Situation with wife. So before I married her...

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and knew her... she use to live with her sister and brother in law. It was for about a decade before she lived on her own. Anyways when they use to live together I found out she use to always be hijab scarfless in front of brother in law and I asked her to cover now but she says its normal he's like a brother she been doing it for so long.
So since the brother in law use to always see her scarfless...is it still a point to cover in front of him now??
 
Assalamu alaikum

Stoic said:
So since the brother in law use to always see her scarfless...is it still a point to cover in front of him now??
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Yes absolutely! Consider not covering up a sin. So shouldnt she stop sinning when she knows its wrong? It doesnt matter if he already saw her. We dont choose to cover just to hide ourselves from men, rather its to please Allah subhanahu wa tala. Advise her to understand why she wears the scarf in the first place. You should be more adamant about helping her wear it properly. Even if he is like her brother, he isnt her brother. The prophet pbuh actually warned us specifically about the brother in law being in the presence of sister in laws. I will post hadith later inshallah.
 
*charisma* said:
Assalamu alaikum



Yes absolutely! Consider not covering up a sin. So shouldnt she stop sinning when she knows its wrong? It doesnt matter if he already saw her. We dont choose to cover just to hide ourselves from men, rather its to please Allah subhanahu wa tala. Advise her to understand why she wears the scarf in the first place. You should be more adamant about helping her wear it properly. Even if he is like her brother, he isnt her brother. The prophet pbuh actually warned us specifically about the brother in law being in the presence of sister in laws. I will post hadith later inshallah.
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Please do. Jzk
 
Salam. Even I had gone through the same situation, but once I started to follow my religious rules, I wear in front of them too so that is completely all right.
 
Stoic said:
and knew her... she use to live with her sister and brother in law. It was for about a decade before she lived on her own. Anyways when they use to live together I found out she use to always be hijab scarfless in front of brother in law and I asked her to cover now but she says its normal he's like a brother she been doing it for so long.
So since the brother in law use to always see her scarfless...is it still a point to cover in front of him now??
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Asalaamualaykum:

Take Charisma's Advice on this situation.

I think it would be worth adding to this that to avoid a family discomfort, You should advice the brother-in-law of you wife, that his wife (Your wife's sister, Also perform hijab in front of you).
If your wife's sister is not wearing Hijab, then you will killing two birds with one stone.
If your wife's sister is already performing hijab in front of you - then your wife simply needs to take a lesson from her sister.
 
samirbrazendale said:
Asalaamualaykum:

Take Charisma's Advice on this situation.

I think it would be worth adding to this that to avoid a family discomfort, You should advice the brother-in-law of you wife, that his wife (Your wife's sister, Also perform hijab in front of you).
If your wife's sister is not wearing Hijab, then you will killing two birds with one stone.
If your wife's sister is already performing hijab in front of you - then your wife simply needs to take a lesson from her sister.
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I agree with samirbrazendale....i believe there was a hadeeth where the Prophet (SAW) advised on in laws, and when a sahaba questioned this, he said, "the in-laws are death" right here: https://islamqa.info/en/1940
 

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