struggle with my husband and Islam

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:astag: Am struggling at the moment with my relationship with my husband we have been married for 10 years now but have no children
But i have mental health problems and no one in my family will take care of me Am still in love with my husband ...my husband isnt Muslim and has no interest in becoming Muslim i myself am struggling with religions going back and forth between faiths ...Normally me and my husband rarely fighting but today because i have felt that its right for me to follow Islam again he started shouting at me and had a go at me
he punched the bedroom door which now has a hole in it he calmed down now my sister is here and id said id speak to a minster friend about me wanting to follow Islam again most likely to get me to change my mind ...The person am speaking to will say am not Muslim am Christian
i know i shouldn't have gone back to Church but i feel pressured into doing what my mother , husband and friends
i know i shouldnt have turned my back on Allah Am unable to take care of myself as my health ( hearing voices and depression seeing things and POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER ETC ) i cant go out on my own as i am a danger to myself and others ( i tried to jump on the tracks of the train station as i was very unwell at the time) i want to say i have felt guilty every day that i turned my back on Allah ...av just kept quiet about it until now ...unsure what to do unsure if am even sane here
 
May Allah swt bless you with good health and make it easy to spend your life as a Muslim. Ameen
 
Life is a struggle and everybody goes through their own struggles, we as Muslims are meant to pass the test in order for us to go to Jannah so please dont give up, dear sister. Hold onto your iman with all your might.

And as it is, marriage with a kafir man is not valid so thats the first point where you are getting it wrong. If you can find a muslim women's shelter then that would be better than how you are living now.

You also need to repent to Allah swt, seek guidance from Him and ask Him to always keep you on Islam. Read abundant istighfar, you really need to do that, in that way Allah swt will make a way out for you as He has promised for the one who does abundant istighfar.

Love for Allah comes first then love for creation.

I wish you well, good health and all the best.

Missed you on the forum sis, was wondering where you disappeared to :)
 
thank you for replying to me ...at the moment am hiding the fact that am on this forum ...if he finds our am here he will be very angry
Am scared the only helpline i can call that is Muslim near me is closed ...he dont seem to understand and i have to pretend am Christian at the moment
he will be very mad at me am scared he will get really mad at me

i have missed you all so much sorry i was gone for so long
 
Salam alaykum dear sister

It sounds bad that you have to be scared. Are you sure it´s that worth to continue with this man if he can´t accept that you have right to be who you like to be, not pretend something else. I understand your situation is very complicated but how long time you can really continue like this?
 
he found out he not happy at all ....shouting at me i want to leave but he has the door locked and keys where i cant get them
 
Sister, what? Does he keeps you behind the locked doors? I mean normally?
 
he does it because my mental health is so bad am scared that i go away from him i will not be able to look after myself

he locks the door and holds on to the money am not allowed any because i have bought things to hurt myself with
 
Thank you sister herb ...he seemed to calm down for now ...unsure what to do i think he might get my pastor friend to change my mind
imsad
 
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he is scared that i'll get attack because am wearing the hajab he dont want me to wear it
my husband says he got nothing against Islam he just worried about me
 
Ya Allah help this sister...give hidayah to her husband...

Asalamu Alaikum
Alhamdulillah...when reading about your problems. .it make me thing how small is mine...i am 20. and got love failure ..i thought i am only deppressed person in this world...

Sister there is a way ...do namaz without fearing them...cover atleast major awra of body...important ly treat with good manners....actually we all are being tested...sister you get high rewards i can only imagine how sad are you...but do everything for Allah...dont act like supersticial...do compulsory namas..love husband for Allah...take up the challenge Allah given you...in this world give him hopes of getting child...tell him varous hospitals provide such care...even instances where people get child late...ibrahim Pbuh got son islamael...late...he was beimg tested...do not forget it is Allah is planning everything...hospital would say its their effort...Allah gives the results...so Main part is eeman...call your husband and love him...do whats good for him...amnot by mere words...if necessary do actions ...show the beauty of righteousness...feel like you have nothing to loose in this world...other than beloved husband...
Don't speak against anything or christianity...Love jesus...tell him how mary bear jesus miraculousness... say to him God is testing us....prepare good foods for him...make him feel special....if someone speaks against you...suffer it..dont speak against...speak ...that Quran is truth...Allah is God...Muhamed pbuh is last prophet...Jesus was beloved prophet...if vicar asks.....everything you say or do...Angels records ...so your rewards in Paradise will more than me ...Even i have more deeds...Allah test you....sabr...be patient...Good things will come...if ur husband change...you got one more company... your challenge will get more tougher...life goes on...fight with patience
 
he made me go to church without wearing the hajab he thrown them all out ...the pastor and my husband says am mentally ill
that this is a symptom of my illness i dont know what to do i feel like i shouldnt be here any more
but i know ill end up in hell if i do that
 
Im ok... my husband says he going to block the site from the router this is causing conflict with my husband. We went back to church this morning and i have decided to stick with Christianity with my husband. Islam is a beautiful religion and i have alot of respect and love towards islam and its followers, i will miss you all but for my mental health and my relationship with my husband and family i am sticking with christianity. thankyou for bieng here and trying to help. May Allah bless you all
 
Sister, I believe that Allah is merciful to you as if you are forced to go to the church and go out without hijab or leave Islam or at the least forced to choose between Islam and your family/husband.

I could say that those whose resrict your right to practice Islam may mean good and care about you but at the same time they deprived right to your self-determination.

I believe we will see you again at some day. Don´t give up sister. You are in my prayers.
 
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Report what he is doing to the police. Forcibly restricting your freedom like that is illegal.
 
And report that pastor too is he uses your weak mental condition as excuse to convert you. It sounds like a brainwashing to claim that your converting to Islam is only some kind of symptom of meltal illness.

(I know it´s easy to say but difficult to do in your mental state and situation.)
 
Sister...Allah is testing...he can control your outside but not inside...You could secretly follow islam...obey your husband and fullfill his duties which doesnot contradict or against with Allah swt

Allah is the protector of believer...In a church or mosque or temple...pray to Allah...since you are following secretly.


In history there were so many instance s of people following secretly...it is what you can do..

i may cite more about it.
 
Technically you can use vpn in Android phone /pcto visit this site again

you can use proxy sites too...Dont worry Allah swt has a plan for everything

www.4everproxy.com
Type the link...you can visit any site in the world
 
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