Just tAking a cursory read of those advices and i have to say, that from which I read were all rubbish, they never listed any reference to any hadeeth in which the Prophet (alayhi salam) encouraged or advised his ummah to do any of those things. Our religion is based on what Allah says and His Messenger (alayhi salam) says. and as far as the trickery goes reciting upon things and blowing on beverages and giving them to your spouse is borderline sihr (magic) I mean imagine asking your spouse for a glass of water and she goes to the kitchen and you catch her in the act of doing that,what would you do? What would you say to her? Why not just be kind to her/or him? Why not tell her or him how beautiful or handsome they are? Why not tell them that you feel extremely blessed that Allah blessed you with them as your spouse? Why not bestow gifts upon them? Why not sit next to them focused totally upon them, maintaining eye contact,valuing their opinion and sharing with them? Why not give them a glass of milk and have them drink from it and then you also take a drink from it from the same place they placed their lips? That's the way that the Prophet (alayhi salam) used to do with ummul mu'mineen Aa'isha (radhia Allahu anhaa) This religion of islaam is complete and perfect there is no need to add anything from it. Muhammad (alayhi salam) is our qudwah (example) and he (alayhi salam) was the best to his wives. Treat them right,pay attention to them. Be kind to them, honor them,cherish them,be for lack of better words (romantic) affectionate,eager to please there isn't a human alive who wouldn't desire that kind of treatment. You dont need to recite over a beverage to get someone to love you. Tell them that you love them, and you want them to accompany you in paradise. Read a book on Islam together whilst sitting next to one another,discuss the benefits and virtues of the book, read a book about Jannah and discuss the felicities of it and all its amenities of it and that you want that for them and you. "Laa Yu'minu ahadukum hattaa yuhibbu li akheehi maa yuhibbu Li nafsihi" " none of you truly believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself" read a book about the jahanam (the hellfire) whilst sitting next to your spouse, weep over the horrific nature and punishments of the hellfire, reflect on the food and drinks and clothing of the people of the hellfire,and the enormity of the hellfire and seek refuge in Allah from it together,when the hearts become soft with the rememberance of Allah your spouse will always hold a special place for you in their heart. And lastly lead them (for the men) in tahajjud get up with them towards the last third of the night and pray together,recite beautifully for Allah's sake and also so that your recitation affects their heart. This deen is beautiful ikhwaan share with your spouses work actively together to achieve jannah. She will love you and you will love her.
