The baby issue

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Nah I dont think you should say it like that at all! That sentence is a lovekiller seriously, can cause a huge fight as well. Thats only IB material really. ;D
No I think hes is in love with the idea of having a baby at the moment. He only thinks of the cuteness of the baby. He doesnt realise us women have to take care of it fully and be responsible for it.
Think its a huge task seriously. He wont be the one getting up at night to attend to a crying baby. Don't want to discourage you or so. They are very cute mashallah! Especially the very tiny ones:statisfie:statisfie
I would ask him to be patient.

but she should say something none-the-less...just in a kind and gentle way...

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

^^ Yeah but how do you say such a thing?? Thought about it a bit but cant come up with anything.
Think we should help her a bit with that. Can be hard seriously to tell your husband who REALLY wants children that you actually dont want to yet. Lots of emotional stuff gets mingled in the message depending on how you construct it. Therefore its wise to choose your words carefully. Any suggestions?

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

EDIT: you mean how does she tell him about the baby? i thought you meant about providing for her?

 

[Muhammad]

:wasalamex

If you desire our opinion, then know that mere human opinion is constantly open to error, and following it can lead to misguidance, conflict and misery. But if you desire to know the opinion of Allaah and His Rasool :saws:, then that is perfect and free from flaw, and following it opens doors to mercy, inner fulfilment and success. Whenever there is a conflict, let us turn to the Qur’aan and Sunnah and Judge and decide according to that, for it guides us in every matter and there is no better guidance than it.

Jazakallaahu khayran sister. The best thing for the OP would be to consult an Imam or Islamic scholar who can give the best advice based upon Islamic guidance Insha'Allaah.

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