWT won't disregard your righteous deeds insha'Allah least of which for the sins of your daughter. From no man's sins shall another be punished or goodness shall another be rewarded..

I'd hope that you can have a supportive Muslim community, but I understand that many unfortunately are too wrapped in self-righteousness that they neglect the basic principles of Islam, which is to be kind, cheerful, helpful and neighborly over being too harsh and judgmental.

You'll always have brothers and sisters on this forum who care for you deeply, insha'Allah if you feel the urge to PM for moral support..

May Allah make your affairs easy on you and let this be the focus that brings your daughter closer to Allah swt..

waslaam 3lykoum wr wb
 
AnonymousGender said:
I tried many times through the courts to prevent this but even though the courts supposedly have the "statatory rape" law, the police said that they wouldn't prosecute him since it was consentual. even though she is a minor and he is an adult.
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How stupid, what is the point of having the law if they can go unpunished if there consent??

AnonymousGender said:
We spoke yesterday and she wants to terminate, but I told her how I felt that she chose to have sex full well knowing that there was possible going to be this consequence, and she still chose to do it. So I told her that I felt that now she is pregnant that she should take responsibility for her actions.
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Exactly. She should take responsibility. There is no need to take the life of an innocent baby just because the mother did something wrong.

How far along is she? How many months?
 
I think both of them should be married.... it's so sad to see babies born without a father and mother....

No to abortion..... if your daughter doesnt want to take care the baby...you should pledge to her that you would....

Allah Ma3akon!imsad
 
As her mother you are responsible.

If I were in your shoes I would force her if needed to avoid the abortion. She has no right to kill an unborn child, that power alone lies with Allah.

The baby may be a blessing in disguise. Allah works in mysterious ways, sometimes death, fortune and new life changes who we are.

Contact the husband and make him take responsibility for the baby. Whether he is a muslim or not, then he should marry her as soon as possible regardles of faith. It isn't a bad prospect, he needs to take responisbility for his actions, your daughter and the baby's future.

He doesn't have a choice..
 
Ushae said:
As her mother you are responsible.

If I were in your shoes I would force her if needed to avoid the abortion.

in America the sister CANNOT stop a minor child from having an abortion!


She has no right to kill an unborn child, that power alone lies with Allah.

In America she[the daughter] has EVERY "right" to kill her unborn child, NOT ONLY THAT, but the school system will help and do it without the consent or even knowledge of the mother! [of the student]

The baby may be a blessing in disguise. Allah works in mysterious ways, sometimes death, fortune and new life changes who we are.

Contact the husband and make him take responsibility for the baby.

financially, yes...

Whether he is a muslim or not, then he should marry her as soon as possible regardles of faith.

if the daughter were Muslim and the father of the child wasn't, we wouldn't be saying that. the 20 year old male may be a total piece of excretion and should be discouraged from ever seeing the daughter again!


It isn't a bad prospect, he needs to take responsibility for his actions, your daughter and the baby's future.

He doesn't have a choice..
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Brothers and Sisters we are talking about a revert Sister in America, the pregnant daughter in this case has more "rights" than ANYBODY in this case and the unborn child has ABSOLUTELY ZERO rights!

if the child is not born, the 20 year will have no consequences in the entire ordeal. please try to keep all of this in mind when helping the Sister!

i'm not picking on the poster, i just wanted to show everyone the "real deal" in the good old USA!

let's make lots of du'a, In Sha'a Allah!

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Asalam alaikum everyone,
JazakAllah for all the great support.
Today she had a dr appt and when I went to get her from school she hadn't been there all day, of course I panicked! But Alhumdullilah she didn't do it, she did go the the family planning for information. Here in the great USA even thought she can't even drive yet she can have confidential dr appts and get this abortion with or without my permission. :cry:
She came home late and I took her to dr and they gave her an ultrasound and she is 5-6 wks, the bad part is that her and the dr talked to her as I was told to go out of the room (confidentiality)and when I asked to see the ultrasound pics the dr said "oh there isn't anything to see" and that there isn't even a heart beat, making my daughter think it is not a life yet. That is BULL!! I was so mad at how nonchalant the dr was. She should at least be straight with my daughter and let her know accurate information that baby is forming and does have a heart beat, then she might think before doing anything to harm it.
Sorry this is so long, but I told my daughter that if she does go ahead and have an abortion that she can't live here anymore, I told her I don't agree and that I would support her and help her to keep it.
I can't keep her on lockdown, and it kills me to think of her doing it.
I am praying for Alllah to give her wisdom and strength to do the right thing and accept responsiblity.
As for the "GUY" he is useless!! And marrying him would not make the situation any better, just put my daughter in an abusive relationship. InshaAllah like some of you posted, this baby could be the angel sent to help her to make a decision to change her life in the right direction!
 
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Okhee, I think it's possible she tried to convince the doctor to tell you that there's no life yet. Your child is doing whatever she can to have an abortion without opposing you.
 
She made the mistake of fornicating, tell her not to make the mistake of taking an innocent life.

Keep praying for her, and May Allah help you and your family.
 
abortion is not an easy option, but to your daughter, it's the easiest option right now. so if you don't want her to do it, she has to be convinced of it. no lock down or grounding will change that fact. I think a firm yet supportive stance is very important.
 
