One thing in my life that makes me grateful is easiness that I got in the time when I was looking for a life partner. I didn't need to be bothered to find someone who was willing to accept me because there was always a girl who showed a sign that she was interested to me. But Alhamdulillah, that easiness didn't make me think to become a playboy.
I got married in 1994 and lived happily with my wife who gave me two children until mid of 2013 when my beloved wife return to Allah due to breast cancer. So I become a widower, or in another word being single again. And this 'easiness' happen again. But I can control myself to not respond them.
I know, there many men dream to have easiness like mine. But let me tell, it's not easy to live as a Muslim man who must hold Islamic values if you had easiness like this. This easiness often put you in situation which you must fight temptation in your heart to avoid being seduced. To be honest, when I was young I've ever in situation when a woman invited me to sleep with her. In another time another woman tried to do physical sexual harassment. Alhamdulillah I could out from these situations and didn't fall into their seduction.
How can (could) I control myself to not getting seduced when I meet a woman?.
I was born in family that open minded in the way of thinking, but very conservative in manner and etiquette. They taught me that I should become respected person, and the way to be respected person is, I must able to maintain my modesty, I must able to maintain my good manner and etiquette when I interact with the other. If I was not able to maintain my etiquette and modestly, then people would disrespect me.
So when I interact with a woman I always try to maintain my attitude. Including controlling my gaze, controlling my mouth to not say something that indecent. It's because I don't want the woman who interact with me disrespect me. I have learned many things about people, and one thing that I have learned is, women have huge respect to a man who can maintain his manner, etiquette, and modesty.
As a man, of course I have interest to woman. Often I interact with woman who look good in my eyes. But I can control myself. I do not want to tease her, or seduce her. Yes, if we are to control our attitude and behavior, then we will be able to maintain our heart and feeling too.
And how could I avoid getting seduced in the situation when I faced a temptation?.
Like I've said, I was born in my family that open minded. They taught me to think, not only for today, but also for tomorrow. They taught me to think about the consequence which I would get if I did an action. That's why I could run from that situation because my clear mind told me that I would get a trouble if I let myself getting seduced.
So, brothers and sisters. Build yourself to be the respected person who can maintain your good manner and etiquette. Make the modesty as the most important part of your beauty. And always maintain your clear mind. Do not think only for today, but think about tomorrow too.
In Shaa Allah, you will become a person who is not easy to be seduced by someone, or by situation.
And at anonymous poster. How to overcome your disturbing feeling?. You must realize that as human you can make a mistake. But it doesn't mean you can be the better person. Leave your guilty feeling as your past, and focus to the future. Focus on how to build yourself to be the better person. And if you still have a feeling on her, try to accept that she is not for you, and believe, one day Allah will give you someone who will become your beloved wife.