DEAR WOMEN THIS IS THE RECEIPE THAT U LONG FOR
Ali radhiallahu `anhu related that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said, "It is part of a man's sound practice of Islam that he leave alone that which is of no concern to him." [At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah]
Ibn ‘Abbaas, radhiallahu `anhuma, said: “Achieving the following five matters is more beneficial than owning the best types of horses:
1. Not involving yourselves in conversations that do not concern you, as there is no guarantee that you would not sin therein.
2. Not talking about things that do concern you, until you find the proper time; as a person may talk about a matter that does concern them but at the wrong time and therefore produce a bad consequence.
3. Not arguing with a wise or a foolish person, as the wise person would desert you and the foolish person would humiliate you.
4. Mentioning your brother, in his absence, with things with which you would wish him to mention you with in your absence - and forgiving him for that which you would wish him to forgive you for.
5. Performing the actions of one who is certain that he would be rewarded for the good and punished for the bad that he does.”
The Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam had advised Abu Dharr, radhiallahu `anhu, saying: “Stay silent for long periods, as this keeps Satan away from you and helps you in the practice of your religion.”
He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also said: “No servants of Allah’s belief will be correct until his heart is corrected, and his heart will never be corrected until his tongue is.”
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If any of us hear gossip about one of our brothers, we are enjoined to oppose it, and correct the speaker- gently, politely, and with wisdom. This is in accordance with the various ways of changing a bad deed which were described by the Messenger of Allah (SAAS) 1, which we should try to do to the best of our ability. The least of these is opposing the wrong deed in our hearts, which in this case should make us leave the gathering where the gossip is taking place.
Let us think about the words of Allah (SWT):
"When you see men engaged in vain discourse about Our Signs, turn away from them unless they turn to a different theme. If Satan ever makes you forget, then after recollection, do not sit in the company of those who do wrong." [al-An'am 6:68]
Let those who relish gossip beware! The Messenger of Allah (SAAS) ordered those who hear gossip to reject it, but they are accepting it with pleasure! Woe to you! Are you not thinking about where you will end up? It is as if you think you were created only for fooling about and committing sins! For your Lord's sake tell me: are you Muslims?!
Footnotes:
1.The Hadith reads: "Whoever of you sees an evil deed should change it with his hand [by acting], or if he cannot do that, then with his tongue [by speaking out], or if he cannot do that, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of faith." Reported byMuslim (Kitab al-lman, No. 49).
Ali radhiallahu `anhu related that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said, "It is part of a man's sound practice of Islam that he leave alone that which is of no concern to him." [At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah]
Ibn ‘Abbaas, radhiallahu `anhuma, said: “Achieving the following five matters is more beneficial than owning the best types of horses:
1. Not involving yourselves in conversations that do not concern you, as there is no guarantee that you would not sin therein.
2. Not talking about things that do concern you, until you find the proper time; as a person may talk about a matter that does concern them but at the wrong time and therefore produce a bad consequence.
3. Not arguing with a wise or a foolish person, as the wise person would desert you and the foolish person would humiliate you.
4. Mentioning your brother, in his absence, with things with which you would wish him to mention you with in your absence - and forgiving him for that which you would wish him to forgive you for.
5. Performing the actions of one who is certain that he would be rewarded for the good and punished for the bad that he does.”
The Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam had advised Abu Dharr, radhiallahu `anhu, saying: “Stay silent for long periods, as this keeps Satan away from you and helps you in the practice of your religion.”
He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also said: “No servants of Allah’s belief will be correct until his heart is corrected, and his heart will never be corrected until his tongue is.”
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If any of us hear gossip about one of our brothers, we are enjoined to oppose it, and correct the speaker- gently, politely, and with wisdom. This is in accordance with the various ways of changing a bad deed which were described by the Messenger of Allah (SAAS) 1, which we should try to do to the best of our ability. The least of these is opposing the wrong deed in our hearts, which in this case should make us leave the gathering where the gossip is taking place.
Let us think about the words of Allah (SWT):
"When you see men engaged in vain discourse about Our Signs, turn away from them unless they turn to a different theme. If Satan ever makes you forget, then after recollection, do not sit in the company of those who do wrong." [al-An'am 6:68]
Let those who relish gossip beware! The Messenger of Allah (SAAS) ordered those who hear gossip to reject it, but they are accepting it with pleasure! Woe to you! Are you not thinking about where you will end up? It is as if you think you were created only for fooling about and committing sins! For your Lord's sake tell me: are you Muslims?!
Footnotes:
1.The Hadith reads: "Whoever of you sees an evil deed should change it with his hand [by acting], or if he cannot do that, then with his tongue [by speaking out], or if he cannot do that, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of faith." Reported byMuslim (Kitab al-lman, No. 49).