BNDGR said:
Asalam alaikum everyone,
JazakAllah for all the great support.
Today she had a dr appt and when I went to get her from school she hadn't been there all day, of course I panicked! But Alhumdullilah she didn't do it, she did go the the family planning for information. Here in the great USA even thought she can't even drive yet she can have confidential dr appts and get this abortion with or without my permission. :cry:
She came home late and I took her to dr and they gave her an ultrasound and she is 5-6 wks, the bad part is that her and the dr talked to her as I was told to go out of the room (confidentiality)and when I asked to see the ultrasound pics the dr said "oh there isn't anything to see" and that there isn't even a heart beat, making my daughter think it is not a life yet. That is BULL!! I was so mad at how nonchalant the dr was. She should at least be straight with my daughter and let her know accurate information that baby is forming and does have a heart beat, then she might think before doing anything to harm it.
Sorry this is so long, but I told my daughter that if she does go ahead and have an abortion that she can't live here anymore, I told her I don't agree and that I would support her and help her to keep it.
I can't keep her on lockdown, and it kills me to think of her doing it.
I am praying for Alllah to give her wisdom and strength to do the right thing and accept responsiblity.
As for the "GUY" he is useless!! And marrying him would not make the situation any better, just put my daughter in an abusive relationship. InshaAllah like some of you posted, this baby could be the angel sent to help her to make a decision to change her life in the right direction!
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Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir Raheem,

erm, you forgot to post as anonymous...

assuming that your daughter is intelligent, you could attempt 2 approaches, the first being this. if you come from the "Christian" world, there is a belief that the devil, Shaytan, IS the lord of this world and that the only way out is thru the trinity. as Muslims, however, we KNOW the truth! it's VERY SIMPLE:


21:
Muhsin Khan: And they all shall appear before Allah (on the Day of Resurrection) then the weak will say to those who were arrogant (chiefs): "Verily, we were following you; can you avail us anything from Allah's Torment?" They will say: "Had Allah guided us, we would have guided you. It makes no difference to us (now) whether we rage, or bear (these torments) with patience, there is no place of refuge for us."
22:
Muhsin Khan: And Shaitan (Satan) will say when the matter has been decided: "Verily, Allah promised you a promise of truth. And I too promised you, but I betrayed you. I had no authority over you except that I called you, so you responded to me. So blame me not, but blame yourselves. I cannot help you, nor can you help me. I deny your former act in associating me (Satan) as a partner with Allah (by obeying me in the life of the world). Verily, there is a painful torment for the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.)."
23:
Muhsin Khan: And those who believed (in the Oneness of Allah and His Messengers and whatever they brought) and did righteous deeds, will be made to enter Garden
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that's from Surat Ibrahim[#14]; the 1st time i heard this, from here, well actually it was a cd in my car, the same version:

http://www.kalamullah.com/noble-quran.html

i was thunderstruck! to me it seemed to inform us of just how much Shaytan has "pulled the wool over our eyes!" it's just food for thought, but it does show us how the "devil made me do it" type excuses are so lame that even Shaytan will ridicule us: "I had no authority over you except that I called you" and worse than that "so you responded to me!" on the other hand, it teaches us that all we really have to do is to STOP RESPONDING to Shaytan! it's not as hard as it would appear, although not mere child's play either!

the 2nd is more complicated, but have her ponder on the real truth behind Planned Parenthood:

http://blackgenocide.org/sanger.html

there are some real controversial issues dealing with "Family Planning", the main gist being that you[well, us actually] are NOT worth the food you eat [or the resources that you consume] and thus to have us "kill our own selves off" is JUST what some of the "World's Elite want! and i dislike using Alex Jones as an example, but i'm out of time, but check this out and do some research:

http://www.infowars.com/articles/nwo/occult_dismantling_georgia_guidestones.htm

part of the goals of the world's elite are to:

The Message of the Georgia Guidestones

1. Maintain humanity under 500,000,000 in perpetual balance with nature.
2. Guide reproduction wisely - improving fitness and diversity.
3. Unite humanity with a living new language .
4. Rule passion - faith - tradition - and all things with tempered reason.
5. Protect people and nations with fair laws and just courts.
6. Let all nations rule internally resolving external disputes in a world court.
7. Avoid petty laws and useless officials.
8. Balance personal rights with social duties.
9. Prize truth - beauty - love - seeking harmony with the infinite.
10. Be not a cancer on the earth - Leave room for nature - Leave room for nature.
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by ignoring Allah[swt], we falling into the "trap" of these people. also check out this by Aaron Russo:

http://www.onedollardvdproject.com/DVD-new/Vids7.html

it's not long, so watch the whole clip if you can,

aaach, out of time, gotta go!

May Allah[swt] assist you and guide you in your time of need and at all times and may He[swt] also guide and aid all of your children!
Ameen!

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:sl:
I myself am 15yrs old. and for me it is unimaginable to be pregnant and looking at the prospect of marriage. May Allah help you through this difficult time.
rani
 
786rani said:
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I myself am 15yrs old. and for me it is unimaginable to be pregnant and looking at the prospect of marriage. May Allah help you through this difficult time.
rani
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JazakAllah for your post, it is something at 15 that shouldn't even be a thought!!
Your right, but unfortunately without having strong beliefs, it is very easy to be influenced by others. You sound very strong mashaAllah!
I am being there for my daughter and inshaAllah mabye one day she will be guided to Islam.
To everyone who posted, reg. this, she is still struggling with her decisions and Allah has put obstacles in her path when she has tried to do something wrong, and everytime it is giving her a second chance to consider what she is doing and to make the right decision!
Allah is very merciful and he is there for us even when we have done wrong, he is still there trying to help her!!!
I am very thankfull to have being introduced to Islam, it has changed me and without Allah and his teachings if this situation would have occured I know for a fact that I would be lost, and that I couldn't have guided her !!
She is a smart and beautiful girl that has made a mistake, but inshAllah she will choose to do the right thing and her life will be better for it.
 

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