Satisfaction

[mr2299muslim]

Salam Brothers

My problem is that i lack any sort of satisfaction in my life, i have deep regrets in my life and trying to come to terms with them, i have moved to a new city some 2 years back which is pretty much the last thing i couldve hoped for, very few people , very few activities , all pretty much gloomy, my parents are impossible to talk to, extremely overprotective and cautious who have never encouraged me to do the things that i love and never been proactive, so here i am bored 24:7 nothing to do, nothing i can possibly do, no friends,nothing to look forward to as i have very little aspirations and feeling directionless waiting when a waste of a human being like me would die, pleasee help

 

[Alpha Dude]

Wa alaykum salam,

All these barriers are in your mind. When you have a weak mind and self doubt, you can never achieve to your potential.

You had a few set backs in life and things didn't work out the way you would have liked. Accept it and move on. Stop living in the past, dreaming of what could have been and blaming your parents and circumstances.

Life is a test. There's going to be ups and downs. Your purpose is to pass that test. This entails you being a good Muslim, avoiding all sin and doing good deeds, worshipping Allah to the best of your ability. This is the purpose of your life and this is what you should see as an ultimate goal and this is what should dictate your life's actions and decisions.

In light of which: Finish your education. Find a job. Find a girl and get married. Have children. Be a father. Pray salah, fast, give zakat, go on Hajj when you can afford it. <-- THERE, that's it. THAT is life and that is what you have to do. Nothing special about it. Perfectly normal and what millions and millions of people around the world do everyday.

Stop over-thinking and being gloomy. Go out and make friends. Nothing stopping you.

You are only restricted by your own lack of self belief and belief and trust in Allah. Stand up to your parents if you have to, in the nicest most gentlest manner possible.

 

[ardianto]

Waalaikumsalam, young brother.

I am the father of two boys. The oldest is teenager while the youngest is still a kid. Now the oldest is still in tour to Bali with his school. Every student could choose to go not not to go, but my son chose to go because he like traveling. Last month he even participated in breaking the world record in art.

My teenager boy is active in his own activities without I told him that he must active in this activity or in that activity, but because his own initiative. I myself was active boy when I was young which I competed in dozens sport competition. Not because my parents encouraged me to active in competition, but because my own initiative.

Young bro, I understand if you are bored because you cannot do the things that you like. I understand if you are afraid to do something that you like without permission from your parents. This is what would happen if the parents was overprotective.

But you don't need to afraid if the activity that choose is not something that negative. And you don't need to wait until your parents encourage you. Just use your own initiative, and do what you want to do.

If you want to join in club or community of hobby that you like, you don't need to ask your parents permission before. But just join, and when your parents ask you about it, explain them that your activity is positive activity. Invite them to see what you do in your activity.

Probably they are not so overprotective like your assumption.