[786rani]

i know it sounds stupid but in islam is it permissable for a woman to speak to a friend for advice about a personal problem involving here husband or vice-versa.
rani

 

[searchingsoul]

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I sure hope so because I tell my friends everything about my husband.

 

[mlsh27]

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Same here! I don't know what I would do without my Mom's & friends' help! I would be divorced!

 

[searchingsoul]

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I think women need to stick together so they can control men.

 

[Malaikah]

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i know it sounds stupid but in islam is it permissable for a woman to speak to a friend for advice about a personal problem involving here husband or vice-versa.
rani

um.. i guess it would depend how personal you mean, i assume things can get pretty personal between husband and wife...:rollseyes

perhaps you should elaborate?

 

[searchingsoul]

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um.. i guess it would depend how personal you mean, i assume things can get pretty personal between husband and wife...:rollseyes

perhaps you should elaborate?

Are you not allowed to talk about intimate details?

 

[lolwatever]

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^^ yeh the hadith says that the husband/wife arent' allowed to disclose things that are v v v vv v v personal...

that's different to sorting out legal matters though... general disputes, negligence or things like that..

salams

 

[mlsh27]

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What if the negligence is personal?

 

[searchingsoul]

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^^ yeh the hadith says that the husband/wife arent' allowed to disclose things that are v v v vv v v personal...

that's different to sorting out legal matters though... general disputes, negligence or things like that..

salams

Then how can you make fun of your husband without him knowing?

 

[Quruxbadaan]

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Im sure it wouldnt be nessisary to get into intimate detail

I mean DETAIL?? is it really going to help if you go into DETAIL??? about intimacy
as in

he did this and than that in this order like that?? (replacing this and that with actual descriptions)

 

[SirZubair]

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I think women need to stick together so they can control men.

Hah !

Dreams are free ! :uhwhat

 

[lolwatever]

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Then how can you make fun of your husband without him knowing?

you're not suppose to ffended: ffended: ffended: same applies husband to wife.

hint hint: there's a word that starts with b... back**ting.. play hangman?

 

[searchingsoul]

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you're not suppose to ffended: ffended: ffended: same applies husband to wife.

Just a joke.

 

[Quruxbadaan]

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I dont think i would be able to tell somebody about my intimate life its just not me i just couldnt do it

 

[searchingsoul]

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I dont think i would be able to tell somebody about my intimate life its just not me i just couldnt do it

I would only feel comfortable sharing this information with a very close girlfriend.

 

[umm-sulaim]

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Gotta say ladies, Islam does prohibit us from talking about certain issues like between husband and wife kinda issues, on the basis of it being just gossip or just cos you wanna tell someone for the heck of it...
Theres a hadeeth narrated be Aisha radhiyaAllahu anhaa that the prophet may Allah be pleased with him told her a story about women in jahiliyyah (time of ignorance) there was 10 of them and they promised eachother they would all talk about their husbands...its a long hadeeth..its in muslim and i think in bukhaari too...
the scholars use this hadeeth to prohibit women from talking about their husbands as its something that was done in the time of ignorance,
however Allah does say in the qur'aan "waasul7u khayr" and bringing together (people in dispute) is good...
so if you do have a problem, genuinley you can seek aid and advise from someone mum, big sister, close friend...,
in islam we're encouraged to ask the scholars as they will advise you according to the book of Allah and the sunnah of the prophet alayhi salaatu wassalaam, and as muslims thats where we seek our guidance from...
Allah says in the qur'aan "fas a'luu ahla dhikri in kuntum laa ta3lamuun"
then ask the people of remembrance if you do not know...

wassalaam.

 

[amirah_87]

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ass salaamu alaykum,

na3am ..well said ukthi!!....just wanna check sumthing with you...

maa huwal hadeeth 3an dhaaka an-nabiy wa abuhuu..wa'amratuhuu taquul nahnu kdaa wa kadaa...fa qalaa daliqhaa ...falamaa tazawwajah maraa thaaniy qalaa ibiqahaa.. aw bihaadhal ma3naa...al-qissa hawl man??...

just thought that would be a good daleel too...ayyi baab fee bukhariy aw muslimin huw??

jazakillah khayr big sis

 

[lolwatever]

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^^ ibrahim and ismail

he didnt say 'divorce her', he told her to tell ismail "to change teh doorstep" when he comes home.. and ibrahim went back home and when ismail heard it, he understood the riddle, which meant 'divorce your wife and marry someone else'

and the new wife he said about her 're-inforce your doorstep', and when the new wife told ismail that, he understood the riddle which meant 'stick close 2ur wife, she's good'.
salams

ps: sorry i dont know much arabic.. i'm just guessing ur asking about that incident..

 

[amirah_87]

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ass salaamu alaykum,

hey.....:giggling:...na3am..he did'nt sy dovorce!!..i was rushing to catch my sister whilst she was on break!!!...looks like i missed her!! :-\

jazakAllaahu khayr akhee :thumbs_up , you would'nt happen to know which chapter it's in , in the saheehayn would you!!??

well your arabics pretty good to get what i was chattin' bout.....;D

wassalaams

 

[amirah_87]

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ass salaamu alaykum..

"to change teh doorstep"

was'nt it the front gate!!....:?

Wallaahu A3lam