[anonymous]

with a man. he caught me by surprise. i feel so bad and silly now. i know its haram for me to touch another man but it just happened. i feel he just introduced himself andf stuck out his hand. i didnt have time to think

 

[true_muslimmah]

I know how u feel sis, at my training i have this tutor, he is very touchy-feely person, when he hears something good he will shake your hand and start stroking your back like your some cat.

I hate when he does that, and myself ended up shaking his hand, yuck, it is any ghunnah on us for this?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

funny lol when i dont have time to think i freeze, not allow my body to move on its own by thrusting out a hand ;D


next time just smile and say sorry

 

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I know how u feel sis, at my training i have this tutor, he is very touchy-feely person, when he hears something good he will shake your hand and start stroking your back like your some cat.

I hate when he does that, and myself ended up shaking his hand, yuck, it is any ghunnah on us for this?

Slap him one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Musaafirah]

I know how u feel sis, at my training i have this tutor, he is very touchy-feely person, when he hears something good he will shake your hand and start stroking your back like your some cat.

I hate when he does that, and myself ended up shaking his hand, yuck, it is any ghunnah on us for this?

Kindly explain, you can't have contact with males for religious purposes..Which also means you're not allowed to shake hands..
Failing that follow Serene's advice

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Kindly explain, you can't have contact with males for religious purposes..Which also means you're not allowed to shake hands..
Failing that follow Serene's advice

disagreed i think serenes advice should precede yours

both should be implemented

serenes one should be concentrated on though

 

[Thinker]

with a man. he caught me by surprise. i feel so bad and silly now. i know its haram for me to touch another man but it just happened. i feel he just introduced himself andf stuck out his hand. i didnt have time to think

Hi,

Surely if you are living in a Muslim country the men there would know that it is contrary to local custom not to shake hands and consequently not offer his hand; I presume you are living in a Muslim country?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Hi,

Surely if you are living in a Muslim country the men there would know that it is contrary to local custom not to shake hands and consequently not offer his hand; I presume you are living in a Muslim country?

but its forbidden quite stricly by the doctrines of islaam so its not something we can compromise. However there are many other ways we entertain the local custom such as being polite to neighbours, inviting them around and just being friendly. Theres no need to compromise religion for local customs

 

[Musaafirah]

Hi,

Surely if you are living in a Muslim country the men there would know that it is contrary to local custom not to shake hands and consequently not offer his hand; I presume you are living in a Muslim country?

She hasn't stated that she's living in a Muslim country :muddlehea..I assumed she meant she was in a Western Country, as I've also experienced people wanting to shake hands with me..I just give them the reason I've stated above..
Oh..and Bro Ibnabdulhakim..Whatever happened to kindness?..But then again the dude does sound like a twerp...

 

[Thinker]

but its forbidden quite stricly by the doctrines of islaam so its not something we can compromise. However there are many other ways we entertain the local custom such as being polite to neighbours, inviting them around and just being friendly. Theres no need to compromise religion for local customs

The point I was trying to make was - if she is living in a non Muslim country she needs to take into account the affect her refusal to shake hands would have. If I put out my hand and someone refused to shake it I would be offended. If your beliefs are THAT fundamental then perhaps you shouldn't live in a culture where hand shakes are the norm.

 

[Musaafirah]

The point I was trying to make was - if she is living in a non Muslim country she needs to take into account the affect her refusal to shake hands would have. If I put out my hand and someone refused to shake it I would be offended. If your beliefs are THAT fundamental then perhaps you shouldn't live in a culture where hand shakes are the norm.

What if they've explained the reasoning behind no shaking hands?
Also, shaking hands is completely unnecessary where a simple hello or other greeting or whatever's necessary at the time will suffice..

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

The point I was trying to make was - if she is living in a non Muslim country she needs to take into account the affect her refusal to shake hands would have. If I put out my hand and someone refused to shake it I would be offended. If your beliefs are THAT fundamental then perhaps you shouldn't live in a culture where hand shakes are the norm.

what a narrow minded man you are

 

[Re.TiReD]

with a man. he caught me by surprise. i feel so bad and silly now. i know its haram for me to touch another man but it just happened. i feel he just introduced himself andf stuck out his hand. i didnt have time to think

:salamext:

Aww the rest of the twerps in this thread aint even consoling you.

Sis it happened and u didnt do it on purpose. In future insha'Allah maybe have summin ready to say....or maybe even appear hesitant and he may get the message? oh:

 

[Thinker]

what a narrow minded man you are

I'm narrow m inded!!! Most people in this world, for all the right reasons, care about what others think of them. You need to ask yourself "what would would they think of me by refusing to shake their hand?" Then you need to ask yourself the question "in refusing to shake that persons hand (in the name of Islam) what image does that portray of Islam?" I would suggest that the refusing to shake that mans hand would not only protray your self as a radical fundamentalist it would also portrary Islam as a radical fundamentalist religion. Is that the image you want to portray?

 

[true_muslimmah]

Slap him one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol, and get kicked off my training? They will never understand

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I'm narrow m inded!!! Most people in this world, for all the right reasons, care about what others think of them. You need to ask yourself "what would would they think of me by refusing to shake their hand?" Then you need to ask yourself the question "in refusing to shake that persons hand (in the name of Islam) what image does that portray of Islam?" I would suggest that the refusing to shake that mans hand would not only protray your self as a radical fundamentalist it would also portrary Islam as a radical fundamentalist religion. Is that the image you want to portray?

its narrow because you actually would go as far as to think badly of someone just because they wish to have no physical contact with you. If you was open minded you would be OPEN to the REASONS they dont want to physically contact. One physical contact leads to being loose and when your loose your willing to do far more.


as is the western culture and society...

 

[true_muslimmah]

I'm narrow m inded!!! Most people in this world, for all the right reasons, care about what others think of them. You need to ask yourself "what would would they think of me by refusing to shake their hand?" Then you need to ask yourself the question "in refusing to shake that persons hand (in the name of Islam) what image does that portray of Islam?" I would suggest that the refusing to shake that mans hand would not only protray your self as a radical fundamentalist it would also portrary Islam as a radical fundamentalist religion. Is that the image you want to portray?

Spot on, you said it the best possible way. I totally agree with you, I just keep my distance from him and if he asks me "any luck on a job" i say naa, not yet, to avoid him getting all touchy feely, hehe :statisfie

 

[Chuck]

I'm narrow m inded!!! Most people in this world, for all the right reasons, care about what others think of them. You need to ask yourself "what would would they think of me by refusing to shake their hand?" Then you need to ask yourself the question "in refusing to shake that persons hand (in the name of Islam) what image does that portray of Islam?" I would suggest that the refusing to shake that mans hand would not only protray your self as a radical fundamentalist it would also portrary Islam as a radical fundamentalist religion. Is that the image you want to portray?

why not shaking hands is such a big deal? Hello would suffice. If I don't want to shake hands, it is my right not to shake hands... simple as that. Hello would be enough.

 

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:salamext:

Tell them he's tryna touch u up :| no tutor is allowed to do that hun

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Spot on, you said it the best possible way. I totally agree with you, I just keep my distance from him and if he asks me "any luck on a job" i say naa, not yet, to avoid him getting all touchy feely, hehe :statisfie

he thinks your soft and vulnerable that perv his probably done it to loads of other girls


nothing is worth a muslims honor and dignity