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[anonymous]

Advice & Support is the gossip tabloid page!



Muslims!

Unable to restrain myself from posting the obvious. The Advice & Support threads is nothing more than a Gossip Tabloid Page for the same forum members. It appears that posters are unable to wait to either request more intimate details or continue a useless thread that usually receives the best advice to visit the Imam at the local Masjid.

The rare occurrences when a OP actually is requesting generalized questions and receives an answer and leaves is I guess the reason to continue the section. If the thread can assist one person is has fulfilled its purpose.

Not understanding why the same people are entertaining the same issues.

How many of these stories are fabricated? I hope the moderators begin to view the IP addresses. Allah 'Alim

I realize the truth is not popular but is necessary.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 74:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "Beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another, but be brothers. And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her."

 

[AnonymousPoster]

long story short i was pressured into marriage two years ago in abroad and its being a roller coaster from start to finish while being married I haven really been contact with the alleged husband of mine just on and off I became ill and tormanted couldnt believ what was hapenin to me till i couldnt take no more i some how picked up courage to seperate from him after a year initially he came to an agreement with me that he accepts my request for divorce as he can see i dont want it. I am happy to give everythin they gave i dont want to keep anythin absolute nothin

I went to mosque sent out all the relevant paper work for khula i thought it would hv got sorted without going to shariah court. While the khula was going through I had prospectiv marriage proposal nothin went ahead but i did want to get married again once the divorce was through my intention were to get married again considering the marriage i was in never felt like a marriage just a big mess i didn't know how to get my self out of.

Anyway after a while he decided not to sign the papers its not him whose refusing its his family who wont let him sign it. so i thought i'll give them more time because he's family refused and they wont sign it until i offer to make him a legal citizen in my country I refused. This being dragging for very long time i have not been in contact with them for more thn six months now so i decided to go to shariah council four months ago and they are looking in to the claim.

However i heard some where that if there is no contact between husban and wife for more than 6months its classed as divorce. Also as i am thinking of remarrying again as there is someone who wants to marry me and they know and understand about my situation am i commitin a major sin I have not met them or had no physical contact but i have an idea of the person who wants to marry me and have spoken to them when the khula was going through.

my question is When its mentioned about waiting period does that mean once the khula certificate has been granted by court i have to wait three months before thinkin of another marriage or is it three months of initial seperation from partner. it means nothing to me just a piece of paper contract of money making contract which has ruined my life and destroyed my family.

I dont wanna get married yet or til end of year or so but im scared that im even thinkin about it.I just want to start my life and be out of this mess as i a getting older and dont want to leave it till really late. but i dont know what my rights are there s long waiting list to see the court can drag up to another 6months i just wanted to know wat my rights were and where i'm going wrong. Everything just everywhere i just wanna sort somestuff out but have no idea where to start just been in one place for whole 2years and im getting sick of living the same day over and over and over.

Salam sister may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. Ameen.

Sorry to hear you went through a terrible ‘marriage’. I went through the same and I in such a mess.

I have now sorted out my divorce Alhumdulillah but I had to pay a lot of money to get my self out of it.

If he has come into the country already, then you will need to apply for an English court divorce as well an Islamic divorce.

If u need more info please don’t hesitate to ask.

 

[zakirs]

Re: Advice & Support is the gossip tabloid page!

Muslims!

Unable to restrain myself from posting the obvious. The Advice & Support threads is nothing more than a Gossip Tabloid Page for the same forum members. It appears that posters are unable to wait to either request more intimate details or continue a useless thread that usually receives the best advice to visit the Imam at the local Masjid.

The rare occurrences when a OP actually is requesting generalized questions and receives an answer and leaves is I guess the reason to continue the section. If the thread can assist one person is has fulfilled its purpose.

Not understanding why the same people are entertaining the same issues.

How many of these stories are fabricated? I hope the moderators begin to view the IP addresses. Allah 'Alim

I realize the truth is not popular but is necessary.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 74:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "Beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another, but be brothers. And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her."

this is scary

 

[S<Chowdhury]

Re: Advice & Support is the gossip tabloid page!

Muslims!

Unable to restrain myself from posting the obvious. The Advice & Support threads is nothing more than a Gossip Tabloid Page for the same forum members. It appears that posters are unable to wait to either request more intimate details or continue a useless thread that usually receives the best advice to visit the Imam at the local Masjid.

The rare occurrences when a OP actually is requesting generalized questions and receives an answer and leaves is I guess the reason to continue the section. If the thread can assist one person is has fulfilled its purpose.

Not understanding why the same people are entertaining the same issues.

How many of these stories are fabricated? I hope the moderators begin to view the IP addresses. Allah 'Alim

I realize the truth is not popular but is necessary.

I think the Mods need address your conduct and behaviour because this is the 2nd time your posting this message, you've been addressed in another thread (http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134293407-struggling-marriage-what-should-i-do.html). Who are you to say who is false and fabricating stories? brothers and sisters are here to advise not to question whether the story is true or false.