Themuslimah
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As Salam alaykum
I have questions about the rights of women to study and work and the limit of obedience to parents in personal matters.
Can a husband/father prevent his wife/daughter from studying and working even from home where there is no mixing for no reasons and say that it is not mandatory for him to provide you the books you want to study for a subject or to let you work from home just because it is something you like or is interested in because it is only worldly knowledge it is not that important to him and even when it comes to religious knowledge he says it is not mandatory for me to teach you more than the basics and says that he only has to provide you for food, clothing and basic knowledge on how to practice the deen like how to pray and fast what is haram but nothing deeper than that like how to understand hadeeths, how interpretation works, why do scholars agree or disagree on some matters, different ways of reciting quran and things like that and says that the fact it is permitted for women to work and study in Islam doesn't matter he can prevent you from it even without a valid reason his orders come before what is permitted for you and when it comes to you wanting to have your own pocket money with your work from home he says it is not necessary because he already provides for food and cloths and you don't need more in life than that everything you want more for yourself for your pleasure even if it is halal is not necessary so you should be satisfied with what he gives you only. Is it okay for him to prevent you like that with these arguments from working and studying even if there is no fitna at all for you to study and work it only brings you benefit there is no temptations and you are not compromising your obligations?
I have another question as well about parents who like to prevent you from things that are halal for you just because they don't like it. Like they don't let you follow a halal career path you like, just because they want you to become a doctor instead of that or they don't want you to dress a certain colour which is halal because they don't like it or they don't want you to eat a certain food just because they don't eat it and things like that which are related to your private life and choices and are halal, don't bring your harm but they just dislike them. Do you have to obey them for that, leave something that is beneficial and permitted for you just because they don't like it?
I'd like to have sources about these matters because I've seen some scholars say you have to abandon what you like even if it is halal for you to please your parents and some say they can't prevent you from what is halal for you in your personal life and same for women's rights to study and work when all the conditions are met for that some say even if it is beneficial for you, you like it it is 100% halal your father or husband can prevent you from that and some say no they can't because all the conditions are okay for it so I'm quite confused honestly.
Jazakum'Allahu khayran if you take time to answer my questions
I have questions about the rights of women to study and work and the limit of obedience to parents in personal matters.
Can a husband/father prevent his wife/daughter from studying and working even from home where there is no mixing for no reasons and say that it is not mandatory for him to provide you the books you want to study for a subject or to let you work from home just because it is something you like or is interested in because it is only worldly knowledge it is not that important to him and even when it comes to religious knowledge he says it is not mandatory for me to teach you more than the basics and says that he only has to provide you for food, clothing and basic knowledge on how to practice the deen like how to pray and fast what is haram but nothing deeper than that like how to understand hadeeths, how interpretation works, why do scholars agree or disagree on some matters, different ways of reciting quran and things like that and says that the fact it is permitted for women to work and study in Islam doesn't matter he can prevent you from it even without a valid reason his orders come before what is permitted for you and when it comes to you wanting to have your own pocket money with your work from home he says it is not necessary because he already provides for food and cloths and you don't need more in life than that everything you want more for yourself for your pleasure even if it is halal is not necessary so you should be satisfied with what he gives you only. Is it okay for him to prevent you like that with these arguments from working and studying even if there is no fitna at all for you to study and work it only brings you benefit there is no temptations and you are not compromising your obligations?
I have another question as well about parents who like to prevent you from things that are halal for you just because they don't like it. Like they don't let you follow a halal career path you like, just because they want you to become a doctor instead of that or they don't want you to dress a certain colour which is halal because they don't like it or they don't want you to eat a certain food just because they don't eat it and things like that which are related to your private life and choices and are halal, don't bring your harm but they just dislike them. Do you have to obey them for that, leave something that is beneficial and permitted for you just because they don't like it?
I'd like to have sources about these matters because I've seen some scholars say you have to abandon what you like even if it is halal for you to please your parents and some say they can't prevent you from what is halal for you in your personal life and same for women's rights to study and work when all the conditions are met for that some say even if it is beneficial for you, you like it it is 100% halal your father or husband can prevent you from that and some say no they can't because all the conditions are okay for it so I'm quite confused honestly.
Jazakum'Allahu khayran if you take time to answer my questions